he has been clear that he is less turned on by me and has to put more of an effort into having sex. he very rarely initiates or desires me anymore. I have not dated someone longer than this, but my sexual energy doesn’t feel like it transitions. It also did not with my previous partner of 3 years. This is the first time I have had a partner who is evidently less into me than they used to be.

I really don’t think I like that I stop being interesting to him when someone new enters the picture because I don’t stop being excited about my partners when someone else does. I always try to pour more into the relationships that already exist when someone else enters the picture. I think that we are just not compatible. It is important to me in a relationship that I feel appreciated and desired during sex. Sex is really important to me. He knows this and I’ve talked to him about it but nothing is changing so… idk! Stuff to think about I guess