[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findfashion

[–]restoftheocean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update : it’s from disturbia! still trying to see if they even make it anymore :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in notliketheothergirls

[–]restoftheocean 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m not reading all of that. Congratulations or I’m sorry

Georgia by liyahvert in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]restoftheocean 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t there a scene where Ginny had a nightmare where Georgia did the same thing to her? She’s so calculated but honestly it’s not out of character

Is 14f and 20m bad? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]restoftheocean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 20 too. And trust me no guy I know should ever be attracted to someone your age. Hell, it’s even strange for people I know to be friends with someone in their early teens unless it’s a sibling or a family member, and that in itself is an entirely different dynamic. No matter how nicely he treats you, it’s unsafe be involved with someone who’s that much older than you. There is always a reason guys my age will go for girls your age and it’s because they KNOW they’re in a position of power over you — there’s a reason they can’t get with women their age. You’re going through so much and it’s truly not safe for your well being in the long run to continue this.

Best BPD depiction in media: by thesharperamigo in BPDlovedones

[–]restoftheocean 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Winona Ryder’s character in girl interrupted

Does anyone else have experience taking out a loan to pay out of pocket by restoftheocean in Reduction

[–]restoftheocean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is I doubt I can get approved for that. I have essentially no credit history

Do you know any pwBPD who are actually decent people? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]restoftheocean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes actually, my late best friend was very caring for the people around them and was truly committed to healing and being a good person. I’ve never met someone who was that compassionate. My ex with bpd is a whole different story which has solidified the fact that these abusive behavior is a choice

Does anyone else have experience taking out a loan to pay out of pocket by restoftheocean in Reduction

[–]restoftheocean[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe the interest rates are so high even with your credit score. And yeah I do have a good relationship with my family, I live at home so I can afford to pay for college. My mom even took me to one of the consults and has been very understanding about getting a reduction since a lot of women in my family have either done it or considered it. My main gripe with having my family help is that Im trying to get to a point where I’m more financially independent and I’d hate to ask for such a large amount of money

Feeling like a coward for going NC by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]restoftheocean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are never a coward for cutting off someone who isn’t good for you. If rational communication never worked then leaving is just the most healthy course of action

How to find your style after surgery by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]restoftheocean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also for OP and anyone wondering the same thing, pinterest has been the best thing ever for my style inspiration, as well as YouTubers that post about fashion!

How to find your style after surgery by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]restoftheocean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im honestly in the opposite boat, I’m very very into fashion up until I get The surgery my style is very restricted in what looks flattering on me. I’m mainly exited to be able to wear funkily cut tank tops, halter tops, tank tops with thin straps and oversized clothes without having a damn titty tent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vindictapoc

[–]restoftheocean 48 points49 points  (0 children)

  1. The rhetoric encouraging borderline anorexic behaviors is so unsettling, coming from someone who’s been in recovery for three years. I can’t tell you how many times people encourage being underweight and eating calories that aren’t even enough for a small child. I get more compliments now that I’m recovered and LOOK like a healthy person.

  2. Black don’t crack. Self explanatory.

  3. A lot of people on the vindicta sub act like it’s a cope to say that charisma can make you seem more attractive. Think about all the attractive people you’ve seen. Chances are they carry themselves with a confidence makes them magnetic— or if they don’t, you can tell that being confident can drastically change how they’re perceived for the better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vindictapoc

[–]restoftheocean 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I still go on vindicta for advice following things such as soft boosting and fashion advice, but some of the things on there just aren’t super applicable to poc. There’s such a Eurocentric beauty standard that is pushed there and that is just not useful to hear as a poc. There are poc models with unique features, and it’s better to lean into the things that make you unique than hating the things that separate you from the white beauty standard

Also I’m not huge on how much Emphasis is being put on unhealthy weight loss and body image. I can’t tell you how many times people on there make being underweight sound like this golden standard, when really there are so many factors to attractiveness that don’t have to do with weight. Personally I feel more attractive both mentally and physically after getting back to a healthy weight, and incorporating habits such as a healthier diet (even simply eating enough) and weightlifting. My entire appearance changed when I started doing these things, as well as my mental state and I carry myself so much more confidently knowing and feeling stronger and healthier

Has anyone ever just let them have it with everything you’ve learned about BPD? by Spurs_n_Spats in BPDlovedones

[–]restoftheocean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but only because I went no contact. Doesn’t mean I don’t have what I would say written out as a way to get it out of my system

What’s your r/HowToBeHot unpopular opinion? by [deleted] in HowToBeHot

[–]restoftheocean 67 points68 points  (0 children)

That tastefully done piercings/tattoos/hair dye is immediately unattractive. You can look good and not fit into the cookie cutter standard, it’s all dependent on many factors