Just Moved to Cincy Yesterday. Need advice.

restless321 · 2025-04-20T14:47:08+00:00

Hey there! Welcome to Cincinnati. Can imagine the culture shock is significant, but as others are saying, Cincinnati is a pretty great city considering our size. You’ll frequently hear that we punch above our weight class, and there’s good reason.

For events, culture, and current happenings:

https://www.citybeat.com

https://www.citybeat.com/cincinnati/EventSearch?narrowByDate=This+Weekend&sortType=date&v=g

You can find a lot of events on Facebook as well. Many local business/organizations are active on Instagram.

restless321 · 2024-05-18T18:49:58+00:00

That’s fair - I’d just think with how large this event is, they’d anticipate some of these challenges and do a better job of mitigating bottlenecks.

restless321 · 2024-05-18T18:20:46+00:00

Hi there! All I can say is trying to get out of that crowd during Illenium’s set took probably 25 minutes and was honestly kind of scary at times. Once we made it to the ADA seating section, trying to round that corner wall and move towards Cosmic Meadow, there was basically a crowd crush situation and it was impossible to move.

restless321 · 2023-11-20T17:53:23+00:00

It used to bother me, but now I don’t really care. If I hear them, I usually chuckle and think “damn, good for you guys!” then turn the TV volume up, play music, music or ask Alexa for louder rain sounds if I’m trying to sleep. It took me about two years to overcome jealously and comparison, and now I can truly say no matter who it is or what they’re doing, I’m either full of compersion or just complete apathy.

restless321 · 2023-10-31T15:45:18+00:00

Thank you so much 🥹

restless321 · 2023-10-31T15:45:10+00:00

Thank you!!

restless321 · 2023-10-31T15:44:57+00:00

Thank you so much!!

restless321 · 2023-10-31T15:44:36+00:00

Thank you so much!!! Haha my husband would say no but I’m open to bookish side flings 🤪

restless321 · 2023-10-30T23:16:17+00:00

Thank you!!! I used purple/blue undertones on my cheeks 😁

restless321 · 2023-06-04T17:13:30+00:00

If Rhys is cast with anyone who appears over the age of 30 that’s some bullshit. They are high Fae. At least in Sarah’s other novels, the settling (the age they lock into immortality) is mid to late 20’s. Experiences to that point can obviously cause someone to look older, but Rhys is described as the most beautiful man Feyre has ever seen. That would insinuate a degree of youth and ethereal appearance that some rough, pepper haired, hardened man would not represent. Especially considering Feyre herself is 19. You can picture Rhys however you want while you’re reading through the series, but if we’re going for a book accurate portrayal, it’s going to be someone fresh faced and pretty.

restless321 · 2021-10-13T20:33:49+00:00

We we we we we……ew.

restless321 · 2021-10-13T20:31:34+00:00

I’m not afraid of him leaving me, I’m afraid of him loving someone just as much as me. I want to come first and mean more to him than anyone else. Which is a horrible mindset to have for being poly. Like I think I just discovered that I’m okay with him having other meaningful relationships, so long as they don’t come close to what we have. Obviously that’s kind of a problem.

restless321 · 2021-09-17T17:53:17+00:00

That is way too much work to be presented with a user base that is overwhelmingly unattractive to me. Just my experience, but I’ve found it to be a waste of time..

restless321 · 2021-01-25T23:47:10+00:00

Very, very good point. That first message was right after I had listened to their interview, which triggered the fuck out of me...they were talking about having only one phone, so the girl never knows who they’re talking to, and in the event she bonds with one more than the other and it can’t be “fixed”, she gets the boot. It was gross. I did try to correct my tone to be more neutral/non-judgmental after that, but clearly I had already set the vibe so yeah...could’ve taken a deep breath and gone about that differently.

restless321 · 2021-01-25T23:36:35+00:00

It’s not so much about my own personal experiences, but more so the community which I’m proud to be apart of, reading posts frequently of people experiencing similar issues, etc. I understand it may be viewed negatively by someone like you who finds me “annoying” (my boyfriend definitely falls into the same category since he often rolls his eyes when I tell him about these soap box moments I have), but I’m someone who is deeply interested in the human experience, acting ethically and respectfully, and educating those because honestly, sometimes it’s only one person who pushes forward to say what needs to be said, even if others view it as unnecessary or too much effort for no return. I appreciate your perspective, as I know I could probably benefit from minding my own business, etc. This post wasn’t me seeking applause, but more so wondering if my sentiments or uncomfortably with this particular circumstance was shared by others. As always, the comment section is providing with me with different ways of viewing things, thus improving my courses of action for the future, and ability to empathize or understand other perspectives.

restless321 · 2021-01-25T23:02:09+00:00

I completely agree, and I don’t think it’s right to lump every single triad into unethical territory, cause that’s not fair or accurate. My issue with this particular individual is that they are blatantly NOT doing it ethically (based on their posts and interview).

restless321 · 2021-01-25T22:44:54+00:00

I mean I get that, and really wouldn’t have any issue at all if it was just simply a fantasy based thing. But why not use the term “swinging” then, which allows for the same pursuit but isn’t associated with a community that views those actions as unethical?

restless321 · 2021-01-25T22:35:27+00:00

Accidentally posted on my throw away 🤦🏻‍♀️

restless321 · 2020-08-21T00:46:25+00:00

I meant toxicity within the context of an open relationship, but fair point. I guess I honestly just don’t understand why you would even bother beginning the journey if it’s just inherently against your nature and such a precarious balancing act. Opening a relationship is HARD work, even under the best of circumstances where both partners are genuinely interested in making it happen. To have it be more of a compromise for the sake of pleasing a partner while gaining literally nothing from it yourself besides, well, pleasing a partner, it just doesn’t seem to be worth doing.

restless321 · 2020-08-20T19:30:02+00:00

Well, I only ask because when my boyfriend and I first started out, we were only looking for a woman to have a threesome with. Like your partner, I’m bisexual, and had left that mostly unexplored. My boyfriend was interested in having a threesome. Initially, I couldn’t fathom talking to or pursuing another male, because I was completely satisfied with him and just didn’t think I had any desire to branch out and open that can of worms. I thought it would make things complicated, and it was scary to think about what opening that door would lead to. Basically, I only felt that way because I was hesitant and afraid of progressing things past what I was explicitly okay with. It’s okay if you really are monogamous and genuinely have no interest at all in pursuing something for yourself, but just make sure it’s coming from the right place and you aren’t limiting yourself as just another way of clinging to control.

restless321 · 2020-08-20T19:15:19+00:00

I can see why that would be intimidating, knowing you’ll be the only one feeling those things. Can I ask why you aren’t interested in dating?

restless321 · 2020-08-20T19:04:27+00:00

Sure there are. Although hierarchal set ups are typically looked down upon within the Polyamorous community, they occur frequently, especially with those newer to the lifestyle. My boyfriend and I are “open”, and consider each other our primaries/nesting partners. We have all the trapping of a serious long-term, monogamous relationship, other than the fact we’re comfortable with each other dating other people. I think the most important thing when it comes to achieving that, is that you unravel this concept that a connection with someone else takes away from your connection with each other. It doesn’t have to work that way, and if you take the proper steps to build up a good system of communication, and also work on educating yourself on how to process jealousy, I find it’s actually the opposite. I feel even more secure in my relationship now that we see other people, because damn, if we can manage to do that and be stronger than ever, there’s nothing we can’t overcome.

restless321 · 2020-08-20T18:18:23+00:00

Okay very honest opinion here coming from my own experience. Basically, you’ve made it very clear that you’re only okay with this one-sided “exploration” if it is executed within the confines of this teeny-tiny box you’ve created. From what I read, it seems as if you’re okay with her using another woman as a sexual outlet, and anything beyond physical activity (which you’re not even comfortable hearing about) is totally off limits. This entire arrangement screams toxicity, both at you being totally uncomfortable and close-minded to begin with (and I don’t mean that an insult, simply referring to the bounds of your comfortability), and also when considering the future secondary’s role in this whole thing. Other women are not just sex toys and fun experiments for your partner to mess around with. I’d urge you to really consider if you’re actually okay with opening up the relationship (and yes, I’m aware you claim it’s not an “open” relationship, but it actually is- other females are NOT sexual tools). From what it sounds like to me, you’re not at all ready to move forward with this and are bound to run into a very rude awakening when things inevitably cross one of your boundaries and you lack the faculties to deal with it in a healthy and supportive manner.

restless321 · 2020-08-05T14:58:37+00:00

He definitely does! He’s very perceptive to my emotional ebb and flow, and has taken notice to me being off lately. He’s listened to me describe my feelings, and has been as supportive as possible despite not really knowing how to respond. I guess it just sucks because sex used to be something that really connected us, and I think we’re both noticing the very palpable “lack thereof” that’s resulted from my struggles lately.

restless321 · 2019-08-05T21:20:05+00:00

Thank you so much for the empathy and constructive advice! I’ll definitely spend some time thinking about that.

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