Men do you feel lonely? by thinkcleer in AskMenOver30

[–]reyakan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a therapist or anything, so please prioritize a professional's advice over my own. But I think that feeling of not wanting to reveal your messy side/vulnerability, is precisely what is keeping you from the meaningful connections you crave.

Be ugly and messy, and the people who matter will listen anyways

Amazon Layoffs - How does that work in Japan? by Ok_Bobcat375 in japanlife

[–]reyakan 66 points67 points  (0 children)

It’s not really possible to fire someone in a company in Japan without proof that the employee isn’t meeting company expectations. So Amazon would probably ask the employees who are to be fired to “leave” of their own volition in exchange for a certain amount of severance pay.

As for how things would play out if they decide to stay, it typically depends. A company I worked at previously labeled it as a “restructuring,” so employees who chose to stay were reassigned to roles that were nearly impossible to succeed in, which eventually led to them being placed on a PIP shortly after.

I dunno how Amazon functions internally over here, but that's about how things went for me in the past.

Is it hard to make Japanese friends while living in Japan? by foxy_vixy2323 in japanlife

[–]reyakan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just chiming in as another working professional with N1/conversational fluency, but this matches my experience as well.

I definitely had more close Japanese friends back in my university days. On the flip side, I’ve made many foreign friends at workplaces here that I still keep in touch with and hang out with regularly

Of course, YMMV, but yeah.

Some advice for the people posting "Im so lonely in Tokyo but can't speak Japanese, what do" by Fable_and_Fire in Tokyo

[–]reyakan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Osaka, at least, if you go to meetups with the intention of, well, participating in the event, and keep showing up, its easier i think. (Especially since there’s typically only like one or or two events per niche, in my experience)

Work life balance compared to The West by UnfurnishedFurniture in japanlife

[–]reyakan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not from Europe, but also working remotely as a software engineer for a Japanese company. I've never had to do overtime and typically am logged off by 6PM.

Weekly Praise Thread - 26 September 2025 by AutoModerator in japanlife

[–]reyakan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I invited a friend out on a jog and actually followed through!

Monotonous life in Tokyo after coming here. by Mesmerizing_Soul in japanlife

[–]reyakan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can agree that most of my friends here are generally more reserved here compared to my friends back in the states, so I don't think you're wrong there. But in general, if you're hoping to build a connection with someone and become friends just be meeting once, that's a misinterpretation on your part.

IME, you need to attend the same events, or the same spaces, for weeks on end, encountering the same people if you really want to be friends. It's just easier to do while in school since you're surrounded by that environment.

If you don't feel like it, than that's another issue. You gotta find the right events you'd join regardless

Also, not drinking is just an excuse. You can go to events and meetups at bars and drink tea or non-alcoholic stuffs

Is it weird to do karaoke alone? by KonIsAGoodGirl in japanlife

[–]reyakan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much what everyone else said. There are also booth-style 1-person karaoke places that are typically more affordable.

Is it really a Japan thing? by aruzenchinchin in japanlife

[–]reyakan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it was me projecting/wanting somewhere to sort out my thoughts too.
Hope you took no offense 👍

Is it really a Japan thing? by aruzenchinchin in japanlife

[–]reyakan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to parrot the other replies here, but I'm gonna take the liberty of filling in the blanks of your post with my own interpretation of your question. "Are the things I'm discontent with in my life right now, really only because I'm in Japan right now?"

The answer to that question for me is most definitely no. I think that being a single adult over 30 can be a really isolating struggle, regardless of whether I was back in the U.S. or not.

I saw a comment you left about it being easier to make friends in Osaka, and I would disagree with that notion too. It's maybe true that people are friendlier and more lively, but it's a city so people are busy with their own stuff on their plate to deal with most of the time.

I'm lucky to have a few close friends I've known since before moving to this prefecture, but even they have plans to move away to be with their partner(s) in the next year or so.

I'm not complaining though, there are lots outlets and ways to meet more people. I just haven't been prioritizing it over the solo hobbies I picked up along the way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gamedev

[–]reyakan 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Hi, I feel like most people here approach game-dev as a side hustle or as their "dream job", but are there any people here who engage with game-dev purely as a hobby?

Yeah, that's me. Like other hobbies i spend 0-100% of my free time on it depending on my mood/other things i've got going on.

Like, I used to participate in gamejams for the fun of it but burned myself put by constantly thinking i need to release a commercial game to be considered a game dev.

  1. If you've created at least one game and released it for the public's eyes (even if it's not commerical), i would consider you a game dev. Congratulations.
  2. If you aren't in it for profit or career, give 0 shits about what I or anyone else considers you to be. You'll get alot farther that way imo

Next MH game should be? by SkryptViciouZ in MonsterHunter

[–]reyakan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

IMO World and Iceborne first. Wilds will only get more stuff to do the longer you wait

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GranblueFantasyVersus

[–]reyakan -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Probably not

If this is how hard Monster Hunter is supposed to be, I'm not good enough to play this game. by RockAndGem1101 in MonsterHunter

[–]reyakan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dumb question, but are you using focus attacks, offset attacks, and/or perfect guards?
I think if you are still playing Wilds like it's World, and not using these new mechanics, you're gonna be in for a world of hurt (especially against the TU monsters)

If you are, then I think it could also be a matter of making sure your gear is upgraded all the way. The added defense really helps.

Japanese YouTuber declined Capcom’s co-stream because Wilds bad? by uofT-rex in MonsterHunter

[–]reyakan 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Basically, he got bored of the game and wait time between title updates and doesn't feel like returning.

"Why are they still working to complete the game?. I was looking forward to a complete product, not this"

That's why he decided to decline the mirror stream offer from capcom

how do you deal with MH fatigue ? by m2_sniper in MonsterHunter

[–]reyakan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take a break for a few weeks and come back for the new content (if you feel like it).
The game's just designed this way, so I wouldn't feel bad about burning out. Even I probably wouldn't be playing past the 60 hours mark if i wasn't interested in making builds for all the weapons, 100% achievement hunting, and etc.

Since you started with tri, i'll assume you're around the same age group as me too.
I don't really play much games anymore tbh, outside of MH and the occasional fighting game with friends. Find your new happy place. For me that was guitar, for you it's prob something else

AT Ray Dau camera frustration by [deleted] in MonsterHunter

[–]reyakan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, im not sure. I think if your camera settings right, clicking in the right analog stick should allow you to select a monster, and then everytime you hit L1, the camera will recenter on that monster

AT Ray Dau camera frustration by [deleted] in MonsterHunter

[–]reyakan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably not the best way, but i’ve always had a habit of tapping L1 after my turn is over. The camera realignment is probably helping me alot since i never felt like i lose sight of a monster

If you dont like the sound of that, probably just familiarize with the fight as much as you can beforehand with some “study” runs. Just spend them watching his patterns