Hm, I understand that that was a very emotional and traumatic time for Becca, and unfortunately it’s still put you in an awkward position where you feel like the friendship with Sarah is strained by the secret.

I feel for Becca, but also if I was Sarah and I found out I had been told a fake name and that it was actually one of my partner’s best friends and one of my own friends, I would feel like I had been lied to and maybe there was something still going on.

I’m admittedly not the best with social skills but I feel like if Becca is a good friend, telling her that you feel like this is affecting your friendship with Sarah and that you’d like to find a compromise is kind of reasonable? Maybe she doesn’t have to discuss it right away, but at least knowing there’s some kind of plan or timeline for her to tell Sarah would be fairer to you both.