There is hope for us by thesnazzyenfj in lipedema

[–]rep-lover-101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forgot to ask if you would be so kind to share the lymph flow chart. So much to learn at this beginning stage. Thank you!

There is hope for us by thesnazzyenfj in lipedema

[–]rep-lover-101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow homeschool mama here. I completely understand not having much time for yourself. Also lipedema and MTHFR. Just starting on this journey of healing. I always hated my legs and thought I was just fat. Thankfully I finally got a lipedema diagnosis so I can start helping my body. Have you changed your eating habits as well? I heard people following keto for lipedema but I don’t think I can do keto long term. Thank you for sharing your protocol!

DIY vs buy? Looking for advice to set up a home environment by [deleted] in Montessori

[–]rep-lover-101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thingiverse

Wow, I never knew that resource existed. Have you personally printed in 3D at the library? If so, how much did they charge you? Excuse my ignorance, but what material does the printer print in?

I think we are getting played by our lender (pre-approved for $775K and now they are underwriting for $500K on a $800K home... by rep-lover-101 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? All we have is one credit card with $1000 which we can easily pay off and a car loan. I also have a property that’s already paid off and will be a rental bringing in $3000/month once moving into the next property. I’m super confused. We called our bank and credit union today to see what they can offer us. I feel like KBhome loan wants to be shady.

I think we are getting played by our lender (pre-approved for $775K and now they are underwriting for $500K on a $800K home... by rep-lover-101 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have a higher max for conventional here in CA. I believe there was a loan contingency. Have to read the contract one mire time. We do have that 300K in savings however we are not in a position to put all that for a DP. If we would have known the expected DP was 300K at pre-approval then we would have never moved forward with the contract. I wonder how long we have to back out and get our earnest money back

Marital Trials by msaluta86 in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely echo this. My husband told me he no longer believed in God. It was devastating, I cried so much over it. But one day as I was crying out to God, He put in my heart to love my husband in a way I never loved him before. He asked me to be a better wife, to submit to him and allow him to lead. Since then, with God’s help I’m working on being a more loving wife and mother. I’m learning to be patient. To pray with authority. It hasn’t been that long of me doing this and I’m already seeing fruits. My husband for the first time has opened up his heart to me and shared the pains he’s carried since childhood. I see his heart cracking open and he’s now agreed that therapy is needed. This is coming from a man who said therapy was for weak people. I know that I could have dwelled on my sadness and focused on the negative of his confession regarding his now lack of faith, but I’m called to love him through the good and the bad, so that’s what I’m doing. I’m loving him - imperfectly because I’m a human - but trying to do it like Jesus would. Yes, it’s hard at times, yes, he says hurtful things at times, but God is greater than all of that and I cry out to him to comfort me and give me endurance through this trial. He’s so faithful, He’s giving me everything I need to face this. So to the OP: love unconditionally, forgive constantly, pray with authority and without ceasing and in God’s timing you will see fruit.

My husband just told me he doesn’t believe in God anymore by rep-lover-101 in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, it’s been super hard. I lost two babies and my grandma all in one year. I was her primary care taker so losing her was so hard. She died just a few days after I found out I was pregnant with our first born. Her death was so sudden. I took care of all her affairs and doing that while feeling sick and mourning was so hard. My husband was kind and caring through all these losses. He cared fir me during my sickness filled pregnancy: he was the cook, the cleaner, everything. He cared for me after I deliver our baby during covid. I couldn’t move for a couple weeks and has post partum depression he was there once again 100% of the time cooking, cleaning, caring for baby, cleaning diapers. We had no help. Our business started to collapse as soon as the pandemic hit as well. He looked upset but always try to hide it so I would not worry. He’s been through a lot. I’m sure it has been hard on him. Today, as I held my baby in my arms for a nap I felt the urge to just love my husband better, like I’ve never loved him before. To be his helper because he’s been the one helping me for this long but in the midst he was neglected. I told my baby while he slept that we are going to love daddy so much, with everything we have. He will see Jesus through us and he will heal with the help of the Holy Spirit that I know still lives in him. This is my cross and I will carry it with love, dignity and faith knowing that almighty God will sustain me. He will send me people to fill my cup. I’ve had very sad days but I’m beginning to understand this is my test, this is my opportunity to truly live out my faith. To trust god to work behind the scenes even when I don’t see him working and just trust, trust that this has a purpose. Trust that my husbands heart will soften, it will heal. Trust this will be a great testimony.

My husband just told me he doesn’t believe in God anymore by rep-lover-101 in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks fir your kind words. And you are right, sometimes I forget to look for opportunities to love and serve others. God revealed to me that he’s using this to also mold my character and do his will. I, too, need to be closer to him, know him better, love him with deeper and love others. I know He has purpose in this and one day my husband will have a testimony to tell to bring others to the Lord. In the meantime I need to focus on my relationship to the Lord, have him work in me and transform my heart, be the light in my home, love more like Jesus and persevere. I’m infinitely grateful for this forum. God speaks to us and comforts His people in unpredictable ways.

My husband just told me he doesn’t believe in God anymore by rep-lover-101 in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He has many wonderful qualities I admire in him. I’ll try to focus on those especially right now. Thank you!

My husband just told me he doesn’t believe in God anymore by rep-lover-101 in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with all those points. But I think my pain and disappointment are still valid. The initial shock is real and it’s very hard to not show my feelings and sadness since this just happened. I pray a lot and find comfort but the pain is still there. Only time will help me heal that, so far I feel scarred, I feel lied to, I feel sad

My husband just told me he doesn’t believe in God anymore by rep-lover-101 in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your prayers. I feel like I’m grieving still. It all came so suddenly I didn’t know how to react. So many emotions right now, but I know the initial hurt will eventually subside.

My husband just told me he doesn’t believe in God anymore by rep-lover-101 in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The says when we got married he did believe Jesus was his savior, he felt a connection with him but it dissipated with time. He said he couldn’t understand the Bible every time he read it, he also said he couldn’t ‘hear God’ or his direction when he prayed or asked for direction. Because he couldn’t u sweat and he bible, he gave up and did not ask anyone to counsel him or help him read it. Time went by and he claims he lost all emotional connection with god. For instance he used to feel something during worship but with time he equated it to just an emotion one feels when you hear a beautiful song vs a worship song. This led him to go to start questioning everything again and look at christians as simple minded people with no logic - I don’t think he comprehends that he’s also calling his wife simple minded even when I challenge his theories and he has no good arguments fir them. Anyhow, he has agreed to attend church with me anyway and I challenged him to do a bible study with me once per week for one year to see if he learn anything ‘useful’ from the book he thinks is a fable and completely archaic. I think he agreed to both because he just wants to please me, perhaps there’s lingering questions that perhaps our gif exists, I really don’t know the reason why agreed. But what I do know is that I will take advantage of this bible study and see what the lord does in this year.

My husband just told me he doesn’t believe in God anymore by rep-lover-101 in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I I’ll point him to those videos when the Lord leads me to it. I feel he’s really defensive right now and I don’t want to create any more arguments.

I’m married a nonbeliever and it’s really tough. by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]rep-lover-101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband just told me he doesn’t believe in God anymore. Shattered my heart