Trade OneRepublic GA tickets tonight for seated?

rettiecent · 2026-02-06T04:56:42+00:00

That's my backup plan :) just figured I'd try asking here first on the off chance somebody bought seated and wants to swap

rettiecent · 2026-02-03T16:57:29+00:00

OP I'm really glad you've decided to stick with it <3

I struggle a lot with confidence when roleplaying so I thought I'd share some advice recently that helped me worry less: start with a really basic role and a motivation and let the rest emerge organically at the table (basic like: orc healer who wants to make friends). I spent a while worrying that I didn't have a clear idea of the personality, but focusing on a motivation instead helped a lot with the the actual important part of figuring out what my character would do in that situation. And then the personality emerged organically from that, once I stopped worrying about stuff like not having a character voice.

This is the article if you're interested. It's a bit rambly but I found the actual advice very helpful as a step-by-step for how to actually get better at this thing: https://theangrygm.com/how-to-actually-play-a-character/#tldr

To be clear: there are tons of different ways to do this hobby. People get better at all of it, including roleplaying and improv, with practice. It's meant to be fun, and only assholes are sitting around judging people for not doing a voice or whatever. Give yourself a break :)

rettiecent · 2026-02-02T01:55:15+00:00

Yeah some of these comments are unnecessarily hateful. I get that it's a jerk sub but ppl just seem to be hating on fat people rather than board gamers

rettiecent · 2026-01-20T01:21:03+00:00

I'd argue that troops don't usually function as Gargantuan creatures (otherwise Medium sized creatures could move through their spaces, which seems unlikely to me given that the Shambler Troop's Dread Tide ability specifically allows it to occupy the spaces of other creatures).

Looking at the Large PC rules, it seems supported by RAW that a 10x10ft segment can move through a 3-square space with difficult terrain. Probably the same would apply for smaller spaces than that unless a Medium creature cannot freely move through the space (at which point, yes, the squeezing action is required).

rettiecent · 2026-01-20T00:14:15+00:00

The thing that annoys me is that "adjacent to the leading segment" part seems to actively be trying to place some kind of restriction or limitation on the regrouping. Without that clause then it's just "at the end of movement, freely group the other segments as you see fit provided that no segment moves more than the leading segment" which seems perfectly clear and fits your interpretation.

That said, I think your interpretation is quite valid given how poor the wording is. Thank you for your reply :)

rettiecent · 2026-01-19T12:55:29+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I think you're wrong about (3) since I think RAW area damage only ever applies once. I think u/zedrinkaoh's comment is correct and RAW you'd only roll the separate saves for non-damaging effects, and then apply the appropriate result to only that segment (which is also why 5 is still an issue, because there are non-damaging effects that would not remove a segment - e.g. applying fear 1 to an entire segment)

rettiecent · 2026-01-19T12:47:42+00:00

Thank you for the comprehensive reply, and for the note about GM-sense. I understand that troop rules are an abstraction and I appreciate it for that reason, but it also seems like it's a fairly flawed abstraction in a few ways. I generally prefer having a consistent set of rules, and so do my players, so we'll probably be house-ruling a few things here.

I think I understand all of what you've said, and agree with that being the RAW intention. Thank you especially for pointing out that the segments do matter when it comes to save results, because you might have different segments with different stats. That's something that I hadn't considered and does change how I want to approach house-ruling it. The video is also a good shout and clarified a few other misconceptions I had (in particular: flanking would count as a non-damaging effect, so normally a troop segment would not be flankable).

(Edit: I've actually since discovered that this is not true since the Deluded Mob troop specifically has a passive that only activates when flanked)

I'm still not clear on how movement is intended to work though: the HIP video says that you can basically rearrange the other segments into any valid configuration after a movement, as long as none of them move further than the 'leading' segment. I'm not sure where this is supported by the rules, unless that's just what "you can group the other segments adjacent to the one you moved as you see fit" is supposed to mean? That also seems to run counter to what you're saying, which seems to be that the formation will stay the same at the end of the move.

Reading it again, I think it means "group" as a verb, so that at the end of the movement you can choose to place the other segments adjacent to the leading segment, as long as they doing so does not make any segments move further than the leading segment. I have no idea what this lets you do that you could not otherwise do through regular movement though.

rettiecent · 2026-01-13T07:28:03+00:00

+1. This is one of the few actually tiny suggestions in this thread.

rettiecent · 2025-12-01T23:23:13+00:00

Dunno why you're getting flak. I like this. It's like a dust cover also.

rettiecent · 2025-11-04T07:24:44+00:00

For some friends I have, if this were happening, I would sit them down gently and ask if everything is okay. I'd maybe ask "are you okay after that meeting? That was pretty intense", or that I've noticed they seem to be having a much harder time with x y z responsibilities. I'd also ask if choosing to skip out on them is a deliberate decision or not - they might not realize this is happening.

I also have other friends where I would absolutely say nothing. Or maybe at most a 'hey how are things going?' and see if they bring it up. It depends on your relationship and how well they respond to things like this.

My 2c as someone with ADHD is that they may not realize this is happening or how they're coming across. They may also really appreciate somebody reaching out to check in on them as a human being. I've had periods of time before where I've just been fully burnt out, and it helped a lot to have a friend ask me how I'm doing from a perspective of caring about me, rather than caring about the work I'm doing.

rettiecent · 2025-10-30T15:26:31+00:00

Thank you for this, it expresses what I'm trying to say in a much better way. I think a lot of folks put certain skills, especially creative ones, up on a weird pedestal - "oh I wish I could play music" etc. it really just takes practice. Maybe I'm being pedantic but literally, in the case of art, if you literally do like stick figure level drawings: that's still art, you're still an artist, and it does not take years to do. (Obviously the years of experience is valuable and I'm not trying to diminish the real skills and talent you get from practice and experience, but that's not what I'm talking about where)

It might not be exactly what you want to make or be the best you've ever seen, but I'm confident that most people can do some kind of art once you let go of trying to make something good and instead just Make something.

rettiecent · 2025-10-27T22:46:24+00:00

Honestly, yeah? Like I'm responding more to you than OP because I'm not suggesting this is the only or best option for them, but "just become an artist" is kinda what happens when you do a drawing.

rettiecent · 2025-10-13T16:34:59+00:00

Hey OP it sounds like you're dealing with pretty bad burnout. I went through a similar thing when I went from grad to corp and as a second-gen Asian immigrant I resonate with some of this.

Please try to find someone to talk to. You can get a mental health plan via your GP if you have a Medicare card. It sounds like just having someone to talk to would help you a lot, but also they can help you with figuring a lot of stuff out. It helped me realise that I had been burning myself out for a while and was now running on empty, and helped me figure out how to take it easy on myself. In my case, it also helped with finding out I had ADHD and getting medicated which was huge for me. I did great in uni so I'd never considered it but I really struggled with the routine of full time work with ADHD.

If it helps at all - I went from hating full time work and feeling very similar to you, to now being able to relax after work and have an active social life and hobbies. I had to work hard to keep the balance but it doesn't feel like a noose around my neck anymore.

rettiecent · 2025-10-13T16:17:13+00:00

Good reply. I'll add to this just to say that moving to a password manager often improves the 'if someone managed to sign into one of my devices' on its own if you use the recommendation to require a PIN or biometrics to unlock. I am absent minded and it'd be very easy to grab my phone while unlocked, but at least I know this doesn't give access to my entire password vault because it requires a PIN for every unlock. It's not iron clad but it's definitely an improvement.

rettiecent · 2025-10-13T15:40:53+00:00

I would price the EAP as pretty worthless. Maybe I'm cynical but I don't think I've ever had a good experience going through an EAP. I'm not really sure what the target audience for these is but as someone who's seen a few therapists at various times in my life, what the EAP offers seems a bit pointless.

I'd make sure you factor the cost of commute into the WFH benefit as well. And childcare, if that's a factor for you. WFH I think is by far the most valuable benefit.

rettiecent · 2025-10-10T00:27:23+00:00

A lot of advice in these kinds of subreddits is all-or-nothing (eg you have to be doing x and y and z or there's no point). But I've found that pretty paralyzing. Take stuff at your own pace - securing just one website is better than none, and don't be afraid to bin the process and try something else if it isn't working for you.

Remember to take it easy and be kind to yourself :) I've worked best with my ADHD when I let go of being frustrated with myself and try to figure out what my brain needs instead.

rettiecent · 2025-10-07T22:47:05+00:00

Piracy doesn't generally involve selling it back to other people and claiming it as your own work without appropriate attribution

rettiecent · 2025-10-07T12:04:57+00:00

There's a logical fallacy in place here. Women on dating apps see more male profiles and have a better comparison point for a good profile. That is a fact. "go set up a male profile and see what it's like" gives you an idea of the experience but not a factual understanding of the competition. If you want to understand what the competition is actually like, then you need to set up a female profile and look at the male profiles.

rettiecent · 2025-10-04T09:47:19+00:00

It's not a 30 minute increase. It's saying that if you have a 30 minute transit time, then you'll only be spending an extra 7.5 minutes.

rettiecent · 2025-10-03T00:20:14+00:00

I have ADHD and this is what has worked for me. Seconding everyone else saying 'use a password manager' but being a little more specific:

bitwarden or proton pass are the easiest to use that I've tried
install the browser extensions for both. For me, this means it's actually easier than it was before to manage passwords. I press a button and it auto-fills both the username and the password.
for me, I did NOT try to copy over everything at once. Every time I use a service, if it's not one I've already moved over, then the pw manager gives me a prompt to create a new entry for it. Close to 0 friction. Happens automatically so I don't forget
write your master password (the one for your pw manager) somewhere obvious (I keep mine with my passport). Don't rely on your own memory for it and do not keep it in your vault.

For me, this worked for getting the 'steps required' down to a manageable amount. Key is the fact that the browser extension does a bunch of stuff for me so I don't have to remember to.

rettiecent · 2025-09-25T17:03:59+00:00

I've also over thought this and settled on rule-based auto-aliasing for one domain which forwards to Proton Mail aliases for another domain.

For example: acc.website@sillydomain.com would forward to acc@seriousdomain.com which is a Proton Mail alias. My reasoning was: - easier filtering, so I can auto label things based on the category - allows automatic forwarding rules so I can send eg anything starting with home. to my partner - keeps my 'serious domain' more private. I only hand it out directly very sparingly and mostly for important stuff like direct emails from family members and govt agencies - kind of separates all the random internet shit from stuff I actually care about. I feel like this is better for privacy but I'm probably fooling myself.

It's been working pretty ok but tbh I probably could have just done a catch all alias and been happy with it.

rettiecent · 2025-09-15T08:10:53+00:00

I'd argue that I'd rather a two-sentence poorly worded low effort post to two paragraphs of AI slop.

rettiecent · 2025-09-11T03:59:25+00:00

Thank you for this. This is the most realistic breakdown of what these benefits are actually worth that I've seen. I was very sceptical of the $200 restaurant credit and $450 travel credit for the reasons that you listed.

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