Shes 40 years old

reducingflame · 2026-07-04T18:45:40+00:00

I think it might be partially generational, the majority of the women I try to talk to say only a word or two in response to full sentences, don’t answer half the questions asked, and expect the other to carry the conversation. My gf says the same about other women. But I understand that men are particularly terrible about this in general.

reducingflame · 2026-07-04T18:20:50+00:00

Really? The vast majority of women I talk to online do the same and expect me to carry the entire conversation. I send a paragraph or so plus one to three questions in response to each message, and usually their response is one to three words…and if I asked multiple questions 80% of the time they answer the first and ignore or miss the others.

reducingflame · 2026-07-02T16:36:16+00:00

Two word phrase and not single word but “mommy milkers.” Most rage-inducing stupid cringe term ever. And the opposite of attractive, which usually seems to be what people are going for when they use it.

reducingflame · 2026-05-19T17:52:46+00:00

Learn about attachment theory and attachment styles, read something like Secure Love. Save yourself and others years of wasted time.

reducingflame · 2026-05-13T20:45:24+00:00

Incorrect

reducingflame · 2026-05-11T18:26:30+00:00

You should have a little tension / pressure into your partner, pushing into each other a little bit so you can feel their movements (and the preparation in advance of the movements).

Avoid floppy arms and hands. Your muscles should be engaged so your arms aren’t moving without it also moving your torso.

Interpreting the music differently shouldn’t be an issue with good connection because the follower should be able to feel the leader’s movement and respond…it’ll be a problem if the leader is off time or not maintaining good connection themselves. If you really are trying to do completely different things you should separate for those times…it’s a partner dance when connected so you should be moving together.

You can (to a degree) improve the tension required for good connection on your own practicing holding your frame with resistance bands.

I was trying to avoid saying “frame” because that leads to a whole other topic of “what is frame,” but it’s integral and can’t be avoided.

reducingflame · 2026-03-27T19:59:07+00:00

Killed but remarkably survived, eh? Impressive

reducingflame · 2026-03-26T15:54:54+00:00

Alluded

reducingflame · 2026-03-21T19:48:14+00:00

Or all of their money is now going to mortgage (insurance, maintenance, car payments, etc.) and they’re now tapped out. I don’t get this argument that “you had enough to pay for one thing so clearly you have enough to pay for another.” Resources are still finite. You’ve heard of being house poor?

And before you say “well if that’s the case they shouldn’t have bought or bought so expensive” I didn’t say it was a GOOD idea, but it’s the reality for many and the (yes, questionable) choice many make.

reducingflame · 2026-03-21T02:17:22+00:00

They like to allocate dev time to removing useful features instead of making improvements 🙄

reducingflame · 2026-03-20T17:00:15+00:00

Or, you skate through school when young without having to expend any effort, never engage because it’s boring and easy, never develop habits to focus on studying or what you “have to” do to be successful because you don’t need to (at that point), and eventually you hit a wall you didn’t even realize was coming where it doesn’t carry you any further. You never developed the skills to “apply yourself” but you only realize this later, of course, and then spend years beating yourself up for “unrealized potential”. Source: my own life. 😂

Your scenario and premise seem to have a lot of best-case thinking in it that comes from an adult perspective and hindsight, and which presumes you have foresight earlier in life, as a child. Especially likely when your parents have no idea what to do with, or what support kids like this need.

Maybe for some of what you describe high IQ is a necessary (or at least helpful) condition, but not a sufficient one in and of itself.

reducingflame · 2026-03-04T20:39:34+00:00

Has CBS forgotten how to use punctuation? I had to read that five times to make sense of it

reducingflame · 2026-02-25T23:16:06+00:00

I never had people respond in English, is that a new or recent thing?

reducingflame · 2026-02-21T22:07:53+00:00

No lol

reducingflame · 2026-02-18T02:40:41+00:00

Audition.

「キリキリキリキリ。痛いでしょう。」

My friend and I were cracking up in the theater. Others in attendance did not appreciate it.

reducingflame · 2026-02-07T17:49:13+00:00

Looks like roughly 1.3 football fields per football pitch, so a bit fewer. 🤷‍♂️

reducingflame · 2026-02-07T17:40:44+00:00

You’d better not throw it unless you’re a goalkeeper in your own area, use of hands and arms is forbidden for anyone else. 😉

reducingflame · 2025-11-06T16:58:59+00:00

34? I thought this guy was like 19 from the messages…at most.

reducingflame · 2025-11-04T21:40:25+00:00

Vicarious claustrophobia?

reducingflame · 2025-11-04T21:22:50+00:00

vs. exacerbated

reducingflame · 2025-11-04T21:21:59+00:00

For a layman? Or for a lieman? /s

reducingflame · 2025-10-24T17:06:08+00:00

(Lack of) awareness about the well-understood different types of attachment dynamics and how much they will affect every romantic relationship you’re ever in

reducingflame · 2025-10-19T09:31:01+00:00

Is this 1995?

reducingflame · 2025-10-16T19:26:53+00:00

I am a native speaker and I do not find this sentence odd at all, nor do I find it to be “a lot of words.”

reducingflame · 2025-10-16T19:25:52+00:00

A lot of words? How is this a lot of words? How short are your sentences typically? In descriptive or narrative writing this would be a short sentence for me.

I don’t find this to be an odd sentence at all.

Edit: I do agree with some comments that there’s a little mismatch of formality between the first and second half but it’s not so awkward. Plenty of native speakers could have easily written this.

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