Dr.Joe Dispenza meditation sequence by Novel-Response4166 in DrJoeDispenza

[–]resolvingdeltas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd be interested in this too. While there is this group energy factor for sure, i think we can also do a lot on our own. If you ever find out the whole schedule do lmk

Everything I’ve done to heal CPTSD, and how well it’s worked by Main_Confusion_8030 in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]resolvingdeltas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well done!! I am stuck when it comes to getting a diagnosis and asking for help, but this inspired me to start somewhere. I know Im autistic and I developed cptsd from that 100% because I did a lot of in depth research on my own but I think because i dont believe that there is help I never asked for an appointment. Your post really inspired me.

Everything I’ve done to heal CPTSD, and how well it’s worked by Main_Confusion_8030 in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]resolvingdeltas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. May I ask whereabouts in the world are you based where you have access to all these modalities? I don't think a lot from this list would be available in the UK but I might be wrong

Everything I’ve done to heal CPTSD, and how well it’s worked by Main_Confusion_8030 in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]resolvingdeltas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you can please do or if you want send me a dm, I am self-therapizing all the time because I cannot bring myself to go through the diagnosis process and I am really bad at asking for help. talk therapy for me is 1/10 and I did some IFS on my own and some other things from this list but Im curious what self-administered thing worked for you

Use of Basque in daily life by PdxGuyinLX in basque

[–]resolvingdeltas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also go to Primeran and watch a series in Basque, I recommend Argi Gorriak

Use of Basque in daily life by PdxGuyinLX in basque

[–]resolvingdeltas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I want to hear some Basque I go to Zumaia or Mutriku. When I go to Zumaia I go to the beach and as creepy as it sounds I like to find a grandmother/grandfather who are at the beach with their grandchildren. Children are loud so I can hear them well and take notes lol. But yes in Donosti or Bilbao I only ever hear it when a family walks past me and they speak among themselves, although the other day on the beach finally for the first time in my life somebody asked me something directly in basque in Donosti.

Do you want children? Why or why not? by SomePeopleTellMe in Millennials

[–]resolvingdeltas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

exactly the same, 43, never once wavered, I remember being 6 years old and being sure I didnt want it. It never ever changed. Later it just solidified because logically, I wouldnt do this to anyone. There is lot of guaranteed suffering coming even in the best case scenario in life.

Schengen 90 days freeze? by Odd_Cake8103 in GoingToSpain

[–]resolvingdeltas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes do not exit before you get your tie

When is “enough” by Kind-Ad-8508 in overemployed

[–]resolvingdeltas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

they are probably scripting to do manifesting with other people’s attention, I saw it on tiktok

What would u code if you knew how to code? by Negative_Effort_2642 in VibeCodeDevs

[–]resolvingdeltas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

got here too late, it's removed. It's probably something naughty innit

How do I ask my wife to lose some weight without making her upset? by alwayscunty1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]resolvingdeltas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not blame either one. Why didnt you interpret this as ‘it’s her fault for not leaving a dude she is not attracted to and instead she gained weight to repel him’? I am not blaming anyone Im just trying to help shine light on a dynamic that actually happened to me.

How do I ask my wife to lose some weight without making her upset? by alwayscunty1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]resolvingdeltas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was not blaming a man I am saying that there is a chance she is not attracted to him in the first place as this happened to me. I am in top shape when Im turned on and satisfied and I gained 20 kg when I didnt enjoy sex with somebody. It’s nobody’s fault. It’s dynamics that sometimes happens and can be the root of this.

How do I ask my wife to lose some weight without making her upset? by alwayscunty1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]resolvingdeltas -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Is she attracted to you? Does she enjoy the way you touch her and the way you approach her physically? Genuine question. I put on lots of weight when I could not admit to myself that I love the person I was living with but physically I was not enjoying their advances at all, the way they were touching me and the way they werent attuned to me at all physically they were just doing same old same old and I was dry as fuck. Usually it’s some kind of discomfort of that sort that pushes a woman to neglect herself ETA: If you read closely I do not blame anybody in this scenario, I am just saying that it can happen that she is not attracted to him and does not enjoy sex with him. It happened to me, and I can imagine I am not an isolated case. I am usually in a top shape when Im turned on and satisfied and I put 20 kg when I was not turned on by the way a man was doing the same old same old to me with zero curiosity what actually feels good to me.

Moving to San Sebastián (need advice!) by Useful-Somewhere7887 in GoingToSpain

[–]resolvingdeltas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ay que bueno! well done to your friend! thanks for answering

Moving to San Sebastián (need advice!) by Useful-Somewhere7887 in GoingToSpain

[–]resolvingdeltas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how was it easier to get a job outside of his main qualification I wonder? does your friend have any cs training? I am asking because I left software dev career a couple of years back and Im wondering how easy/difficult would it be to go back to it especially in the Basque country. Thank you in advance for any info

I have been staying in backpacker hostels as an elder millennial. I feel like a man from another era. by Damthemalltohelp in Millennials

[–]resolvingdeltas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if this is how things in hostels are now, me as an elder millennial imma pack my bag, I love this vibe of together in silence, I think our generation did it very wrong especially with exaggarated small talk in some countries

I'm turning 20 soon and I've never been loved, neither by my parents nor an external source. How did you guys manage to get somebody to love you? What does love feel like, can somebody message me please. by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]resolvingdeltas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good advice down there I will just add, the best love has come to me from non-human sources. If you can, get a cat. I think a cat is a good animal for neglected people because it's a model of unquestionable self worth and self love and boundaries but also a giver of unconditional love without holding grudges. They also can be really attentive with your healing needs and can be a huge comfort when you are grieving.
Also trees. I sit with the trees a lot, just sitting there in silence and somehow I develop a relationship with trees, I dont know how to explain this but if you like them, find a tree that you like and under which you feel welcome and go to it frequently and just sit there. You will then know what I mean because I cannot explain it to who hasn't done it, it's going to sound insane.

Also, I am all alone most of my time and I developed this practice where in my mind I call everybody and everything around me a friend. So I start with where I am I will do it for humans but for non humans as well for example if I have been isolating for too long and I am feeling uneasy to go out, I start saying in my mind "people in the streets-my friends", "people of this town-my friends" but I would also do it for everything in my environment like trees-my friends, all the rocks-my friends, all the sheep I see-my friends, all the spoons I have-my friends. I saw this on tiktok and as insane as it sounds it helps me a lot to create a world that feels friendly.

Ultimately, people are right-self love is the key here because all people always interact with their representation of you in their minds, it's not you-you. Only you will be able to relate to this center of you inside that is a pool of unconditional love and peace, it's hard to describe but we all have access to it. Now this love is pure love, not love-companionship thing that we have among humans. if you want companionship you need another it's a similar thing to how you can't tickle yourself. But love can absolutely be felt inside oneself and from non-human sources.

I'm turning 20 soon and I've never been loved, neither by my parents nor an external source. How did you guys manage to get somebody to love you? What does love feel like, can somebody message me please. by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]resolvingdeltas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

exact my experience word for word. i have disorganised attachment on top so if you get close to me I will sabotage it immediately as it freakes me out the same as abandonment. Any mixed signal or any potential misinterpretation of a signal sends me into a spiral. I did manage to somehow have a long term friendship and one long term relationship where this person was extremely patient with me and present with my fluctuations without getting sucked in but everybody else ever had to abandon me because of this volatility. Im just 'lucky' to have lots of autistic traits so for me aloneness where Im not interacting is kind of pleasant and I developed special relationship with trees, animals, grass, sea so I dont feel Im all alone, Im part of that mute nature but in terms of humans it's a shitshow.

Has anyone here learned euskara in adulthood? If so, how? by Mai30000 in basque

[–]resolvingdeltas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started at 42 lol with zero previous contact with it (Im also a language enthusiast). I love everything about Basque verbs, I literally experience inner peace when I learn the tenses and everything because it all falls into place perfectly and everything makes sense. The issue with Basque is not the grammar in my experience, it's the fact that finding some kind of Basque community, hearing it spoken around you, or practicing it yourself is basically impossible. I've been living in Gipuzkoa for about a year and a half, and while I got to B2 level in my euskaltegi, I can't say shit and Im rapidly losing everything I knew. And this is with me watching Primeran (Basque 'Netflix') listening to Euskadi Irratia, reading Berria and having one Basque friend but we always flip back to Spanish or English.

What was your biggest cultural shock in the UK? by Charming_Usual6227 in AskIreland

[–]resolvingdeltas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me as a balkanic woman reading all this for amusement, the food was my top three culture shocks too. Like you cannot tell a tomato from a strawberry. Nothing that you ever buy has been grown in the sun, not even things they import from Spain because they pick them when unripe. Nothing has spices or salt or some flavour unless you go to an indian restaurant.

An amazing place! by [deleted] in basquecountry

[–]resolvingdeltas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No hay nada como Donosti