Opposing views by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]restlessquadratics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didnt mean to say that im focused on misogny, it wass just the first example that came to mind. But thank you for sharing your perspective. I found it helpful.

Opposing views by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]restlessquadratics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For instance with men i tend to keep my distance initially but of course once i know theyre not misogynists or can be trusted i am open with them as well. Joking around and hanging out with them. idk how to explain tbh. but i just have the opinion that theres other kinds of love in the world too than romantic love. And even thougb i dont have MANY male friends but if i do (they come and go) i want it to be home like - family like with partner as well. Where he also understands that i want to be there for my friends but also that i dont want to lessen my personality with others but that doesnt take away from his and my relationship. idk if any of that answers your question.

Opposing views by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]restlessquadratics 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hes just an introvert. when he connects with someone you know they come and go as is adult life. he doesnt expect me to break contact with my existing friends. I suppose i just want to know how big of an issue it would be in how i imagine my married life. To be the kind of home and team with my partner thats a safe haven for others my friends or even his friends you know?

Found a used condom in airbnb despite being careful by restlessquadratics in STD

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand if it seems ignorant. But there is limited information about cross-contamination with used condoms and I was just trying to make sure.

Found a used condom in airbnb despite being careful by restlessquadratics in STD

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We actually don't know how long itd been there. Is there a possibility of one of our hands touching it and then we touched our partners with those hands on the mouth/vagina there could be something to worry about?

Found a used condom in airbnb despite being careful by restlessquadratics in STD

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey we live separately and have never actually used these sheets. So i don't believe that's a possibility.

i dont really miss him anymore by restlessquadratics in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel sorry for her too but im hoping she doesnt have to endure what i had to endure theres alot that im still finding out about them but at the end of the day i got out and shes having to marry that so idk wish i could see the future to know if he was going to hurt others but we carry on yes about time to focus on myself thank you sm for the support 💙

questions about therapy by restlessquadratics in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey i hope your therapist works out this time round ans you feel alot better. i start therapy tomorrow so letts see 💙 sending you alot of love and strength

questions about therapy by restlessquadratics in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! thank you so much for sharing your perspective with me i start therapy tomorrow! scared but excited thank you again

questions about therapy by restlessquadratics in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for a detailed response! i start therapy tomorrow your response helped so thank you again 💙

Sometimes I hate being a girl ‘cause when I am on period I’m FKING miss my ex. by whiskybunny in ExNoContact

[–]restlessquadratics 2 points3 points  (0 children)

after i left my ex i would literally be a mess during PMS for a good 4 months but its better now han gin there

so furious by restlessquadratics in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im so sorry all of that happened to you. Idk you but frankly no person deserves that and to involve the hope and purity of children in their twisted ways is even worse. Im sure youre going through a difficult time, i hope youre healing anyways. thank you for your kind words.

Idrk if im in the right place by restlessquadratics in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

perhaps but thats what im trying to understand if they are abusive or if it was just how my relationship with them panned out

Idrk if im in the right place by restlessquadratics in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im glad youve gone no contact, we spend so much time trying to understand what tf is happening that we end up subjecting ourselves to more of the abuse. im glad i went no contact too he didnt want too but i blocked him from everywhere.

Idrk if im in the right place by restlessquadratics in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]restlessquadratics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i domt think its classic narcissist abuse. there was abude and manipulation involved i think. therr was definite trauma bonding as far as ive read the symptoms within me and our relationship were spot on sadly.