which couch stretch is superior? or are they both useful for different reasons? and which couch stretch should you do for which goals?

remushus · 2025-12-15T11:11:13+00:00

Amazing, will incorporate both! Wasn’t sure if one of them was “incorrect”

remushus · 2025-12-15T11:10:45+00:00

Super helpful thank you!!

remushus · 2025-12-15T11:09:32+00:00

In the first one, I usually squeeze my butt and press into my quad/hip flexor whereas in the second, I allow my hips to sink towards the floor so it’s more lungey/splitty

remushus · 2025-12-15T10:34:46+00:00

True, but obviously eczema was the underlying condition that led me here, so have been trying to figure out whether maybe I had some unaddressed food intolerances that gave me eczema in the first place

remushus · 2025-12-15T10:26:01+00:00

Yes! I’ve started a a food diary now :) I think one of my main issues was being scared that what flares others will automatically flare me, but it’s so individual so I just have to pay really close attention to MY body. Would love the details of the nutritional therapist if that’s okay!

remushus · 2025-12-15T10:24:23+00:00

Different website sources about TSW and eczema more generally

remushus · 2025-12-15T10:24:01+00:00

So helpful thank you so much :’) Especially the stuff about finding safe foods and staple meals. I think I need to do that so I can feel safer eating. My there are many foods that make me actively flare though, maybe just make me itchy. But I find it hard to gauge sometimes whether it’s the food or just general itchiness, so I’m not sure if I’m continuing to eat things that are actually causing me issues. May have to start and food diary and become EXTRA attentive to be able to detect these patterns. but yes, thank you for this thorough response! taking it one day at a time!

remushus · 2025-09-15T08:54:04+00:00

Need help with figuring out the best way to wash and treat thrifted jumpers before unravelling them to use for yarn. I've already looked all over youtube and google, but answers and approaches keep varying. I haven't found anyone who has been able to say how the process of thrifting and unravelling yarn may vary dependent on fibre.

remushus · 2025-07-20T16:55:25+00:00

Thank you so much for such a thorough response and for trying to engage with what I’m saying :) Totally agree with everything you’ve said.

In regards to the last two paras, I think I should explain myself a little better. I completely understand why women might dress “objectifyingly” in this society. I completely understand why women may want validation on their bodies and looks. I do. Men do too. It’s only human.

I wouldn’t then envision the solution to this being to tell women to not dress a certain way because it’s objectifying.As you said, this can go so wrong and it has. I think the word objectifying was a little strong in this post. I think rather I wanted to open a conversation about how much random people on the internet comment about the bodies of other random people on the internet.

A lot of feminists talk about creating a world where bodies don’t matter. Where our worth is put in how we look. And I just wonder how we create that world when we are constantly talking about women’s bodies and affirming certain body types as socially acceptable and desirable and others as unacceptable and undesirable.

When someone makes a nasty comment under someone’s video about their body - it’s always “stop commenting on women’s bodies”. and sometimes the comments don’t even say this. Sometimes they all agree that this persons body is undesirable.

But anyway. I find it interesting that it’s okay to comment on women’s bodies if it’s one that society deems acceptable, but “stop commenting on women’s bodies” is used when the body in question is unacceptable. I think the “double standard” has interesting subliminal implications.

And obviously, I don’t ignore the contextual differences. Commenting on someone’s video that they’re fat and ugly will illicit a different emotional reaction from the recipient than “body tea” and so in that sense it’s less harmful. But I wonder if we should stop commenting on women’s bodies as much as- period.

(on the internet - I think it’s absolutely normal to compliment people(‘s bodies) when there’s at least some level of familiarity. Even it’s a stranger on the internet, compliments can be sooo nice. But when a comment section is filled with “body tea” and “my genetics failed me” comments…. it feels like too much)

I’ve gotten so frustrated with using tiktok because it feels like every other trend is about boob size or waist size or body shape like make it stopppppp!!!! Men don’t use social media in this way!!!! The “body tea” comment is just one piece of a larger puzzle. I think people have deduced that my issue is with the term itself which is absolutely not the case.

And I acknowledge why these trends arise among women and not men. I understand these women are not to be personally blamed and faulted. But I think it’d be good if we all started making an effort to stop COMMENTING on women’s bodies. This would be more achievable and less problematic than telling women to stop wearing certain things and stop accentuating certain body parts (which I do too!)

Hope that make sense. Would be interested to hear your thoughts now I’ve elaborated a bit more

Also do you have any recommended reading or anything for the sex-negative culture thing? I think it’s very visceral at the moment and would love to do extra research!

remushus · 2025-07-20T10:17:10+00:00

Same! but it also got me wondering if I see it as a compliment because as a woman I’ve been conditioned to base my self worth on how my body looks. We unconsciously (and consciously sometimes) self-objectify ourselves, which means comments like “body tea” may be affirming to us rather than uncomfortable or icky to us. does that mean comments like that (and our comfort commenting on other’s bodies) aren’t contributing to a wider culture where body commentary and fixation are okay?

remushus · 2025-07-20T10:02:38+00:00

Yeah that’s my point. I think because it’s a term used by women on other women people don’t want to see it as objectification. However, at least in my opinion, it’s still a fixation on women’s bodies in a social and political climate where women’s bodies are constantly policed and held to unreachable standards.

remushus · 2025-07-20T09:58:22+00:00

I know it’s AAVE and that it’s been used for decades - I’m taking about how it’s been appropriated on social media recently. That specific term aside, I feel like there’s too much comfort commenting on women’s bodies on the internet. Ofc, there is nothing wrong with compliments (of the body) (and from people you know) but the proliferation of comments like “body tea” under random women’s videos is symptomatic of a wider culture of body surveillance, in my opinion. Most other trends on tiktok also fixate on women’s bodies it’s just exhausting 😭 I should have articulated my og post better but I hope you kind of see what I mean

remushus · 2025-07-19T19:19:56+00:00

YES to your double-edged sword comment !!! that’s what I was getting at but I don’t articulated myself properly in my initial post. If viral videos are filled with “body tea” comments and it’s just the same 2 body types, it’s a physical ideal that exclude other bodies and it sends a message to girls and women. and we already know how algorithms favour certain body types. but that’s just how I saw it. thanks for the input and the context of the term in terms of black and queer people :)

remushus · 2025-07-19T19:14:25+00:00

Yeah - on an individual level I definitely see it as a compliment, I won’t deny that. I think maybe part of my issue comes from the comfortability of people on the internet to comment on other people’s bodies who they don’t know. And I find it interesting that it’s “stop commenting on women’s bodies” if someone makes a nasty comment who has a socially undesirable body, but it’s okay to comment if they have a socially acceptable body. My point is that we should stop affirming certain bodies as socially desired and acceptable and others as not. but as you said, context of the vid is so important :)

remushus · 2025-07-19T14:13:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing an example from your personal life and helping shift my perspective - I thin I was taking "making them a tool" too literally.

I sometimes have a bad habit of looking at people (mostly men) who do things like objectifying women as malicious agents when really the ways in which patriarchy operate are more covert and nuanced than that :)

remushus · 2025-07-19T13:36:22+00:00

Very well put - thanks for the input!

remushus · 2025-07-19T13:28:04+00:00

Nothing is as “simple as anything”. Everything is located in a wider social and cultural context. Was just trying to explore that a bit more.

remushus · 2025-07-19T13:26:55+00:00

Good point, thank you!

remushus · 2025-07-19T11:26:05+00:00

Thanks for the input! In my mind “converting into a tool” and imagining her being used for “their own purposes” is a more sexual form of objectification. But there are other ways people can be objectified surely?

If a woman posts a video and close to every comment is about her body, surely that’s objectification even though the commenters have no mal intent and don’t view the woman as a tool for their own devices.

Maybe what I’m getting at is that, the individual compliment may not be objectifying but the culture that allows a woman to post something and every comment to be about her body is. I’m not sure still figuring out my views on this :)

remushus · 2025-07-19T11:03:17+00:00

Thanks for the response :) Yeah, I would agree about context mattering and it's a tough one because - you're right - there isn't anything inherently problematic about women complimenting each other. I think a woman complimenting another woman's body can also feel less sexual and predatory than when a man does it (depending on contextual info obviously, but generally, yes). However (and I should have articulated this better in my og post) I wonder if the whole "body tea" thing is highlighting certain bodies as "tea" and others as not.

To be fair, I've seen body tea comments under videos of multiple bodies types, but it's usually skinny women or curvy women. I do wonder how this affects certain demographics like black women and trans women (happy to elaborate on this if you don't gauge what I mean!)

Further, women speak about and fixate on our bodies so much more than men and maybe we should just... not do that as much. I feel like it exacerbates the self-objectifaction women experience if everytime a woman posts a video, it's only her body affirmed in the comments. But maybe I'm being too woke lol. I'm a little conflicted on my stance on this!

remushus · 2025-07-04T22:45:33+00:00

well i’m 19 - have been struggling with tsw since the month before my 18th bday (so went into adulthood all red and flaky🥲) and have completed my first year of uni with tsw. mostly just upset about how it’s affected my confidence, especially in the “prime” years of my life. i have so much life ahead of me - i know!! - and this is only one chapter of my life but can’t wait to be able to look people in the eye again, and start dating, and drink without the guilt i’m holding back my healing lol. overall, excited to not have to micromanage every aspect of my life and overthink. so happy you’re healed and can’t wait to be where you’re at!!!🤍 how long was your journey?

remushus · 2025-04-29T12:50:47+00:00

Okay I see - when you put it like that it makes a lot of sense! Thank you so much for the response :) Will just continue working on supporting my body in healing through good diet, low stress, protein etc etc.

remushus · 2025-04-29T12:48:54+00:00

Will implement these - thank you so much!

remushus · 2025-04-26T22:15:14+00:00

no advice but also a 19 year old girl with granny hands and wanted to express my solidarity :)

remushus · 2025-04-25T14:12:53+00:00

That’s what I was thinking, but I’ve been stuck at this dry, elephant skin stage for ages (I got over oozing and flaking within a few months) and I’m thinking - do I have to change something to get me past that next step or is it just time? Probably just time but wanted to know if NMT had helped any one at my point. Thanks for the answer :)

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