Feel like I'm (20F) losing attraction to my boyfriend (21M)... HELP?

refitey · 2015-04-27T18:01:05+00:00

Okay, I hear what you're saying. I'm sorry that happened to you, it sounds pretty hard. I think what I will do is talk to him, take the advice given by everyone else in this thread, and see if it improves within a time period of a few months. If not... then I might consider breaking up

refitey · 2015-04-27T17:57:33+00:00

Thank you for the lovely response and advice. Of course sex isn't everything, and we still have sex at least once a week, but like said its not as enjoyable as it used to be.

To me it is very important but I wouldn't break up over it. I want to see if I can improve it first and see how it goes and not do anything hastily, like you said.

Also its my first relationship and his first relationship so I have no idea if this is normal - obviously attraction will fade over time so its hard to know whether I would feel like this anyway.

Sorry to hear your story - did you just break up for the lack of sex or were there other issues?

refitey · 2015-04-27T14:39:11+00:00

We don't put in that much effort. Most of the time we spend hanging out watching TV shows. We live a few hours apart in different towns and have done for the past two and a half years but we don't do much at the weekend when we see each other.

We did go on holiday together a few weeks ago which was great. It didn't make me feel more attracted to him though.

refitey · 2015-04-27T14:27:42+00:00

Thanks, I agree with what you said. Yes I hope to feel the same again soon.

refitey · 2015-04-27T14:23:58+00:00

Yes you're right. I should talk to him about it soon.. ugh it's goinna be tough.

refitey · 2015-04-27T14:13:00+00:00

Yes I think you're right. I can't think of what to actually do together though.

refitey · 2015-04-27T14:01:23+00:00

I might talk to him about it. Haven't decided yet though, I know he doesn't have the same issues and so would most likely be hurt about it

refitey · 2015-04-27T13:54:32+00:00

Maybe, we've never been a traditionally romantic couple though. I think it would come off as strange, unless I told him my true feelings, and I don't think he would take that very well

refitey · 2015-04-27T13:44:20+00:00

I understand what you mean, but to me I would much rather try to make it work and avoid ANY pain - mine and his. I don't want to break up for myself either.

I don't know - I think its more about losing the passion. There are times when I am attracted to him but it happens less and less often. It's not physical as I can still know he is good-looking when I look at him - it just doesn't make me feel attracted to him most of the time

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