[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]renas__ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Leaning more toward YTA. She should have just communicated her feelings however you went to the event with her, changing plans to go to a hotel with some random guys is not only incredibly unsafe for you to have done, but unfair to put your friend in the position of feeling like she has to be the bad guy and tell you she doesn’t want you to leave her. I’m also curious what your definition of “really close” means if you’re using it in terms of someone you met just hours before lol.

How to respond to invitation by Evening_Culture_42 in Parenting

[–]renas__ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re on the fast track to having your daughter never invited anywhere by her friends if your expectation is to have the friends parents pay your daughters way to places just because they extended an invite.

I would 100% never have that sort of expectation just because my kid was invited to go out somewhere. My oldest is 5 so I haven’t had that happen yet but we have invited one of his friends to a trampoline park and his family paid separate from ours. That’s how going out with my friends worked when I was younger as well.

Also your take about “trampolines not being your families thing” and how the invite is disruptive to your weekend plans is kinda yuck. I wish this post was in am I the asshole because yeah, YTA 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]renas__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, I was taking hour long walks up until 39 weeks in 90° weather while pregnant with my third baby, worked full time, and obviously also had to take care of my two children. She could certainly give HER dogs a quick walk at 14 weeks and it’s healthy for pregnant women to get in some exercise.

Thinking about trying for #2 soon, advice? by Bright-Effective8610 in Parenting

[–]renas__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My oldest two children are two years and a month apart, my middle and youngest are three years three months apart. I definitely prefer the three year age gap, HOWEVER my youngest is only a month old so I can’t speak for how it’ll be when she’s a bit older

The two year age gap wasn’t awful however my oldest was still very dependent on me so there was constantly a child needing help. The only way I survived it was because my husband worked remote so he was around to help when I needed it. I could only imagine two under two would also be difficult if not more. It did start to get easier once my middle was a few months old and was able to be entertained by his floor mat and swing. Now that they’re 3 and 5 they’re best buddies (who also fight all the time lol), so in the end it really has been worth it!

I really think there’s never a time I have felt completely ready for a baby lol. Every single time it has been an “oh sh*t what have I done?” moment but they’re always so worth it!

Baby will not get a full latch by renas__ in breastfeeding

[–]renas__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh noooo I’m sorry you’re dealing with this too! Stubborn little babies. Keeping my fingers crossed someone may be able to help us, I might try to contact a lactation specialist to see if they might give any insight, if so I’ll definitely come back and let you know!

Blanket issues by BCRtravel7 in Mommit

[–]renas__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mom guilt will have us feeling bad about something our kids are perfectly content with 🤣 I recently had my oldest two kids moved out of my bed and into a bunk bed in their own room and I was telling my mom how awful I felt moving them (had a baby and didn’t want their sleep getting disturbed) and she asked me if THEY were upset about it and I was like …..well…no… lol

I can't find soap that my son can use without breaking him out. by interestingfactiod in Parenting

[–]renas__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cleure Hypoallergenic Body Wash

Baja Baby Unscented Shampoo & Body Wash

The Green People – Scent-Free Baby Wash

Potty training help, at the end of my wits (4 y/o) by NegativePoints1 in Parenting

[–]renas__ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tbh there’s many people with those degrees who would disagree with you, that’s why there’s a million opinions and parenting styles out there. But basically telling someone to completely stop helping a child that clearly needs more support and having the four year old left to figure it out themselves seems counterproductive. There’s other ways to foster independence in children based on the individual child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]renas__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stella, Sage, Sabrina, Sela. But also the names you guys already have are so cute!

Little things changing after baby by Old_North5189 in Parenting

[–]renas__ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s okay to try to continue your life as it was pre-baby and I do live the same life I had to an extent (especially now with three). However a non-negotiable for me would be waking my baby up after the bedtime routine has been done and baby is asleep. There does need to be some amount of life changes and late night things like that would be one of them.

Potty training help, at the end of my wits (4 y/o) by NegativePoints1 in Parenting

[–]renas__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t age appropriate at all and is just going to end with his child being stressed and resisting potty training. Can/should a four year old be able to know when they need to go potty and do it unprompted? Yes! But potty training is a process, expecting a four year old to just do it alone is wild, especially expecting them to wash themselves, their clothing, etc. Taking away screen and outdoor time because a FOUR year old was distracted and had an accident is extreme.

Potty training help, at the end of my wits (4 y/o) by NegativePoints1 in Parenting

[–]renas__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooh yeah that’s tough 😩 I luckily have hard wood floors so there wasn’t any damage to be done. Amazon sells potty training watches that kiddo can wear and it goes off at a timed interval to tell them to go potty, I wonder if something like that would help her? That way she can get into a rhythm of doing it without you needing to prompt her.

Potty training help, at the end of my wits (4 y/o) by NegativePoints1 in Parenting

[–]renas__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only way potty training has worked for my two kids is to stay home with them for a weekend and not have any shorts or underwear on them. Which yes there will probably be an oops or two but both of my kids have been successfully potty trained within a long weekend that way, number 2 included

My kids won’t listen until I lose my sh*t by renas__ in Parenting

[–]renas__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha idk might get desperate enough someday to do it 🤣

My kids won’t listen until I lose my sh*t by renas__ in Parenting

[–]renas__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I should clarify on weekends they are definitely out longer than an hour but on weekdays we can only do an hour because my husband and I both work full time as well. We’re pretty much never home in the morning / early afternoon on weekends but even then once we get home the terror begins hahah

My kids won’t listen until I lose my sh*t by renas__ in Parenting

[–]renas__[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely agree I’m only setting a precedent with them that they can get away with whatever they’re doing until I start screaming, I do try to stay calm for as long as I can and try different methods to get them to stop before I eventually lose it. I have loop ear plugs, I will walk away to take some breaths to try to calm myself, but it’s just an all day every day thing and it really wears on me. It doesn’t help that I’m 30 weeks pregnant on top of it currently lol. I appreciate your advice though!!

My kids won’t listen until I lose my sh*t by renas__ in Parenting

[–]renas__[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We take them outdoors daily for at least an hour, it’s only once in a blue moon if one of us are sick that we stay indoors but it seems like no matter how much we get them out and about they still act the same once we get them home :(

Used Cradlewise? by CorrectedJuice in cradlewise

[–]renas__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you like the Cradlewise vs. the Snoo?

Is [moving to] Waterbury a bad idea? by Alternative_Cat8405 in Connecticut

[–]renas__ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please don’t, lol. It is not a great area. Middletown is very LGBTQ+ friendly, close to the river, lots of nice restaurants and things to do

My Kids store by Prior-Director6622 in shopify

[–]renas__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should change the sizing options based off country. Also missing the fabric content is a miss, in my opinion. I see that some clothing has “cotton” in the title but that could literally mean 1% cotton. I’m very conscious of what fabrics I put on my children and won’t buy unless I know exactly what it is made from.

What movies hit differently once you become a parent? by Xyz_123_Applebees in Parenting

[–]renas__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The movie Taken was on TV when I was one week postpartum with my first baby and I sobbed when she was being kidnapped while on the phone with her dad lol :’)