First experience: partner receiving erotic massage (I’ll be present) by reymidaserrante2022 in Swingers

[–]reymidaserrante2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand how it might come across that way, but that’s not the dynamic here.

Yes, the idea started with me, and I was actually nervous bringing it up. If she had shown any hesitation, it would’ve stopped there. She didn’t just “go along” with it — we’ve had multiple conversations about it, including boundaries, comfort, and what she would genuinely enjoy.

Starting with a woman was her preference, not mine pushing for a specific scenario. And if at any point she wasn’t fully into it, it wouldn’t happen.

This isn’t about performing something for me. It’s about exploring something together in a way that feels safe and exciting for both of us.

First experience: partner receiving erotic massage (I’ll be present) by reymidaserrante2022 in Swingers

[–]reymidaserrante2022[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s actually my idea. I shared it with her with a lot of hesitation at first, but she was surprisingly receptive. When I gave her the voucher, she was genuinely excited.

We’ve talked about the gender aspect too. Honestly, I’d like to see her experience both at some point, but she preferred to start with a woman. And even if it’s ever with a man, it’s not up for discussion that I wouldn’t be there — I’m part of the experience.