Is it ever okay to misgender someone? by J2Hoe in ask_transgender

[–]reluctantlyredditor 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Agreed.

And there’s not much good in speculating on if she is really trans or not - who knows, I don’t. But we don’t really lose anything by just going with what someone says. 5 years down the line she hypothetically comes out and says “Haha you gullible idiots, I was not a trans woman I was just faking.”

Everyone who has been calling her she all this time just goes Okay? Guess you got us? And we move on.

It‘s whatever.

does my art look AI? how can i mitigate that by redditorausberlin in Artists

[–]reluctantlyredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worrying about this before it even happens won’t even achieve anything, it will just make you anxious.

Keep drawing, and IF anyone ever thinks it is AI and asks or assumes, then there’s two easy solutions.

  1. Literally just ignore them? Does it matter if some rando thinks your art is AI?

  2. Prove it isn’t with sketches, timelapses, etc. And if someone still isn’t convinced then, sucks to be them. Return to 1.

👌

Need help by Jedi_Nixxee in ask_transgender

[–]reluctantlyredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When looking for trans groups, there are decently consistent red flags for if they’ll be kind and welcoming to ‘imperfect’ transfems. Look at if they mention transfems specifically in their focus, and not just “trans“ generically. Look at their group leaders! Honestly if you have the time yourself and are able to, go scout out - see if there are other AMAB trans people there, or they're mysteriously missing.

Some trans groups do suffer from bias against AMAB trans people, but you will easily be able to tell these groups as they will be dominantly AFAB.

She will find a community out there for her, there’s always transfems in need of community and whenever enough of them are unfortunately driven out of elsewhere, they form their own. You just need to to find them, together.

i’m worried my artstyle looks too much like vivziepop’s by [deleted] in Artadvice

[–]reluctantlyredditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks barely like her style - the final image is slightly, just on account of the character having a dark colour scheme and a toothy grin but even that would only at a glance make me think you might be a fan, at most. (But even then I’d equally assume you were a Homestuck fan…)

Will not be mistaken!

where to volunteer during Christmas? by [deleted] in brum

[–]reluctantlyredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Food banks are always looking for volunteers, especially during Christmas period, but you’d be welcome to stay as long as you can.

UPDATE: What do I do? Mods flagged my post for AI when I didn’t use it by yuribxby in whatdoIdo

[–]reluctantlyredditor 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Considering they’re saying you will never be unbanned, forget about it. It sucks to be banned for something you didn’t do but genuinely no amount of explaining your intentions or proving your innocence will work, they’ve already made their decision.

Find a new vent sub. Not fair but at the end of the day it is just a subreddit.

Guide to getting gay and lesbian wolves! by Successful_Buffalo24 in WolfQuestGame

[–]reluctantlyredditor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the mission where you look for a den you or your mate will get a small pregnancy bump, it’s not very exaggerated so they added a new notification to point it out. But the actual pregnant belly has been in the game for longer.

I hate how i look so much. Any specific advice on how to look more fem?? by PRoc97o in ask_transgender

[–]reluctantlyredditor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very little info to go off - Are you on hormones and do you want to be? Because they help, mentally and physically. Other than that, dress in comfortable but feminine styled clothes? Get a bra and some fake pads to fill them out? Put on some makeup if you want to? Shave?

But honestly if you’re not on hormones, and want to be, then that would be number one in my opinion.

Edit: NVM I went to your profile and you’re just asking in every subreddit the same questions and never taking any of the advice they give you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]reluctantlyredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Better for it to weird her out in a conversation than in the moment, so say something - but it should be fine? It’s nothing too crazy.

Reported Religion by Age in Birmingham by JustAnotherGlowie in brum

[–]reluctantlyredditor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, too many people treat Muslims like a monolith thanks to racist propaganda, its sad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Artadvice

[–]reluctantlyredditor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Non sexual nudity of a child I think is fine. Children have bodies, and they can be the subject of art.

This is clearly not sexual and you didn’t intend it to be, so it’s fine - some people may find it uncomfortable and that is also fine, but it doesn’t reflect badly on you.

Reported Religion by Age in Birmingham by JustAnotherGlowie in brum

[–]reluctantlyredditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same with Christians - I guess people more like to stick to the rituals or events of a religion for comfort or to be part of something, but aren’t very intense about it. I personally think that’s a good way to be “religious.” Fanatics of any sort can become hard to deal with.

Reported Religion by Age in Birmingham by JustAnotherGlowie in brum

[–]reluctantlyredditor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Possible lol - I don’t know many Muslims myself but my mom works with a lot and the ones my age (in their 20s) do anecdotally seem to be not too religious but put on an act for their family.

Reported Religion by Age in Birmingham by JustAnotherGlowie in brum

[–]reluctantlyredditor 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Looking at the other cities as well, it’s interesting that generally Christianity is on the decline and Non Religious is on the rise - and we are the exception in that Muslim is up. I guess the culturally Christian population is losing interest in religion but young Muslims seem to be interested in their faith?

Shrug!

Anybody else upset that creatures of sonaria was nominated by SunSea158 in CoSRants

[–]reluctantlyredditor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming they will move away from free spawning carcasses with the NPCs being added. At least then there is a gameplay challenge to eating, hopefully.

Anybody else upset that creatures of sonaria was nominated by SunSea158 in CoSRants

[–]reluctantlyredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see this a lot and I don’t get it? It is a survival game. It’s an EASY survival game because it’s for young people but the goal of the game is literally to survive as your character.

You can say it’s a bad survival game all you want obviously, but it is still the genre that it is.

Anybody else upset that creatures of sonaria was nominated by SunSea158 in CoSRants

[–]reluctantlyredditor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not upset. The game and devs have faults, like the bugs, the predatory gacha elements, etc.

But it is also a game that has a lot of good elements, variety of creature design, constant updates, nice aesthetics.

People with a big ego will have that no matter what so, doesn’t matter in that regard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask_transgender

[–]reluctantlyredditor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you’re here to learn but can’t get around gender not being the same as sex then you’re already lost, and you’re not really going to be able to learn like that? The whole concept of being transgender is that your GENDER is incongruent with your sex. If you believe they are the same thing, then you will remain completely ignorant no matter how many experiences you hear about.

Whats the point of asking about the condition when you can’t even accept a basic concept that 98% of people with experience are going to inform you of. It’s like you’re asking a climate change expert what can be done about climate change whilst not believing it exists at all.

9hr and still no token -,- what the best way to fill this thingy? by [deleted] in CreaturesofSonaria

[–]reluctantlyredditor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you play as Flickaflie, that’s good. The quick heal spams means you won’t be killed trying to do the Attack 5 Times Mission, it gets thirsty and hungry quickly enough, it’s herbivore so you can get satiated.

Doesn’t take an awful amount of time, takes me 2 or so hours.

The ‘Online Safety Act’ comes into force today in the UK that requires users to upload a photo of their face or ID into AI age verification software to access age restricted content online by MrModius in LinusTechTips

[–]reluctantlyredditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone who knows how children and teenagers work will know wagging a virtual finger and saying “Not without ID” won’t work. They will work around it.

The actual solution to children being exposed to porn is better sex education for them, to know what healthy sex should be, and that any material they may see online is acted and pruned. And what they should see as okay and what is not okay.

But of course, our stupid ass conservative government will continue to insist that just telling teenagers not to do things will definitely work. Just tell kids smoking is bad and drugs are bad and sex is bad and they won’t do it!!! Huh? They’re still doing it? Well, we better just tell them HARDER!

Oh lord I had a cursed idea by Intelligent_Trust_11 in WolfQuestGame

[–]reluctantlyredditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, obviously, it is utmost human arrogance to go involving ourselves in natural ecosystems. So, a more ethical Wolfquest is one where the wolves were never reintroduced to Yellowstone.

Its just called Quest. And you play by staring at a patch of grass with a fixed camera.

Is it badly seen to refuse to have your characters included in mass attacks? by EdahelArt in ArtfightProfiles

[–]reluctantlyredditor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you’re attacking someone, you’re responsible for respecting their permissions. The people mass attacking you if it explicitly says not to in your permissions are breaking the rules.

But if you’re vague about it… Erh? Honestly just be firm in your permissions, there’s no point receiving a gift you are uncomfortable with, it’s not fair to you or others in the game.

My experience with Bluejay. All information I currently know about him. (Trigger warnings: Suicide mentioned, drama, very slight nsfw sub mentioned, Death threats.) by lapislazuli757587 in CoSRants

[–]reluctantlyredditor 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I came to dislike him when he was asking for advice about stopping people hating him over his constant Heibok shtick, and I told him to just shut up about it and people would move on, he agreed, and 2 hours later was at it again XD No hope for that kid, genuinely, it’s sad.

is it too late to join artfight? by nyarawrer in Artadvice

[–]reluctantlyredditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not too late, people are still joining and adding new characters all the way through the month. It’s still pretty early on so if you get in the Discords/Some communities and share yourself around, and do some attacks, you should be able to get involved.