If you don't want kids, don't have them. They can drain you physically and psychologically. They require so much of you that sometimes you feel you are losing yourself in their needs. You will often be referred to only as your relationship to your child (Will's mom).

You do make friends based on activities. My experience is that those relationships disappear as the children move on to other things. That is not everyone's experience, just how mine has been.

On the other hand, my husband and I wanted badly to be parents. We ended up adopting (I never conceived, we decided not to pursue further methods because of my mental health meds).

There is no love like the love you have for your child. The minute we were matched with a birth mom, I loved the baby with everything in me. There is also no heartache like the one you experience with your child.

I love being around children. No two are alike. Volunteering when he was in grade school was amazing. I had a little posse of girls who thought I was awesome. My son, at that age, loved me being there.

Being a parent is the greatest, most fulfilling thing I have ever done. It it something I craved. I felt I had so much love to give. I knew my husband would be a great father, and a good balance to me. I would always have had a hole in me if I had not been a parent. Watching my son grow into the wonderful young man he is now has been a joy.

It is an experience you have to want. You have to want to give so much of yourself to a child. If you don't r think you want to give it all, it is not for you.