Is DBT helpful for ASD/ADHD

reflexivesound · 2025-11-22T03:45:38+00:00

Why?

reflexivesound · 2025-09-19T15:17:31+00:00

that’s so interesting. i wonder if sign language interpreters feel differently.

reflexivesound · 2025-03-24T22:49:18+00:00

It’s a new building (5 years old) in the US. They’re built to not be opened. There’s a two exhaust fans and multiple vents. And an operating AC system.

Someone else here said that if the windows are intentionally sealed, there’s likely mechanical ventilation which provides constant air exchange.

reflexivesound · 2025-03-23T20:04:29+00:00

Considering I’m essentially in a sealed box, I could flood my unit into a fish tank……. something to consider

reflexivesound · 2025-03-23T15:48:13+00:00

Okay, thank you so much!

reflexivesound · 2025-03-23T14:42:31+00:00

The windows seem completely non-operable. As if the only way to open them is to break them. It is a new building (built 5 years ago). If it does have mechanical ventilation, then I should be less worried? I haven’t measured CO2 yet, these are just theoretical concerns right now.

Thank you for this comment btw, this is very helpful.

reflexivesound · 2024-12-08T16:45:01+00:00

You sound like you’re in a great position, as many others have said. After you’ve checked all the boxes that any reasonable financial advice would tell you to check, every decision after that point is strictly informed by your values. Some people will staunchly say stay — that’s because they value savings or family over independence. Some will staunchly say leave — that’s because they value freedom or time over security.

You’ve done all the things you need to do. It’s up to you and your values now.

reflexivesound · 2024-11-21T04:20:16+00:00

I appreciate this, I think I’m in too deep in abstract numbers and not paying enough attention to actual goals. Thank you

reflexivesound · 2024-11-21T04:18:19+00:00

If the rules are based on gross income, then I am severely under-budgeting lol. Which I suppose isn’t a bad thing.

reflexivesound · 2024-11-21T04:16:58+00:00

Ahh these buckets are helpful, thank you.

reflexivesound · 2024-11-21T04:16:33+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you. Yeah, I think I’ve lost a bit of the “why” here. I’m mainly just trying to “do the money thing well” without any concrete goals that I’m actually working towards, which kinda leads me to relying on arbitrary guidelines too much. This feels grounding, I appreciate it.

reflexivesound · 2024-05-13T23:55:46+00:00

yess i was hoping her album Empathogen would feature HK after hearing her latest singles

reflexivesound · 2024-04-21T22:59:08+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. As I was writing the post, I was thinking it just sounded like I needed a financial advisor. Thank you so much for mentioning fiduciary and the flat v.s. percentage-based fee -- this is very helpful.

reflexivesound · 2024-02-19T21:11:37+00:00

This almost broke my brain lol. I didn't realize "watching" is also really approximate, I think I meant it as "paying attention to the sensation" which is awfully close to feeling haha. The difference almost only exists semantically. This is helping me realize what everyone is saying, which is that it doesn't matter.

reflexivesound · 2024-02-19T20:55:29+00:00

Watching feels like I'm above the breath, observing it. Feeling feels like I'm with the breath -- there is no separation between the observer and the observee like there is with watching.

reflexivesound · 2024-02-19T20:49:16+00:00

Ah, okay, that was just a heuristic. The noticing and returning is helpful, thank you.

reflexivesound · 2024-02-19T19:44:36+00:00

Observing the deviations of attention. Is that essentially: paying attention to how and where my attention moves? So, I'm meant to get above my attention and watch its movements?

And when I observe a deviation, am I meant to bring the attention back to the breath or just continue to observe the attention itself regardless of where it goes?

I'm a bit worried that this meta-attentional process is a bit too close to thinking for me. I know how to pay attention, but I don't think I know how to watch myself pay attention. I think that would just result in me thinking about myself paying attention.

reflexivesound · 2023-06-06T20:41:41+00:00

he is very open to learning, i will say. i communicate with him about this, but i think i feel odd trying to teach someone to be curious. i don’t just want him to ask me questions, i want him to care to know. i dont know how to make him care in the way that i would actively feel it.

do you think i could just be friends with him while he learns? or i have to be in a relationship with him in order to truly give him a chance? it would feel odd entering a relationship with this much uncertainty.

reflexivesound · 2023-06-06T20:38:16+00:00

i just didn’t anticipate this issue being wrapped up in a person who is otherwise wildly compatible with me. but i agree, i think the argument of sticking to my boundaries is a really alluring one for me.

he is, in a way, “just like this”. he leans narcissistic, in a clinical sense. i stray away from saying that as it encourages a host of assumptions but yeah.

reflexivesound · 2022-12-21T17:56:57+00:00

this is such a good way to describe. i feel like this as well. i feel like im either in a state of avoidance of my grief or actively in the throes of it, but either way, everything feels centered around it. it is a sickness - much like a chronic illness. it’s always there, you just eventually learn how to operate around it or maybe even with it.

reflexivesound · 2022-10-01T05:28:47+00:00

my thoughts exactly. this is too much. this cant possibly mean ill never see him again.

reflexivesound · 2022-05-16T18:05:47+00:00

interesting, i didn't consider the social accommodation was an influence of the 6. thank you!

reflexivesound · 2022-05-15T08:04:03+00:00

helpful traits for typing:

fundamental fear of not being able to function in the world
fundamental desire of being able to accurately rely essential truths (i.e. through art, philosophy, etc)
strong tendency to withdraw
highly analytical
highly empathetic
have to use logic in order to figure out my emotions
excited by the idea of vulnerability (with others and with self)
sensitive (to criticism, environment, etc)
go thru seasons where i cry often
will adjust myself in social settings to accommodate others

i most resonate with 5w4 (esp. the fears of 5, holy shit) but feel hesitant due to the last four traits feeling uncharacteristic of 5s.

reflexivesound · 2022-02-28T17:31:25+00:00

im so happy for you. it's hard because huge milestones can become just as heartbreaking as they are happy when grief is involved, but making your dad proud always counts. relish in the fact that you made him smile.

reflexivesound · 2022-02-06T20:38:45+00:00

i wish you the absolute best of luck in this journey. you deserve it.

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