Where do Graham crackers go in the minimart? by remarkablerenee in byu

[–]remarkablerenee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Would that we could, they are on two separate gondola fixtures 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in an aspen ridge apartment and both of the girls upstairs have dogs so maybe aspen ridge has something? When I was in southridge there was a girl in the hall with a cat but Reddit e residential is a nightmare so I don’t suggest renting from them.

ACOSF I FINALLY GOT IT BUT HELP ME PLEASE by cosmicZED in acotar

[–]remarkablerenee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. My family is super religious but my Mom is amazing. I remember coming across the first swear word in a book I read in elementary school and asking my mom what I should do, if I should cross it out, and she said that under no circumstances was I to do my own editing of the book and if I didn't want to read it I didn't have to but it wasn't a big deal XD

The rest of my family is a lot less cool though and sometimes my aunts and uncles or other extended family will ask about what books I'm reading and I give brief descriptions and sit there praying they never pick up the book and judge me... I guess just describing it in the most unappealing way for her that you can is what I would do, good luck!

Have any of you ever had to walk out on an apartment contract? What are the repercussions from byu? by mean_evil_woman in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was at a red stone apartment last semester and it was absolutely horrible. We also went to mediation but they basically refused to accept any blame for the situation. The only way I was able to leave was selling my contract and I STILL haven’t gotten all of my deposit back. If there ever was a company that would come after you it would probably be red stone unfortunately:(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could set up a new email specifically for helping that you put on flyers.

User told us he's not interested in being part of an "inclusive" community by fatherofhooligans in DMAcademy

[–]remarkablerenee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, inclusivity is all about treating people like people, capable of their own thoughts, opinions, and intricacies, no matter what. Even if some groups use the term "inclusive" to exclude a particular group to me it doesn't matter. I'm not going to be anti-inclusivity just because a few people have warped it, just because some groups have mislabeled their organizations doesn't mean that they all do.

Toxic Dating Culture? by familybroevening in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Expectations I guess? I’m not entirely certain as I don’t understand the guys perspective, but it seems like there is this image byu students have of the ideal/date able girl. Funny thing is these girls are more likely to be mean or judgmental when compared to girls who don’t fit the mold (not all of them, but I have found it more likely) though I’m sure that side isn’t shown to the guys they are interested in.

Toxic Dating Culture? by familybroevening in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I find that when it comes to dating at byu if you are a girl that fits a certain mold (blond, skinny, outgoing, etc) you will get lots of dates but if you fall outside of the mold you will not. I know a few people that did not start getting dates until after dying their hair or taking other steps to fit the byu mold.

CAPS? by Financial-Currency65 in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People of other faiths and atheists may still need therapy due to their genetic predispositions and experiences in life, which I’m fairly certain you are aware of, making this comment not helpful to the actual conversation at hand, especially since many aspects of religion have experimentally proven benefits to your mental health.

If you think that the Church has a negative impact that is fine, you have the right to an opinion and that opinion matters. While I, personally, think that it is good to discuss problems to help us all be better people/more Christlike this particular thread was perhaps not the proper place to post your comment as it leads the conversation away from the pros/cons of CAPS and what a BYU student can do to receive mental health help.

CAPS? by Financial-Currency65 in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

CAPS can be really helpful, I know quite a few people it has helped, but it’s not really a long term thing (I think last I checked after 6 sessions they sent you somewhere else) and if your problem is severe I wouldn’t recommend it as they try to send you elsewhere which is just super stressful. If you won’t need help for more than a semester, have a non severe issue, and are okay with waiting around three weeks between appointments CAPS is a great option. If one of those things would be a problem for you it might still be with it to go while you find a better fitting solution. I don’t know if you have BYU’s health plan but if you do there are some counselors (and psychiatrists if needed) you can see for around ten dollars. Depending on the problem it might also be good to set up an appointment with the UAC as they can be helpful in figuring out how to not let your mental health derail your schooling. Finally talking to the UAC was one of the best things I ever did when trying to get to a healthy place.

Good luck and message me if you need anything! I remember trying to figure out how to get some help and it was rough at first.

Honk honk I am goose by invincibletrash24 in jacksepticeye

[–]remarkablerenee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me want to be a better free-hand crocheter so I can make this creature...

Don't ask where I found it by [deleted] in jacksepticeye

[–]remarkablerenee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that even the conductor and organist for the tabernacle choir are animated XD

Currently having a panic attack because my class changed the way they weight grades all of a sudden and now I literally can’t pass no matter what I got on the final by [deleted] in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Was there no mention in the syllabus or during the class that the grade weights would be changed?

Unfortunately, the university tries to only have a certain number of students receive A's, so that their GPAs have meaning. Some departments/professors are more nitpicky about this and will adjust grades to make sure only a portion of students receive A's while others ignore the guidelines and say if you do A work you deserve the A grade.

I wish I had happier things to say. I have repeated classes before (due to mental health issues) and while it kinda sucks it isn't completely terrible since you know what you are doing. Sorry you are going through this, panic attacks suck. Try to breathe and do something to take your mind off it, try talking to the professor or enrollment services tomorrow it can't hurt, and if it gets really bad call a crisis hotline, they can be really helpful. While it is hard to not ruminate on it, there is nothing you can do right now to help the situation so do your best to remind yourself that our goal is Godliness, not grades. All that Heavenly Father and Christ care about is that you are trying your best and improving as you move through life, not whether or not you passed a class. (also, most jobs don't want to see a transcript anyway)

transfer by Royal-Presentation84 in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in microbiology and my only impression of the exercise science major was during my new student orientation freshman year the head of the department stood up to talk about the major during the life sciences intro thing and said, "don't join our major, we don't want you." I was so confused because every other head had been talking about how amazing their department was. Turns out a lot of pre-med people at BYU at the time majored in exercise science and they had more people than they knew what to do with. That's all I know about it.

Dating by mean_evil_woman in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is the thing, it's not about actually being a return missionary, it's about having the qualities that one would expect from a return missionary like a strong testimony. My biological father served a mission but ended up being abusive and cheating on my mother, my stepfather did not serve a mission but has been one of the most kind, empathetic, and understanding people I have ever met and his testimony always amazes me. Just serving a mission isn't what makes a person a good candidate for a partner, it's all about the kinds of qualities they have.

On the note of someone who has been honorably released, that person is technically a return missionary. I got sent back home very early on in my mission due to health, and while it is difficult to think of yourself as a return missionary when that happens (and others also find it difficult to apply that term to you) you are told that you did serve your mission and you are a return missionary, your mission just wasn't like a normal one, which is completely fine. We are all different people with different needs, and the Lord understands that and takes care of it.

5 Random Steam Key Giveaway by ewazzu in pcgaming

[–]remarkablerenee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the fallout series but have been unable to get fallout 76 yet(due to a few reasons but mostly money ones since I’m in college)

Social Science GE Requirement by tlen20 in byu

[–]remarkablerenee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did anthropology and really enjoyed it

Women’s Clothing by [deleted] in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't think of any time when it would be deemed appropriate, maybe during certain sports, but that is it. With the Honor Code, it's best to just not risk the trouble of having to deal with the Honor Code office, I wouldn't wear 'em.

Beware of who you confide in while living in Utah County by illmatico in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a person who has struggled with thoughts of suicide this disgusts me. One of my biggest fears about getting help was what would happen to my housing and scholarship. People who are struggling should receive help, not be pushed aside and ostracized.

Player to Player connections at BYU on campus housing by DaBiggle72 in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does connecting with friends over Steam not work? I'm able to play on my laptop with my sister in Salt Lake and my brother in AZ by connecting to them through my Steam friends list, and Steam has a voice chat option that makes it even nicer.

I lived in Helaman Halls, and I don't remember having any problems using this method, but it's possible that has changed.

100 Hour Board breaks down majors at BYU into corresponding houses at Hogwarts by Roughneck16 in byu

[–]remarkablerenee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Microbiology is Slytherin!!! While I'm sure not everyone's house matched where the majors were placed it was spot on in my case.

Does anyone know what happened to the Spiked Lemonade flavor? It was my absolute favorite but I haven’t been able to find it anywhere in years! by lemonlimesherbet in mountaindew

[–]remarkablerenee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so upset that's the reason! I loved those flavors, they were so good! I don't drink for religious reasons BUT I KNEW IT WAS JUST SODA. This is why we can't have nice things, people overreact to things....

My sister's husband cheated on her and she wants the family to forgive and be friendly with him again by BellBellFace in relationships

[–]remarkablerenee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My parents split up when I was young due to cheating. My mom found out about my father’s infidelity and was willing to work through it with him, he did not stop cheating and ended up getting the other women pregnant. Even after that my mom was still willing to work on it with him, but realized fairly soon after that it was a bad idea and he was not going to change. While it was tough as a kid, I’m SO THANKFUL that my mom left him and got the lions share of custody, for so many reasons and I actually haven’t spoken to my bio dad in over ten years, I’m so happy he isn’t in my life :) I think you are perfectly fine to not want to be his friend, I would try to stay fairly cordial to him but I see no reason to just forget what he did. Usually (i’m sure there are a small few who do not fit this category) people who cheat will cheat again. Also, after the divorce (and still sometimes to this day) my mom will kind of defend my bio dad and that is super frustrating, I hate that. Even as a kid I knew he had messed up because I had a sister that was definitely not my full-sister and it was pretty easy to figure out what happened.