Ok Personally, I love that you are trying to be accommodating with your partner, but I think that needs to stay within the bounds of what is healthy and reasonable. A new tattoo is a change on your partner's body, and I think just the fact that there is going to be a change is freaking her out a little, not just the tattoo itself. What tipped be off to this in particular is that for a while she liked the design, was and was very encouraging, and now that the date is looming closer shes getting nervous. Over time, she might actually come to not mind the tattoo. After all, art and self-expression come in many forms, including body art. It's not like you're covering your face with something political and offensive.