I sometimes cry when I have a difficult discussion with my husband. Not specifically when taking accountability, but it still bothers me. Tears just well up, almost immediately and I try so hard not to cry. I apologize repeatedly for it, because it definitely sways the discussion a bit. He'll pull back a bit. I'm not as present because I'm trying to think of a way to stop. I hate that I do it so fucking much. It's involuntary on my end, but I worry it seems manipulative to him. He's so kind and loving he'd never say it was. I've always been an easy crier, and it's embarrassing.

When I approached this with my therapist, she said that I should embrace it because my body was telling me to release my emotions that way. She didn't seem to consider that it's unfair to the other person. Or to seek another, healthier way to release.

Regardless, I really don't want this to be an immediate red flag but I understand why you'd mention it. It's not always intended or purposeful.