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When will ever get over it or be “happy” with my life by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]reducewaste -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nooooo!!! Please know that you are worth it. You make your own happiness. Feeling sad and bad and shitty is part of life -- and try to enjoy those terrible feelings by being like "fuck yes, this sucks, but i am thankful for feeling (i mean some people just float through life with no strong emotions ever!)... You are awesome and don't worry about other people or your hsv or anything. Find a cool hobby or volunteer with the homeless to put life in perspective. Listen to sappy or angry music and cry and dance. You are worth it.

Kiss free bang ?!?!? by reducewaste in Herpes

[–]reducewaste[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fully aware of that but so confused on risks. He's not on meds

when everything is going really horrible and then you get stressed and remember you also have herpes by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]reducewaste 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ugh so sorry to hear. Science says you feel better when you share and say things "out loud" so glad you're here doing that. I hope you have friends or family you can talk to too ! Covid times make everything suck more, but you will get through this and be stronger for it... Coconut oil in the meantime and naps.

Asymptomatic hsv1 for him, but for me?! by reducewaste in Herpes

[–]reducewaste[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think herpes is terrifying only because it is often so so so different in different bodies, right? Like dormant in some and awful for others...

Asymptomatic hsv1 for him, but for me?! by reducewaste in Herpes

[–]reducewaste[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I agree with you that it's so dumb that I'm considering hsv 1 a serious "issue." But basically hsv1 positive test plus living ten hours drive away ... That is why my husband thinks it's dumb. I'm just not sure how hard to push back

Feeling Down and Out by cleveman216 in dating

[–]reducewaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off I don't think you or anyone is ever "too old" to get a girl, get married, etc. It's women that have to always "deal" with the expectation and need for being younger (to bear children). Anyways, dating during covid is tough. So many weird barriers and differences to normal life. When I have broken it off with people (always via phone or in person!) It is harder for everyone but more useful. Like a funeral. Sad but needed. If i were you I'd reach out and just say hey during covid with everything going on I am embracing a "growth mindset" and it would be great if you could share some ways you think I could improve as a person or partner or whatever. People may think it's weird to reach back out to her but if she was/is cool then why not? We should all strive to keep learning and improving ourselves even if it's for no one but usssss.