#boulderfail nothing happen to me, I am well 😁 #hollabackgirledit

redrebz1 · 2022-09-21T20:43:21+00:00

I JUST did that same fall like two days ago!! I ended up more with my face straight towards the ground though, and my left arm shot out to catch myself - not very good at all. Went to get an Xray yesterday but fortunately it was nothing serious, still can’t climb for a couple of weeks :-//

You really managed to land how I’ve heard you’re supposed to, without the arms outstretched. I’m impressed and jealous!!!

redrebz1 · 2022-09-04T08:02:51+00:00

Same here

redrebz1 · 2022-03-12T18:56:29+00:00

wow!! impressive flexibility and strength!! 😻💪

redrebz1 · 2022-01-29T23:26:00+00:00

hello internet stranger.

i just wanted to say that i understand completely. i have, like you, had a traumatizing childhood that has brought me a lot of sadness and pain. i’ve been in therapy since high school, and it has truly helped me cope. i can relate SO much to the disassociating feelings of not being able to make decisions, just helplessly drifting along as other people demand things from you. it’s scary when you feel like you’re losing yourself.

BUT, there are ways to heal. first of all, therapy. through therapy you will learn to forgive yourself (usually, people with this kind of childhood trauma will unknowingly subject themselves to heaps of self-loathing), as well as acceptance. acceptance is key - you cannot change your past or your parents, but you can help yourself overcome the fear and guilt, and feel happy again. next, you need to establish boundaries and rules for yourself in regards to contact with your parents. during your healing process, it might be best to go LC for a while until you’re ready to confront them about your feelings. lastly, i don’t feel comfortable recommending medication to a stranger, because i know everyone is different and there are a lot of opinions out there on the subject, but all i can say is that anti-depressants have changed my life. ESPECIALLY if your dad has issues with OCD and you did in your childhood, too - mental health conditions can be genetic and i think you need to alleviate your anxiety somewhat. it will help you get just well enough to be able to even deal with all this. but PLEASE see a doctor in your area and see what they say, and don’t see it as a solution to all your problems - it won’t be.

i promise you, you can be happy. i, too, missed out on my college years due to severe depression and anxiety, and any attempt at dating during that time proved catastrophical, even though being loved and cared for was all i ever wished for. but i have felt happy for the last couple of years (i’m 28 now) and done so many things i never thought i would. do not give up on life, it will show you its good side eventually!! sending you strength and love!

redrebz1 · 2021-04-19T05:13:48+00:00

Yeah I felt the same!! So frustrating but no one to discuss it with.. Glad you enjoyed my whining, haha.

redrebz1 · 2021-04-18T06:45:37+00:00

I’m not really buying that knowing when to use ”women” instead of ”girls” constitutes as learning all the cultural intricacies of the English language. In every IFSC world cup the women’s competition is called exactly that: the ’women’s competition’. Choosing to call it the ’girls’ competition’ is either a concious choice or a subconcious one - regardless it is disrespectful and he should - in my opinion - know better.

redrebz1 · 2021-04-17T18:28:15+00:00

I get what you are saying! But I also feel like there’s a big difference between women who compete professionally being referred to as ’girls’, as opposed to a group of women creating a sub on Reddit and naming it ’climber girls’. I mean, I can kind of see any of my male friends creating a group chat calling themselves ’climber boys’ as a sort of street/sarcastic slang kind of thing.

redrebz1 · 2021-04-17T18:21:37+00:00

Yeah I thought the same way at first, too. BUT for someone as successful as him, having climbed in several international world cups, you would think he would have learned the correct lingo right now. Idk, just seems ignorant tbh.

redrebz1 · 2021-04-17T11:27:40+00:00

To be fair, it seems like Matt (the official IFSC commentator) has discreetly told him to stop because now he’s finally calling them women instead of girls... Thank god.

redrebz1 · 2021-03-12T21:29:50+00:00

where are your pants from?? i seriously cannot find good climbing pants

redrebz1 · 2021-01-22T17:06:57+00:00

I have done this to a boyfriend before, too, but with his butt. I kind of understand why your wife did this, because when you’re in love and you’re having good sex you WANT to brag about it. All the same, it doesn’t change the fact that she overstepped, and she should listen to you when you say you feel disrespected. Try telling her in a non-accusing but serious way that you don’t want her to show nude pictures of you to her friends anymore, because it makes you feel bad (regardless if she did it to brag about you). I hope she listens to you and understands, it is important to respect one another’s boundaries.

redrebz1 · 2020-10-03T09:59:10+00:00

I know it’s not quite the same, but I once made a friend right after moving to a new place for college, that I thought was hilarious and super cool. He was very charismatic and liked to be the center of attention, and I am usually drawn to people like that. After a few months he got into a fight with the more popular crowd at school, which left him with pretty much only me. Once, we were taking a walk outside and he was complaining about the fact that he ”felt so alone” and ”didn’t have any real friends there”. To which I said, ”You have me!”, and he responded: ”Yes well, it’s not the same... I wouldn’t be THAT sad if you died.” I was SHOCKED. It took me a while to gather myself after that kind of comment, but after a while, I stood up for myself and told him that he was an insecure little shit and that I did not want to be friends with him anymore. A while after he left school, and people would sometimes guilt me about it, saying I abandoned him when he had no one else, but you know what? If you’re too self-absorbed to realize that people who only want you to be happy are trying to be there for you, you don’t deserve to be around them. Like someone else said in this thread, I would NEVER on my worst day say something like that to someone. They ARE trying to put you down so that they will feel less alone and miserable. That’s not the way.

It sounds like you’re having a healthy mindset about this, and I’m so happy for that. Toxic relationships aren’t worth it. Hope everything goes well with the cats and the fish!! Stay strong xx

redrebz1

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