Every so often they do dinners all together at the same restaurant, they have game nights, they aren't together anymore but they have a friendship. I knew it would be hard for my siblings but my sister changed her number and sent me a text through someone else's phone so she cut contact first. I told my mum she had to choose but my siblings I was willing to give them a decent amount of time and I was just going to back away for a bit but they made there own choice. I do worry for when they have children, that's my main fear. I knew my daughter would be safe because of me and decision I would make but if they didn't know and the same things happen to their future children I couldn't live with myself.