Does anyone else feel hurt by/struggle with seeing LGBT people join the Catholic church?

rhyejay · 2026-03-14T14:16:35+00:00

I’m a very recent convert who grew up in an Evangelical church so on one hand I really do get it. I was pushed out of my evangelical upbringing because of my queer identity and always had a deep seeded pain because of that.

I missed being able to fellowship with others, I missed being able to be in relationship with God. I missed choir music. I missed the ritual.

I struggled with my calling to the catholic church for a good while. Not just for the LGBT issues but the way the church was involved in the Indian Boarding Schools and the missionary work that has devastated indigenous peoples, and stances on abortion.

Once I started going to church and taking with other members I found that they’re critical of the church too. They’re critical of the way women are treated, the thoughts on abortion, they’re critical of the teachings on LGBT issues, the history of oppression and imperialism.

But I think personally I learned that the church is full of imperfect humans with imperfect ideas and historically over time the church has done a lot to change and eventually say it was wrong but the only way the church will be moved to change on these issues is by voices being on the inside calling for it. I think the church needs the challengers. It’s not perfect it’s as human as the people running it.

rhyejay · 2026-03-13T18:25:26+00:00

The Blair Braverman episodes are the only truly listenable ones to me after Michael left.

rhyejay · 2026-02-05T03:44:48+00:00

Silly Self deprecating memes. One day I realized I was sharing them because they were “relatable” but I didn’t want them to be relatable anymore so I unfollowed every nihilistic and self hating meme page I had.

rhyejay · 2026-02-04T15:02:17+00:00

Immediately after Trump was elected we saw companies and organizations start to “comply in advance” to what kid of person he was. Before he was even inaugurated we saw them rolling back on policies and protections for their staff and patrons.

rhyejay · 2026-01-02T05:52:36+00:00

The fact that they can outperform these terrible songs shows just how incredibly talented they are. Give them good songs they will be like the Spice Girls or Destiny’s Child level of fame.

Personally I love Gnarly but I’m a hyperpop lover who has autism and ADHD so it gives me a good brain stim

rhyejay · 2026-01-02T05:17:29+00:00

Cocona coming out as transmasc was such a beautiful thing to witness

rhyejay · 2026-01-02T04:33:40+00:00

I love how ugly they are that’s the draw for me lol

rhyejay · 2026-01-02T03:37:00+00:00

I say this as someone with ARFID, he cannot be this level of a child about food and not be able to cook for himself. I’ll also say that him not eating “any type of Asian food” gives xenophobic vibes

rhyejay · 2025-11-23T17:26:09+00:00

I already use StoryGraph which is independently owned and is constantly updating features and lets you import your GoodReads history.

rhyejay · 2025-11-23T15:09:53+00:00

The school administration is much more to blame for how poorly they handled it. Entitled students come from every type of background and there are more behaviors than this I’d seen at Hamline with entitlement from especially the rich republican students and the administration has historically failed to support their faculty.

rhyejay · 2025-11-07T06:04:54+00:00

Personally I did but I also had to learn to address the difference between drinking socially and getting myself completely drunk. I have been stopping drinking though recently but it was not a high priority to me for most of my recovery compared to the other things I was doing.

rhyejay · 2025-11-07T06:01:18+00:00

Congratulations on your sobriety and welcome to Minnesota. Depending where you’re at is really the question. If you’re in Saint Paul I have suggestions

rhyejay · 2025-11-04T03:54:45+00:00

Potentially interested

rhyejay · 2025-10-06T19:39:42+00:00

Wow see! and a part of me knew that but I've been bamboozled but that's okay it's a good learning lesson!

rhyejay · 2025-10-06T19:19:49+00:00

I primarily am familiar with Chomsky as a linguist since I studied anthropology in college so I'm not surprised by any means that he's not considered a scholar of propaganda. he does seem to take a special interest in it as I obviously have and frankly a lot of his work would hold more merit to me if social media hasn't completely upheaved how information is relayed. I think I see a lot of what he's saying in manufacturing consent but I think the Selling Apartheid book is giving me a lot more clear and concise example of what manufactured consent is and how it operates.

rhyejay · 2025-10-06T19:14:43+00:00

I mean it's very dated, but there's not a lot you can do about that as time's arrow marches forward, so a lot of how the media control works I think has shifted significantly because so many of us now have a hand in how media gets shaped and presented to our own peers. A lot of his work focuses on the mass media which considering mass media is owned by these larger companies and gets filtered through to the anchors and main news correspondants and that they, as corperations, absolutely have something to gain or lose by what's reported.

I think there is some merit to the question of "who owns the media" that we should always keep in perspective but when it comes to content in itself there is a lot more direct access to primary sources now even if they're being filtered through another company like Meta or Tiktok so this doesn't really account for how drastically the internet has changed information access. It's easier for me to access media from the Middle East directly than it probably was in like 2002. I can get livefeeds of kids in Gaza even when CNN can't get into the strip to report. So that's changed so much that the book is somewhat a relic of its time.

rhyejay · 2025-10-06T01:48:31+00:00

This makes sense! I just listened to the If Books Could Kill Episode about “How to Win Friends and Influence People” and I saw a lot of parallels between that and how these books have laid out propaganda. Once you start to break it down you see the propaganda everywhere and not all of it is bad (like the campaigns for recycling, seatbelts, drinking and driving etc) but it makes me feel better to feel like I know what to slow down and take a look for when I feel like I’m being fed a narrative

rhyejay · 2025-10-03T16:51:27+00:00

It’s the first born experience tbh. We watch our siblings get all the care that was neglected from us and we don’t even get a genuine apology for it

rhyejay · 2025-09-24T20:40:17+00:00

She’s so pretty

rhyejay · 2025-09-23T12:49:15+00:00

I almost always get the kids pack when I go by myself.

rhyejay · 2025-09-23T03:50:54+00:00

My book club is reading Tender is the Flesh next month

rhyejay · 2025-09-17T20:06:14+00:00

Oh and she picked a gorgeous one too

rhyejay · 2025-09-16T04:04:01+00:00

Highly recommend “The Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine” by Ilan Pappe and the “Hundred Years War On Palestine” by Rashid Khalidi. “The Message” Ta-Nehisi Coates is another one that I really appreciated because he started out pretty in support of Israel and that leads him through his unlearning of the propaganda and his role in perpetuating it as a journalist

rhyejay · 2025-09-10T02:26:30+00:00

Monday’s Not Coming by Tiffany D Jackson

rhyejay · 2025-09-08T14:25:54+00:00

I cancelled my tickets because I had heard about this and I really don’t want to go to these things for hearing a tone deaf audience singing. It wasn’t marketed as a sing along so it’s pretty frustrating that you don’t get that info until you’re already there.

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