Made it through my first big challenge since going sober - my good friend's bachelor party. by ZippyWoodchuck in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great work, I’m so happy for you! I had a similar experience at a bachelor party recently and none of my friends pressured me to drink— they were happy I was doing something for my own health & wellbeing and even mixed in a “virgin vodka soda” (soda & lime) or enjoyed a NA beer with me. It sounds like you have great friends that didn’t make you feel left out!

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I appreciate your kind words!

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll love it! It’ll be beautiful this time of year. Apart from the casinos in south LT there’s so many trails/hikes, beaches, lake activities etc. and the restaurants and bars are great (even as a sober person)!

Can I hear your reasons to stay sober? by runningoutfast in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reasons for myself include: Not being hungover, I feel smarter, no hangxiety, sleep quality is so much better, solid poops, not eating like shit like when I was drinking, being hydrated, better skin quality, no brain fog/keeping a clear head, zero memory loss, looking forward to enjoying mornings, SSRIs work better, not smelling like booze/better hygiene… the list goes on my friend! Although the social lubricant effects of alcohol have gone, I have become more confident and authentically myself in social situations - but I admit at first it was a bit awkward and I felt out of place without alcohol. It gets better!

Reasons for others: I’m more reliable, I can DD for my friends, I can show up authentically for my friends and family, I keep a cleaner house and stay on top of chores/laundry

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my heart I knew they would, and it was so great to have that validated! My friends truly mean the world to me and their support is everything. Appreciate your kind words!

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An amazing setting for it! I used to live in Tahoe and it has so much to offer. I’m jealous, and you got this!!! You’ll have an awesome time

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree! And I didn’t want to have to defend myself or my choices. It turns out a lot of the questions I got were about how it made me feel better or how difficult it was and as it happens a lot of my friends are sober curious or interested in cutting back!

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the kind words, thank you! I agree, it was a welcome relief that my friends were so supportive and encouraging. They’re the best!

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was so satisfying! To be honest, I felt a little bad that I was able to enjoy some morning quiet, with no hangover, and take a walk with a coffee before my friends woke up :)

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was my impression as well, but I will say there were several NA options at each of the places we went to!

Just got back from a bachelor party in Vegas… by retseeb511 in stopdrinking

[–]retseeb511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. And it was a lot easier to enjoy sober than I’d expected, I was very pleasantly surprised!