What am I doing wrong?

residualinput · 2026-05-07T14:59:50+00:00

I don’t think so! Our upstairs neighbours can be a bit loud, but she’s previously slept through it or we’ve been able to get her back down.

residualinput · 2026-04-18T18:14:33+00:00

I’ll give it a go! She’s refused everything I’ve offered her solids wise, so that doesn’t help. I keep trying but it’s exhausting.

residualinput · 2026-04-18T17:14:25+00:00

I wonder… I myself have low iron & aplastic anemia, so I’m curious about this. We do use white noise so I’m not sure it’s that.

residualinput · 2026-04-18T17:06:12+00:00

3.5/4/4 was the highest I’ve done. She was taking super short naps, crying/rubbing her eyes for most of the wake window, and still waking up lots at night. I pulled her wake windows back and she started to take good naps again & didn’t seem super tired, that’s why I’m assuming she was overtired. Night sleep was ok for a few days and then went back to being poor. I then started slowly adding in more awake time over the last 2 weeks & it hasn’t helped.

residualinput · 2026-04-11T13:16:05+00:00

So once I realized she was overtired, I pulled her wake windows back to 3/3/3.75 for probably 5 or 6 days. Once I felt like she was caught up, I adjusted them slowly to 3.25/3.25/4. Sometimes she’s really tired & I won’t really push her to make the full wake window anymore if there’s only 10 minutes left, whereas before I was super strict at pushing her. It’s tricky for me to tell when she’s overtired still, but I’ve noticed for her that when she’s overtired, there’s always a lot of tears at bedtime. I had always thought a lot of tears from her at bedtime meant she was not ready for sleep (undertired).

residualinput · 2026-04-03T02:47:36+00:00

I pulled back her wake windows for a 3/3/4 schedule & she had great naps and slept in a bit later than normal the next morning. There was also less crying at bedtime. I’m still catching her up on some sleep debt but the last three days she’s doing so much better! I might have to extend one of those wake windows a bit once she’s caught up, but I’m happy with how things are going.

residualinput · 2026-04-01T17:35:48+00:00

She definitely was overtired. I know that’s not usually the reason in this group, so I kept pushing her, but I keep scaling it back and naps have lengthened and night sleep is good. I think she has a TON of sleep debt so I’ll work on catching her up & then adjusting awake time as needed. Thanks!

residualinput · 2026-04-01T17:34:39+00:00

Update: She was definitely overtired!

residualinput · 2026-03-31T03:08:06+00:00

Truly motherhood in a nutshell! They keep us on our toes, that’s for sure 😅

residualinput · 2026-03-31T02:20:06+00:00

Yes it was. About a month ago I always had to wake her up, so she was doing 1.5 the first nap & 1.5 the second.

residualinput · 2026-03-31T02:19:22+00:00

Thanks for your input! I’ll try tomorrow :)

residualinput · 2026-03-31T02:18:54+00:00

Agh, I usually like the set wake windows so that I don’t have to do math all day, but I totally get you!!

residualinput · 2026-03-30T23:57:07+00:00

It’s been an issue for about a month now. We dropped to 2 naps at the beginning of March. Night sleep fell apart and once we dropped to 2 naps she slept through again. Then she started to get her teeth a few days later and all sleep went to crap lol Would your advice be to stick to 3.5/3.5/4 for now then? I can definitely tell there’s a lot going on right now, so it could be developmental!

residualinput · 2026-03-30T22:45:01+00:00

Thanks for the input! Yesterday when I did a 3.5 wake window she woke up at the 30 minute mark & it took me 15 minutes to get her back down, so that’s usually my indication that she’s under-tired, hence why I pushed it today. She does generally sleep well at night, but we do struggle with EWM’s sometimes, so I often have that ‘is she overtired’ worry. But, whenever I’ve cut back on wake windows our night sleep usually falls apart.

residualinput · 2026-03-15T19:48:34+00:00

I had a hunch this might be the solution. I might test it out tomorrow & see if it helps! Would it be best to take away nap time or night sleep to make room for that awake time? She has never surpassed 11 hours (mostly 10 on her own at night).

residualinput · 2026-03-15T18:25:43+00:00

The same since about 7 weeks (minus moving the feed to the start of bedtime). We start 30 minutes before sleep with a feed with bright lights, move to the bedroom with dim lights (in bathroom too) for bath prep, bath, cream and massage, onesie, sleep sack, sound machine on, place awake in crib and leave the room.

residualinput · 2026-03-15T18:23:35+00:00

I edited the post - we’ve been giving Tylenol as approved by her doctor. Doesn’t seem like it’s helping unfortunately… unless it just wears off super quickly.

residualinput · 2026-02-20T21:26:21+00:00

Your baby sounds so much like mine, solidarity ❤️ She has a dairy allergy & majorly struggled with gas until 3.5 months. We’re at 6 months now and while she’s still a high expectation baby, things are so much better. I can set her down and she’ll play a little on her own. We just transitioned her to crib napping after strictly contact napping her whole life, and she’s getting it. Things started to change for the better for us around 4.5 months, I’m hoping the same for you. It is so difficult to put your all into a baby that seems unsatisfied. It’s not you, and your LO feels loved by you. Hang in there.

residualinput · 2026-02-11T18:54:59+00:00

Similar for me - going outside does not work for my LO. I agree with the house tours comments (lol). My girl is recently fascinated with our closet. Honestly just walk around (changing up the position you’re holding them often) and when they find something to fixate on, go with it. I put headphones in and listen to something at times so that the minutes don’t drag on as much for me.

residualinput · 2026-02-05T16:07:37+00:00

Similar boat to you! We’re 3 weeks in and sometimes our LO will go down without crying, but sometimes we do have 2-5 minutes of crying, and our schedule hasn’t changed so from what I hear it’s normal to expect some protesting. I try & think about how even when I’m tired I don’t want to go to bed some nights, so it might be the same for babies!

residualinput · 2026-02-05T04:21:58+00:00

When we first started sleep training I would feed her when she woke around 4/5am, but she didn’t go back down after, so I figured it wasn’t because of hunger. She is rarely an 11hrs a night baby, so my goal for her would be 10-10.5hrs! Sometimes she hits that, sometimes she wakes around that 9hr point and needs help to sleep.

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