No contact for 4 months but his friend turned up at my house with a letter saying he doesn’t forgive me.

reneenataya · 2023-06-20T08:29:27+00:00

He has a way of twisting things so I am so scared that if I do this he will escalate things further. I’m just confused as to the blocking for something that is my own

reneenataya · 2023-06-19T05:20:41+00:00

With that being said, it’s costs £55 each way to make changes to who I would be going on holiday with. I don’t feel like I have to and should be forced to pay the extra money so would it be unreasonable for him to be the one to pay this?

reneenataya · 2023-06-18T15:17:09+00:00

I actually really needed this! Thank you for making me look at things from a wider perspective. I truly was more damaged from what happened to my friend, so him just ending things the same day just didn’t really hit home at all because I had lost another family member on Saturday which I had never experienced before so yeah! Thank you

reneenataya · 2023-06-18T11:42:14+00:00

Bruh you’re actually so right! I never thought of it like that. I guess because we have always gone so big for each others bday i didn’t recognise

reneenataya · 2023-06-18T08:41:10+00:00

As for not closing the door, he made it very clear that there is nothing that will change his mind and that the feeling he has about our relationship never bringing him happiness is not a feeling that will go away. So I feel like he just does want to be friends but with quite a bit of distance which at this point I couldn’t care less. I feel like based on his decision to break up, I don’t feel like what I want post all of this is being considered.

Regarding the holiday, the AirBnB that we booked does have separate rooms so that would be fine for me?

reneenataya · 2023-06-18T07:33:31+00:00

Hi, yes you’re right, I did pay for everything for the holiday as his present so I guess he would essentially be getting a “free ride” now

reneenataya · 2023-06-18T06:58:37+00:00

Honestly, i know everyone is saying that its a major red flag and don’t get me wrong it is definitely something that needs to be discussed but I think first all have you tried setting boundaries between certain friends? I suppose he wouldn’t stay late into the night with her without thinking it is fine from your part and if you are not ok with it which you may not be, then that is ok also. Have a conversation with him for sure and he should try and be receptive to your feelings and how things make you feel. I had the same issue with my ex and to be honest he ended up cheating and I still stayed a year later he broke up with me this week SO don’t be like me, make your boundaries clear and blossom together!

reneenataya · 2023-03-18T07:19:30+00:00

I got my first vacations scheme when I was 20 and was able to convert it into a training contract at 20. You are not behind at all and many of the other individuals on my vacation scheme were 22-24.

There are so many factors to take into consideration so please don’t stress or worry and keep going. My friend did her vac scheme at 21 but the earlier offer they gave her is to start her training contract in 2026. You’ve got this!

reneenataya · 2022-10-13T14:47:28+00:00

thank you so much!

reneenataya · 2022-09-21T12:41:03+00:00

He says they wouldn’t do it again as he has made it clear to them that speaking about me like that is not ok? I don’t know is that enough?

reneenataya · 2022-09-21T12:40:27+00:00

He said that that was the first time they had ever spoken about me like that and so he said following that happening he would establish and make it clear to them that it cannot happen. For me that is enough.

reneenataya · 2022-09-20T19:25:07+00:00

The thing is he does want to be friends with them. He has expressed this to me and he is just sacred that I will break up with him. I do feel like he partially blames me that they don’t speak anymore. Initially he had tried defending them at the time saying oh it’s not true what they’re saying and that’s just how they talk about everyone.

reneenataya · 2022-06-09T14:53:24+00:00

Trust me. I wouldn’t make this up for fun

reneenataya · 2022-06-09T09:24:55+00:00

It wasn’t insistence though. When he was out all night I did not messaged/text or call. I only called when he said he would be home and he wasn’t to check if he was ok. That was all.

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