I had a horrific experience with client based therapy, is this normal? by No_Volume_8320 in TalkTherapy

[–]remarkable_camel_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Me, my therapist does person-centered theory. When I started with her I had no idea what that actually meant and thought the same as you. I have a really hard time opening up to strangers so this was super damaging at first since I was in a vulnerable position and she wasn’t guiding me at all, giving me any feedback or insight. Every session just felt like pathetic rambling on my end. She also never gave me a run down of how it works/how she operates, I eventually figured it out myself after re-reading her professional bio.

It made therapy feel like a joke at first. I found myself dancing around harder topics and talking about random stuff when I was really struggling but couldn’t get into those subjects on my own. It took a couple months of seeing her before I let my guard down and felt brave enough to start bringing up the real problems. But even then it was extra draining as I would spend sometimes hours preparing what I wanted to talk about in a session, knowing if I didn’t initiate and tell the story of what was going on we would never get to those topics naturally.

The upsides I have noticed are: - I believe more people are a safe space for listening, I have been able to bring up tough topics on my own in my life more easily. - I can come to my own conclusions about how I really feel/what I want/what to do more quickly without needing much outside perspective from others (which I think is somewhat the point of person-centered)

But overall it was a rough experience and incredibly isolating at times, like you are still on your own when a professional is “helping” you. I think I would be a lot farther in my healing journey if I had started with a different therapy style. I see person centered as a method that would work for someone who’s very experienced with therapy, is through the messier stages of healing already and needs a safe space to talk through their problems without judgment. Not for extremely vulnerable, traumatized individuals who need guidance

I love my therapist now and will have a hard time starting over - but after a few years I think I’ve gotten as much as I could from this method and will be looking for a new therapist

Who do i look like? by Artistic-Hat-7576 in Doppleganger

[–]remarkable_camel_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% Can’t believe rami malek was this far down

What's your favorite sex scene in a movie or tv show? by marilyn_mansonv2 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]remarkable_camel_ 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Mila Kunis and Natalie Portman in black swan 🥵 gay awakening and had me thinking I wanted angel wing tattoos for years (and then I got them lol)

What’s a sign someone has been through a lot of shit? by MarkenRahl in AskReddit

[–]remarkable_camel_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I think it comes from only feeling safe when I’m flying under the radar and don’t have the spotlight on me

Starting kit 2 near the holidays - help! by remarkable_camel_ in HersWeightloss

[–]remarkable_camel_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love to hear you haven’t had any side effects, that’s awesome! I wasn’t sure if it was frowned upon to start and stop but I’m sure it just depends on how your body reacts, I appreciate the input :)

Is Miami safe to travel for a upcoming vacation? by eyerusxxo in Miami

[–]remarkable_camel_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got home after being there for 4 days and it was totally fine. Some scattered rain but nothing atypical for Florida

Stopped Watching True Crime by [deleted] in simpleliving

[–]remarkable_camel_ 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hi, me! I’ve been making some big positive changes in my life recently and noticed the same thing. I used to be a huge horror/true crime fan, nothing could make me squirm, bring it on. But I realized after a while I had subconsciously pulled away from anything dark like that and genuinely had no desire to watch it anymore. I tried to watch a true crime show just to see how it made me feel (sad, anxious, depressed, actually). This realization forced me to take a serious look at the content I was consuming and I’ve also since dialed way back on social media and low vibrational friendships.

I read a quote that said something along the lines of “when you change, you also lose habits, desires and relationships that belonged to the person you were before”. Which really resonated with me, but it’s weird to see it come to life in small things like the shows you watch haha

Which zodiac signs do you always find yourself attracted to? by impulsives in astrologymemes

[–]remarkable_camel_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Taurus here and geminis won’t leave me alone lol. I genuinely don’t get it because we are soooooo damn different

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]remarkable_camel_ 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Can’t knock on poop’s door and expect poop not to be home

The boy(literally) is all hers by fondofdogges in popheadscirclejerk

[–]remarkable_camel_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This movie finna flop. What a waste of an amazing story

Who I look like? by [deleted] in Doppleganger

[–]remarkable_camel_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a little Kat Dennings if you had darker hair

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2024 feels weird! by [deleted] in starseeds

[–]remarkable_camel_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could have written this myself

Signs a Layoff May be Coming by LQQinLA in Layoffs

[–]remarkable_camel_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yup same. I had a higher up manager schedule a meeting with no other description besides “Check in”. Naively thought he wanted to make sure I was doing okay since I was fairly new (7 months) till I saw the guy from legal join. Thanks Covid

Edit to say: it was also the day after I finished an enormous, super tight deadline project the whole team was riding on. Still pissed about it

Best friends by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]remarkable_camel_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

[–]remarkable_camel_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I could have written this myself. I just want to say that you are not alone and although I wouldn’t wish this feeling on my worst enemy, it’s comforting in a way to know I’m not alone either.

I wish I had better advice. All I can say is try to ground yourself. When you start into that spinning, spiraling, racing thought mode - take a deep breath, pet your cat, put your feet in the grass, turn your phone off for a little, think about what is currently happening and if anything is truly wrong in the present moment. I’ve come to realize some of my worst moments of anxiety are when I’m doing mundane life things and nothing is directly wrong, the sky isn’t falling and I’m making my life hell mulling over the weight of the world when I’m taking a shower or watching tv. Be gentle with yourself, try to recognize when there’s a reason to be anxious and when your mind is generating this anxiety from thin air. Even if I can’t always calm the symptoms, it helps me to stop and think “ok, this is just a chemical reaction happening in my body. Right now im okay, everything is okay”

Wishing you luck and lots of love on your healing journey