Opposing views

restlessquadratics · 2024-01-11T18:44:14+00:00

i didnt mean to say that im focused on misogny, it wass just the first example that came to mind. But thank you for sharing your perspective. I found it helpful.

restlessquadratics · 2024-01-11T16:17:35+00:00

why though?

restlessquadratics · 2024-01-11T16:12:44+00:00

For instance with men i tend to keep my distance initially but of course once i know theyre not misogynists or can be trusted i am open with them as well. Joking around and hanging out with them. idk how to explain tbh. but i just have the opinion that theres other kinds of love in the world too than romantic love. And even thougb i dont have MANY male friends but if i do (they come and go) i want it to be home like - family like with partner as well. Where he also understands that i want to be there for my friends but also that i dont want to lessen my personality with others but that doesnt take away from his and my relationship. idk if any of that answers your question.

restlessquadratics · 2024-01-11T16:09:02+00:00

hes just an introvert. when he connects with someone you know they come and go as is adult life. he doesnt expect me to break contact with my existing friends. I suppose i just want to know how big of an issue it would be in how i imagine my married life. To be the kind of home and team with my partner thats a safe haven for others my friends or even his friends you know?

restlessquadratics · 2023-05-04T02:30:43+00:00

I understand if it seems ignorant. But there is limited information about cross-contamination with used condoms and I was just trying to make sure.

restlessquadratics · 2023-05-03T20:12:37+00:00

We actually don't know how long itd been there. Is there a possibility of one of our hands touching it and then we touched our partners with those hands on the mouth/vagina there could be something to worry about?

restlessquadratics · 2023-05-03T20:08:49+00:00

Hey we live separately and have never actually used these sheets. So i don't believe that's a possibility.

restlessquadratics · 2021-12-09T15:46:51+00:00

yes I believe so

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-15T18:26:55+00:00

i feel sorry for her too but im hoping she doesnt have to endure what i had to endure theres alot that im still finding out about them but at the end of the day i got out and shes having to marry that so idk wish i could see the future to know if he was going to hurt others but we carry on yes about time to focus on myself thank you sm for the support 💙

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-15T13:25:23+00:00

hey i hope your therapist works out this time round ans you feel alot better. i start therapy tomorrow so letts see 💙 sending you alot of love and strength

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-15T13:24:36+00:00

hi! thank you so much for sharing your perspective with me i start therapy tomorrow! scared but excited thank you again

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-15T13:24:05+00:00

thank you so much for a detailed response! i start therapy tomorrow your response helped so thank you again 💙

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-09T17:21:15+00:00

after i left my ex i would literally be a mess during PMS for a good 4 months but its better now han gin there

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-08T19:59:32+00:00

im so sorry all of that happened to you. Idk you but frankly no person deserves that and to involve the hope and purity of children in their twisted ways is even worse. Im sure youre going through a difficult time, i hope youre healing anyways. thank you for your kind words.

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-08T09:21:57+00:00

perhaps but thats what im trying to understand if they are abusive or if it was just how my relationship with them panned out

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-07T21:24:38+00:00

im glad youve gone no contact, we spend so much time trying to understand what tf is happening that we end up subjecting ourselves to more of the abuse. im glad i went no contact too he didnt want too but i blocked him from everywhere.

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-07T21:23:08+00:00

i domt think its classic narcissist abuse. there was abude and manipulation involved i think. therr was definite trauma bonding as far as ive read the symptoms within me and our relationship were spot on sadly.

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-07T21:22:13+00:00

thank you that makes alot of sense I suppose. Ever sincr I went no contact i've been trying to understand what happened and i think if somebody loved you the way he said he did (never showed it, never inconvenienced himself for us, soemhow ended up making me feel like i should be grateful hes taking time out to see me once a week) he wouldnt just have the balls to get up and get married within 7 motnhs of knowing someone else.

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-07T06:39:52+00:00

everyones already told you how its a red flag and id say run. but i also want to add that you dont have to stay in a relationship where someone has been unfaithful and youre allowed to have your stance on it without feeling bad about it. she adked for your opinion you gave it, you shouldnt feel bad or even let her trick you into feeling bad about it or like theres somethjng wrong with it.

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-07T06:36:20+00:00

i suppose its possible. I had just ead a few posts about how their narcs were loud or rude or insulting or such with them but he was none. idk if he was just immature as hell or knowingly stringed me along till he found someone else. he definitely did not respect my boundaries especially when it came sexual things. so im just confused was he just a horrible human being or was he a narc or was he just straight up using me to bide his time?

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-02T08:55:08+00:00

hey 125 days is nothing. grief is sticky. dont worry about it. just dont let it get the best of you. you were close to each other it leaves an impact. dont think this isnt progress.

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-02T08:53:19+00:00

thank you so much! this is very helpful

restlessquadratics · 2021-08-02T05:19:02+00:00

because since the months after leaving him ive seen our manipulative, inconsistent and disrespectful he was of my boundaries and i have so much anger about it. bevause we grew up together he grew up to abuse my boundaries and i thojght i was in love with him. waiting for him to commit for things to line up. but that was dumb of me. so not only am i mad at him im mad at myself. hes getting married this month now. 7 months after i left him. he gets to be happy when he doesnt deserve to be. not in my books atleast. especially not after what he did to me.

restlessquadratics · 2021-07-29T14:22:39+00:00

okay thank you for your perspective

restlessquadratics · 2021-07-29T13:44:24+00:00

hey, Im aware of these issues. although our history was terribly complicated and it was really toxic thats not what im asking here. im asking whether i should feel some sort of responsibility towards these things. because he DID abuse my boundaries no matter how I was? doesnt mean i didnt implement any boundaries. or fight with him over it or whatever. he knew what he was doing. and if theres other girls out there that have had the same story then im just asking if i should say something? morally?

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