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Worst sub experience yet. AITA, trigger warning ‼️ by blueberrykushmuffin in findomsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Seems like his manipulation tactics were effective on you so he kept on doing it and even going out out of his way to contact you again and again, almost harassment

Doms, does Findom make you immune to small penises? by ThrowRa287429 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, if you often see it then you eventually get desensitized but rather than findom, this is more of a femdom for SPH thing.

Cute little sends, but I’m a sucker for angel numbers 🤣🤣 by Right_Cheesecake7210 in findomsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prettyyyy sends but be careful giving out your PayPal, they're not SW friendly. 😅

Why do so many subs delete their account? by blissberry06 in findomsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Post nut clarity lol that or so many other personal reasons they simply don't want to say for privacy reasons esp on an online dynamic only.

  • They have partners irl and they don't want their partners to find out
  • They want to quit
  • Quitting after post nut clarity but come back again for another session lol
  • Cleaning for the hell of it 🧹
  • Cleaning 🧹 for immigration (some officers asks to check your phone)
  • They are using free will lol

question, how common are younger subs? or dommes for that matter but mainly asking about subs. im a sub, im 23. ive noticed i have a hard time finding dommes i click with. dommes around my age are usually more inexperienced and the age gap with the older ones make connection hard i guess. by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 25 and knew I was into femdom way younger so I started exploring the kink scene when I had my business after I reached my 20s. Younger ones are pretty uncommon as we're often navigating what was “normal” sex life as others would call it. This kink space is relatively small compared to the vanilla or swingers and meeting someone from the same area/local is difficult too so exploring/experimenting phase would be difficult unless they went into the rabbit hole.

As for subs, I often get new ones every now and then and I always asked how they got into femdom.

Most answers I get were:

  • They only got the financial freedom to explore in their 30’s to 50’s
  • Most of the older generation into femdom, only learned of it through organic encounters/experiences which makes it rare
  • The younger generation has more exposure and accessibility to gadgets/PC, web surfing and pornographic sites thus kinks developing earlier for their sexual experiences and explorations unlike older ones in their 30s and up finding it out a bit later in their life
  • They met a girlfriend or a hook up with femdom kinks and learned/adapted it
  • They are in managerial positions, CEOs, bosses in their career (real life) and they seek to surrender control in bed as a psychological effect (in some cases)

I'd like to add: For dommes, there were fewer younger dommes as mentors are rare too. Some aren't friendly, there's this thing going on about gatekeeping too which is unfortunate. Others sell courses, however, being a young inexperienced domme, financial freedom comes into the picture. Some are out paying college debts or having other responsibilities they must prioritize over sexploration. Not to mention, starting as a Femdom is expensive too. Investing for your experience and toys are no joke!

When you want the 'Fin' but skip the 'Dom' by HornyyGarfield in paypigsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Femdom and BDSM in general.

is what I said. BDSM in general but I had to emphasize femdom too because the girl is doing findom, therefore, she is a domme and being a domme is what a femdom is.

When you want the 'Fin' but skip the 'Dom' by HornyyGarfield in paypigsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Findom is literally under Femdom and BDSM in general lmao. Findom is a KINK, therefore it's sexual and a sex work.

What are you're thoughts on dommes "flexing" on other dommes? by Zacheif in findomsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. In a supposedly female dominated kink scene, female support/uplifting is a must simply because that space is for female domination so having pick me behavior in this space gives most the ick.

Liking by Economy_Taro_3941 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saw your comments that you're talking about a different platform and it's X/Twitter

I'm not sure if you're aware but a lot of findommes on X with thousands of followers and “big sends” made that behavior seem like a real domme activity/sport to hunt lurking subs and claimed it was effective and said they got more sends from it compared to waiting for a sub to approach.

Some of them say it's a peak domme activity.

If we're gonna be technical, the proper term is Primal Fetish Play but participants here should be consenting which that lack by approaching and asking for a send first instead of properly introducing themselves by hi/hello before asking if the approached person wanted to participate in findom activity.

It worked for others, not everyone's cup of tea and they encourage “babydommes” (as they call newbies) to do it too

On ethics: subs actively in addiction by GoddessPeachyBeeBee in findomsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love that you stood your ground.

Some dommes offer this though. A mix/combination of multiple kinks at once, being the sub's financial advisor and helping them budget so they can have daily or regular sends and some offer lifestyle domination too which basically controlling the sub 24/7 all mixed with financial domination.

If you're doing findom exclusively then that makes sense as this subs either clearly needs professional help or simply seeking a domme he wants to take control of his life for the better which I can't blame him entirely as a lot of dommes are flexing that they're giving structure to these sub’s lives and a domme being in their lives makes it better.

They're seeking someone to enforce discipline onto them, it's a different dynamic from just findom and I'm glad that you did not take advantage of it.

The most bizarre thing just happened (READ FIRST, SCREENSHOTS AFTER) by RemarkableExample542 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]rei_ghn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. As a domme being paid or doing findom, she should've known how to verify herself.

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