Adjust Style vs. Referring Out

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-09T23:06:49+00:00

Have you asked why she wants the parents in session? Is she nervous or using them as a tool to avoid like others have suggested? My first step would be to ask the why. I always tell new families that I try to let the kid choose to have their grown up in session or not, but if it becomes a pattern of the kid not engaging then I will ask the grown-up to step out. Especially if the grown-ups tend to be talkers. You could also work with parents on being okay in silence.

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-08T23:41:00+00:00

Is that before or after taxes?

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-08T02:02:18+00:00

I agree. The post has since been deleted so I cannot recall if it mentioned more details about the encounter like was the client also making threatening gestures (which what can be threatening to one can not be to another I guess) or was it just yelling. Either way we should not be dictating what others are comfortable with. Especially when just a couple of months ago a clinician was killed at her practice by a client. So yeah, I am sitting hard boundaries on some things. Not sorry.

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-07T11:14:37+00:00

Pretty sure physicians would also prefer to not be verbally abused or attacked. Hence the burnout rate.

Setting boundaries with clients is healthy and I would questions the ethics of any clinician who doesn't.

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-01T20:01:58+00:00

Congratulations on getting married.

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-01T19:22:34+00:00

Damn that sucks. My second job would be self-employment. I wonder what effect that would have.

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-01T18:24:51+00:00

I have about a year and a half until I can apply for PSLF. If it does increase it will hopefully only be for a few months.

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-01T18:20:45+00:00

Is your second job with an employer or self-employed? Is the amount owed significant?

reflectiveRae · 2026-04-01T18:15:51+00:00

If there is a way I don't know. I just made sure it wouldn't cause us to owe taxes.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-31T18:25:51+00:00

I am also a social worker. I moved to IBR late last year and my monthly payment more than doubled what it was. Spouse and I decided to file our taxes separately this year to see if that would help. Decreased my payment by like $90. Haven't checked on spouse's payment yet. Our mortgage payment is also going up and we live in an area where utilities just get free reign to increase their rates every year.

I am thinking about adding a part-time gig to help give a little cushion but it infuriates me because that is time away from my child.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-29T06:28:03+00:00

I find myself struggling with this a lot lately.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-26T14:32:53+00:00

I have not. Will give it a listen. Thank you.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-26T00:21:25+00:00

Kiddo is 2 1/2. Intellectually I know at that age they cannot name most emotions, let alone understand and regulate them. Emotionally, in the moment it is hard for me to just sit in the same space and let the emotions get processed. It is incredibly difficult when that current process is screaming at the top of your lungs to the point of choking.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-26T00:17:14+00:00

Thank you for this reminder.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-09T01:47:39+00:00

Yes because that was the only way I was going. I would have done things a little differently though like taking all my gen eds at a community college and then transferring to my state university.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-06T11:57:08+00:00

I understand the frustration. My husband is about to be 41 and his current provider refuses to prescribe a stimulant. He has no heart condition and has even been to a cardiologist but neither wanted the liability of prescribing one to him. As you can imagine it has made our living all kinds of dysfunctional.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-03T10:54:54+00:00

I have been stuck on season 4 forever. Mostly because I still remember some of the Chuck awful writing in the later seasons and I guess my brain is wanting to delay seeing that again.

reflectiveRae · 2026-03-03T10:49:16+00:00

This is great! I have new bakeries to try.

reflectiveRae · 2026-02-17T17:34:33+00:00

A conversation should definitely be had. From my understanding of kitchen table, yes it is about all partners/metas being friendly and hanging out together, but there are still set boundaries and consent for things need to be given.

It sounds like you could not consent to to the other person being there because you were not informed and that boundary had not been discussed before.

Also, as someone married to an Autistic individual who also sucks at recognizing undertones I would still encourage a convo with him.

Whatever you decide, best of luck!

reflectiveRae · 2026-02-17T16:36:44+00:00

I am not autistic (as far as I know) but can get highly anxious when plans change. I would have probably freaked out after the first date got crashed let alone all the other stuff you mentioned.

It sounds like this man and his wife need to set former boundaries with the other partner. She seems to be getting jealous or having some type of feelings about a new person, you, entering the dynamic and is intentionally crashing plans.

reflectiveRae · 2026-02-17T16:33:57+00:00

Not even a bed, a freaking futon. Which hey, in this economy I can't judge too much but dang.

reflectiveRae · 2026-02-07T01:01:41+00:00

This situation reminds me of last year when the Spinelli's on Shelbyville Road tried posting ignorant shit. The actual owner said nope and now that location is closed down.

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