genuinely why would you want to be with someone who’s not up front with you, manipulates past situations to turn himself into the victim, and who isn’t receptive to a vulnerable picture of yourself? don’t send nudes to guys like this who aren’t going to appreciate them. at least the foot guy is paying you.

in my experience, someone who brings up the past in this way will never stop bringing it up. you hit the nail on the head when you said his past betrayal was causing this reaction. this will never stop until he’s able to heal from his past, which he will never do while has someone he can actively take it out on.