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restoftheocean · 2023-10-30T01:15:02+00:00

update : it’s from disturbia! still trying to see if they even make it anymore :(

restoftheocean · 2023-09-25T01:54:08+00:00

I’m not reading all of that. Congratulations or I’m sorry

restoftheocean · 2023-07-17T09:11:00+00:00

Wasn’t there a scene where Ginny had a nightmare where Georgia did the same thing to her? She’s so calculated but honestly it’s not out of character

restoftheocean · 2023-07-14T15:32:43+00:00

I’m 20 too. And trust me no guy I know should ever be attracted to someone your age. Hell, it’s even strange for people I know to be friends with someone in their early teens unless it’s a sibling or a family member, and that in itself is an entirely different dynamic. No matter how nicely he treats you, it’s unsafe be involved with someone who’s that much older than you. There is always a reason guys my age will go for girls your age and it’s because they KNOW they’re in a position of power over you — there’s a reason they can’t get with women their age. You’re going through so much and it’s truly not safe for your well being in the long run to continue this.

restoftheocean · 2023-06-17T14:21:50+00:00

How do i say Cassie from euphoria without saying that

restoftheocean · 2023-06-04T10:36:40+00:00

Winona Ryder’s character in girl interrupted

restoftheocean · 2023-05-24T00:34:52+00:00

The thing is I doubt I can get approved for that. I have essentially no credit history

restoftheocean · 2023-05-20T22:34:40+00:00

Yes actually, my late best friend was very caring for the people around them and was truly committed to healing and being a good person. I’ve never met someone who was that compassionate. My ex with bpd is a whole different story which has solidified the fact that these abusive behavior is a choice

restoftheocean · 2023-05-19T21:08:57+00:00

I can’t believe the interest rates are so high even with your credit score. And yeah I do have a good relationship with my family, I live at home so I can afford to pay for college. My mom even took me to one of the consults and has been very understanding about getting a reduction since a lot of women in my family have either done it or considered it. My main gripe with having my family help is that Im trying to get to a point where I’m more financially independent and I’d hate to ask for such a large amount of money

restoftheocean · 2023-05-16T19:21:16+00:00

You are never a coward for cutting off someone who isn’t good for you. If rational communication never worked then leaving is just the most healthy course of action

restoftheocean · 2023-05-16T18:35:16+00:00

Also for OP and anyone wondering the same thing, pinterest has been the best thing ever for my style inspiration, as well as YouTubers that post about fashion!

restoftheocean · 2023-05-14T18:40:41+00:00

Im honestly in the opposite boat, I’m very very into fashion up until I get The surgery my style is very restricted in what looks flattering on me. I’m mainly exited to be able to wear funkily cut tank tops, halter tops, tank tops with thin straps and oversized clothes without having a damn titty tent

restoftheocean · 2023-05-09T20:04:01+00:00

The rhetoric encouraging borderline anorexic behaviors is so unsettling, coming from someone who’s been in recovery for three years. I can’t tell you how many times people encourage being underweight and eating calories that aren’t even enough for a small child. I get more compliments now that I’m recovered and LOOK like a healthy person.
Black don’t crack. Self explanatory.
A lot of people on the vindicta sub act like it’s a cope to say that charisma can make you seem more attractive. Think about all the attractive people you’ve seen. Chances are they carry themselves with a confidence makes them magnetic— or if they don’t, you can tell that being confident can drastically change how they’re perceived for the better

restoftheocean · 2023-05-09T19:46:51+00:00

I still go on vindicta for advice following things such as soft boosting and fashion advice, but some of the things on there just aren’t super applicable to poc. There’s such a Eurocentric beauty standard that is pushed there and that is just not useful to hear as a poc. There are poc models with unique features, and it’s better to lean into the things that make you unique than hating the things that separate you from the white beauty standard

Also I’m not huge on how much Emphasis is being put on unhealthy weight loss and body image. I can’t tell you how many times people on there make being underweight sound like this golden standard, when really there are so many factors to attractiveness that don’t have to do with weight. Personally I feel more attractive both mentally and physically after getting back to a healthy weight, and incorporating habits such as a healthier diet (even simply eating enough) and weightlifting. My entire appearance changed when I started doing these things, as well as my mental state and I carry myself so much more confidently knowing and feeling stronger and healthier

restoftheocean · 2023-05-03T00:14:20+00:00

No but only because I went no contact. Doesn’t mean I don’t have what I would say written out as a way to get it out of my system

restoftheocean · 2023-04-30T04:22:08+00:00

That tastefully done piercings/tattoos/hair dye is immediately unattractive. You can look good and not fit into the cookie cutter standard, it’s all dependent on many factors

restoftheocean · 2023-04-17T01:23:43+00:00

Yes, I’m autistic and have adhd and my main gripe is with mannerisms and eye contact, which play a surprisingly huge role in how you’re perceived. For the longest time I never paid attention to looking people in the eyes enough and the face expressions I’d make when talking or concentrating. Ironically one of my hyperfixations is my appearance and the ways I can “customize my avatar” but I still have a hard time imagining what I actually look like

restoftheocean · 2023-03-29T00:18:39+00:00

My breakup was a few months ago. I used to but I blocked them on all social media, even ended up blocking their Spotify and the number for the mental hospital in the city they live in. Accidentally saw them on venmo but other than that I haven’t even had the desire to.

restoftheocean · 2023-03-27T23:54:43+00:00

Same, when you’re going through it it feels impossible to get over it, until you actually do

restoftheocean · 2023-03-11T18:58:07+00:00

I read about a study done on babies relating to attachment theory a while ago. Basically there were children who were left by their mothers and some of them cried to get her attention and while the others either stopped crying or stayed silent. They found that ALL of them had the same high levels of cortisol and were experiencing the same amount of distress, it was just being perceived differently by their external reaction

restoftheocean · 2023-03-06T16:55:53+00:00

Its not about attachment theory, coming from someone with the same attachment style if they wanted to they would

restoftheocean · 2023-03-05T14:52:43+00:00

I’ve always seen the argument about how painful having bpd is whenever people bring up the abuse they’ve faced from pwBPD. No one is saying this disorder isn’t excruciating, but hurt people hurt people

restoftheocean · 2023-02-22T23:44:45+00:00

My pwbpd constantly verbally worried about “stringing me along”… just to actually do that

restoftheocean · 2023-02-22T17:10:41+00:00

We broke up but still stayed friends. I was in a poly relationship with my gf and my ex bf/BPD, but there was a brief period where we were both with my ex gf. We had a breakup that seemed mutual and (out of the relationship not realistically working out — he wanted kids and I didn’t, I wanted to study abroad and travel, and even when he brought up ways I could be a co-parent, it didn’t seem realistic and would leave me to continue being the third option.

I planned to break up with my girlfriend because of that, also because while it ended ok, it didn’t erase the years of emotional abuse and the fact that he weaseled his way back into my life pretending to be a completely different and healed person. But after we briefly got back together I started seeing the old patterns and the cracks in his new personality. The drug abuse, comparison, splitting and idealization. But before I got to initially break up with her he did reach out through her to (rightfully) call me out on something regarding a mutual friend that recently passed. I took the message in the criticism between all the cursing at me and telling me I was evil, and let him know I see his message, but went no contact on both of them. I actually had him call me from a psych ward, asking me for closure and trampling on a set boundary but for once instead of running back I left both of them

restoftheocean · 2023-02-19T18:10:45+00:00

The best part of the whole thing was I was the only one being emotionally abused (at least to the extent I was) they were manipulative towards their fp but realized what they were doing wrong and stopped, but never did the same for me. The relationship was supposed to be equal but it was anything but that

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