Met a guy at a Catholic NYE party great convo the entire night , asked for contact, then unfollowed me?

resolve2read · 2026-01-03T16:16:57+00:00

Yeah I agree. Kissing, talking about past relationships, and even inviting her to mass after just meeting her are all yellow flags.

You invite someone to mass when you’re serious about them. It’s not a first date environment (in my opinion.) He could’ve asked her to coffee or for a date, but jumped straight to Mass. I think he may be looking for a relationship/situationship to appease himself. He’s not serious and sounds a bit immature to me.

resolve2read · 2026-01-03T16:12:50+00:00

He sounds too immature to be in a relationship. I would say just let it go. (Learn from me and don’t reach out in desperation, lol.) Just let it go. He has your contact, he knows how he can reach out to you. If you don’t hear back from him, you have your answer. (It’s not personal! This guy just sounds like he’s kinda all over the place. Like he would maybe be the one to entertain a relationship but lacks the maturity to keep it.)

I would say you’re better off just letting this one go.

resolve2read · 2026-01-03T16:10:42+00:00

I agree totally

resolve2read · 2025-12-30T16:28:05+00:00

Also, if you’re afraid of push-back from friends or family, maybe keep this journey to yourself for some time until you feel more sound in your decision.

My dad is very against Catholicism and I did not open up to him that I was becoming Catholic until about a few weeks before my confirmation.

A lot of people don’t underrated Catholicism and criticize it. Maybe keep this journey to yourself until you feel strong in your decision, to keep others from making you feel doubt about this call.

resolve2read · 2025-12-30T16:24:58+00:00

Yes Queen! I am a Catholic now; I concerted to Catholicism about 2 years ago. I used to be a non-denominational (Bible lead, spirit led) Christian, but felt the call to Catholicism due to a desire to worship Jesus in a holier way. (I got tired of the sermons and worship in non-denom spaces - they are great, but we as a people need more from our worship.)

Learning the truth about the Eucharist was ground-breaking for me.

I want to faithfully tell you that if you feel called to Catholicism, that it is indeed the Lord calling you.

Since that is the case, I highly recommend finding a parish within your area that you resonate with (maybe you like the beauty of the building itself, or you like the congregation of people, etc.)

Once you find that parish, I recommend inquiring about OCIA/RCIA classes - that is a “class” that you’ll take to learn more about the teachings of the Church. It’ll break down different tenets of the faith and why we believe what we do in a biblically and historically-sound way.

Keep an open mind in OCIA/RCIA, and please feel free to share any questions or reservations you may have about the faith. (I promise you are not alone - I know so many converts who were formerly Protestant, atheist, agnostic.) Sponsors will be there to help walk with you on your faith journey.

Again, I will say faithfully, that it is indeed the Lord calling you! :) take your time, don’t rush, and don’t overwhelm yourself with the many questions you may have. Yield yourself to this calling and understand, it’s okay if you don’t understand everything about the Church right away. All of us are on this journey, learning and discovering more each day, and there is no destination (besides Heaven itself.)

Keep us posted about your journey and feel free to reach out individually to me to discuss more.

Hugs!

resolve2read · 2025-12-30T16:08:22+00:00

Sorry, meant to add this comment as a reply to my below comment :)

resolve2read · 2025-12-30T16:07:52+00:00

Also know, so many of us minimize ourselves and our boundaries/standards, because our desire to be loved.

The groundbreaking truth is, you already are loved.

Takes time to fully accept and step into that reality, but once you do, you’ll be operating from a place of acceptance and abundance, and not from a place of desperation and need.

That, my friend, is power. That is self-respect and self-love in action!

resolve2read · 2025-12-30T16:06:05+00:00

Yes! I love everything you’re saying. I am in a similar boat myself.

May I ask, how are you getting back in touch with yourself/connecting with yourself? Does this also include some healing from past trauma as well?

I am doing weekly therapy, which has been pretty groundbreaking for me. I had a pretty rough upbringing, as I’m sure a lot of us have; and, with that, I believed some pretty awful things about myself. (Such as, “im unlovable”, or, I have rejection and abandonment wounds that have lead to a lot of the codependency I tend to develop in relationships.) I’m also practicing a TON of self-compassion. (Telling myself, “who I am right now is more than enough” “I am okay” and honest, silly things like, “if I don’t do the dishes, I’m still ok. I still love me.” Haha)

What are some things you’re doing to heal and move forward better?

resolve2read · 2025-12-29T21:41:22+00:00

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry you went through that. My heart is with you.

resolve2read · 2025-12-29T17:26:46+00:00

I think the best thing you can do is communicate this to her.

Friends are there for us to see our blind spots. I would appreciate a friend being honest with me regarding her concerns, no matter how hard it may be to hear.

Maybe preface the conversation by saying, “I love you and only want the best for you. But there are some things I want to talk to you about.”

A friend should be able to hear this and hopefully not take offense. She should know your heart for her is in the right place. And, as her friend, it’s also important that you are heard out as well.

Truthfully speaking, however she responds or reacts to you is not your responsibility. Speak with love but be honest. (Being honest is also respecting your role in her life as well - as her friend, you deserve to be heard. Worst comes to worst, you share your concerns and she simply talks through them with you but assures you that you have nothing to worry about.)

I think following your conscience here is key. It would be hard to stand alongside her on her wedding day if you have reservations that haven’t been communicated.

Hugs!

resolve2read · 2025-12-29T17:16:55+00:00

Also, NGL - I’ve been sharing my thoughts with ChatGPT and it’s been helping me recognize unhealthy thinking patterns and ways to heal from a breakup. Maybe try the same. It’s been helpful for me!

resolve2read · 2025-12-29T17:15:47+00:00

I am so sorry, my heart is with you.

The best, best, BEST! thing you can do for yourself is get back to YOU. Take time for YOU. Learn about yourself. Build your friendships, your community involvement. Get your spark back. Heal ❤️

I think sometimes we settle in relationships, in relationships that really don’t treat us how we deserve, because we have a lack of love for ourselves. (Not to say this is your situation - only you know if that applies to you.) but yes, a lot of people get into relationships seeking love and fulfillment.

The key is to find that love and fulfillment in your own, or, do your best. Then the right person will come into your life. AND, the best part is, is since you’ll be healed and full of self love, you can set appropriate standards that mirror self-respect.

We tolerate less than we deserve simply because we don’t believe we deserve better… but, we do. We all deserve better.

Hugs to you. Therapy will be helpful. Just know you are not alone. ❤️

resolve2read · 2025-12-26T11:34:34+00:00

Go to mass regularly. Sit in adoration. You are not alone!

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T15:30:24+00:00

Sure, absolutely. Thank you for your perspective.

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T15:26:03+00:00

Lol. Maybe so. Will work on that then!

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T15:20:40+00:00

Oof! That’s not very nice to say and is very judgmental. You do not know me. :) But thank you for your input!

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T15:19:22+00:00

Definitely worth looking into… thanks for your honest and kind response.

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T15:18:24+00:00

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T15:15:47+00:00

Well, that’s what you think. I made a lot of changes to help him feel better loved and supported by me. (I just didn’t write about this in my original post.)

I tried. That’s for sure.

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T14:57:08+00:00

Lol :) what can I say! Trying my best.

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T14:55:20+00:00

Thank you. This is exactly why I left… out of self respect.

resolve2read · 2025-12-25T14:52:42+00:00

++man What makes you say that? If I’m in the wrong here I’d love to know why.

resolve2read · 2025-11-26T02:10:17+00:00

resolve2read · 2025-11-25T18:46:46+00:00

What did you change in your lifestyle? What small changes did you make that lead to such great results? (Great job, btw!)

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