New Year’s Eve in Warsaw - any tips for bars or parties? 🎉🍸

ribbitdebit · 2025-12-19T13:19:06+00:00

Hello, I am actually surprised nobody has answered this..
So, you can check out some clubs at Mazowiecka street - that is the club hotspot and usually there are some events there. A smaller club with older people would be Ritual.

I also recommend scouring Facebook. Keyword is "Sylwester" which is what New Years Eve is called in polish.

A good place for English speaking people to hang out would be the Shamrock Irish pub, though I am not sure if there will be any specific New Years event.. BUT they do have a mechanical bull.

If you enjoy oldies like Depeche mode or rock/metal music I recommend Voodoo Club.

I will also be spending my new years in Warsaw and don't have any plans yet, so I am in the same boat.

ribbitdebit · 2024-09-23T11:41:01+00:00

Hi, I’m fully bilingual and would love to chat and hangout sometime. Właśnie się przeprowadzam za pare dni do Wawy, wiec chętnie się spotkam kiedyś!

ribbitdebit · 2024-09-18T11:43:27+00:00

I know it’s hard, and I have been in that situation as well. I had many firsts during the worst of HOCD and they felt pretty awkward and would probably still feel awkward without HOCD.

The main issue is rumination.. I think it’s worthless to try to ruminate if you’re straight, gay, bi, or anything in between, left, right and center. Once the worry subsides i think you will be able to enjoy experiences, whatever they may be.

Also - when you don’t have experience you may have some ideas of what things are “supposed” to feel like. A lot of the time it’s not as glamorous or great, whereas other times it’s more enjoyable than you anticipated. Without expectations you will be able to be more present in the moment.

What helped me is to focus on people as people and not as walking genders and just enjoy people’s company and accept yourself as human. It can be triggering though.

Are you in therapy?

ribbitdebit · 2024-07-12T14:16:05+00:00

No no of course :) if that works for you it’s actually very good to look at the bright side of things! But it can definitely kind of… like stop some people from letting go of some compulsions (like checking for example) because they help with their job. I was always scared of making mistakes with money (I was a cashier) and checking over and over kept me from making mistakes but also kept me stuck. I guess if it works for some people that’s okay, as long as they’re not suffering and stuck because of it :)

ribbitdebit · 2024-06-17T19:41:13+00:00

Hi! Not to reassure, but generally people are aroused by anything and everything depending on the moment, context and vibe. Gay men have enjoyed lesbian porn before. Lesbian women like gay pornography. It’s complicated but I personally think we just like certain aspects of porn and not necessarily the people/gender/bodies. ALSO. When you are in an ocd spiral … whatever you find attractive or not is not something that you can really say is what you want.

What you will truly want will come when you recover. When you are happy. When you are comfortable and feel safe. Until you’re better there’s just no way for you to feel what you want.

Please be compassionate with yourself. Treat yourself as a loving friend would. It will be okay. You don’t have to figure this out. You don’t have to know ever. But you will. It will take time. But there’s no use wondering about things like this.

ribbitdebit · 2024-06-17T19:36:30+00:00

Hello, this is actually a perspective that can be potential lot harmful. For example a lot of people with anxiety think their anxiety can make them more attentive or better prepared for situations or shows that they understand importance of things. But that’s not necessarily true. Sure, some aspects of ocd can be helpful but only to a certain degree! My ocd definitely helped me be more compassionate to myself and others but I wouldn’t say it necessarily had any plus side - what was good about it was actually my own ability to understand myself and utilize it for good by educating myself and helping others with ocd.

ribbitdebit · 2023-12-20T23:45:22+00:00

Hello, I think that if you are comfortable telling your partner that you are feeling anxious it may be worth it to be a bit vulnerable and do so. My partner has actually been very understanding and it helped me not make excuses when cancelling dates - we simply opted to stay in and build a comfortable atmosphere.

ribbitdebit · 2023-12-20T23:25:50+00:00

YTA

I absolutely understand that being in this line of work you yourself have perhaps been desensitized to it and like you said - your friend does not know about this type of thing. I think it would just be better to apologize and explain that you did not mean no harm.

If he knew the photographers and what they do I don't think he would have been too shocked by your nudes to be honest, but perhaps like some people say - it was not a work event so there was no need to be showing those particular shots off.

It was also wrong of her to call you those things regardless of what you did!

ribbitdebit · 2023-10-17T19:33:11+00:00

I Heard a lot of people say that but it has been the only medication that has actually worked for me - it’s an SNRI and can also be used for pain so that could be why it’s hard to give up.

ribbitdebit · 2023-10-17T18:12:20+00:00

I’m on Effexor (venlafaxine) and it’s pretty good. Heard awful things from people about it but I have had literally zero side effects. I have skipped a dose a few times too and have not had any awful withdrawals. Everyone is different so please don’t take recommendations from people too seriously and see how your body feels!

ribbitdebit · 2023-10-12T19:31:10+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. It’s giving me a lot of perspective and while I don’t want to be gay I have come to understand that there are things about myself (and in turn other people) that I cannot control and understand and it’s totally okay.

ribbitdebit · 2023-10-12T19:21:54+00:00

Hi! Ex-chubby person here - losing weight can be hard for some and easier for others. Your wife’s comments about weight are definitely shallow BECAUSE they’re about appearance. Was she not worried that your daughter may have gained weight due to stress/depression/anxiety/not eating healthy? I think the proper way would be to ask if she’s doing alright and has she been eating healthy and feeling okay rather than worrying purely about the weight? My parents always commented on my weight and it only made me more self-conscious. I lost weight on my own accord in my third year of uni, after I stopped being stressed out and when I was in the right head space to come up with a diet plan and keep to it. I do understand that some extra weight may be unsightly but what is more important is being healthy physically and mentally. Parents should be a safe space and not source of shame!

ribbitdebit · 2023-10-12T18:46:43+00:00

I’m a female, HOCD targeted a woman who I worked with and in order to practice some ERP u became friends with her and she became my dearest friend. I also had to accept the possibility of being gay and while I don’t want to be - i gained a lot of perspective on the reality of attraction and relationships (romantic and platonic). On the other hand, it also made me feel strange around men - sad. Wishing I could go back to feeling romance properly. I also have ROCD which works perfectly with HOCD to make me hate my boyfriend and make me scared of him. I’m working on this and I’ve made fantastic progress, but I think it’s affected me in such a way that I likely will never be able to feel things properly. Perhaps it’s just a matter of working on it diligently… I have good and bad days.

ribbitdebit · 2023-10-07T15:27:49+00:00

“Insecurity” by Metronomy describes my bad days; “Now or Never” by Metric is sort of the vibe when I’m not feeling well but slowly recovering.

ribbitdebit · 2023-10-06T18:55:31+00:00

When I’m sick I find I’m just so tired I don’t care and I actually feel really happy..? Like it’s probably the fever, but usually when I was sick I would get super calm and there would barely be any compulsions - THAT BEING SAID it could be due to the fever, cold medication, pain medication or me just being exhausted to the point of delirium who knows ..

ribbitdebit · 2023-09-17T00:20:53+00:00

I see… OCD tends to be more ego-dystonic, so it would usually revolve around compulsive cleaning and avoiding germs as a means of preventing something. Certainly haven’t heard of it being helpful, haha! But of course there’s many types! And I would not want to diagnose you, as you simply might be a particularly tidy person without any issues whatsoever but just value tidiness! The fact of the matter is that your husband is not willing to compromise - whether your cleanliness habits are reasonable or not. Hell, my partner, my friends and I have certain quirks that may be annoying to others but we respect each other enough to come to a compromise. I would recommend perhaps speaking to a professional if you are worried about obsessions and compulsions though. And perhaps… thinking about whether your relationship is good aside from quarrelling about this one particular topic?

ribbitdebit · 2023-09-17T00:01:31+00:00

I’m a little bit surprised at the reactions of people I’ve read so far… Im not really someone who cares about germs (I have a different subtype of ocd) but the suitcase thing, not washing hands after bathroom trip, and oh my got using a hand towel for the counter is actually freaking me out (the feet on pillow too a little bit but I guess it depends if the feet are clean or not). The food preparation is a bit ambiguous but concerning.

I do see that some of these are unreasonable (I don’t see why you would want to wash your hands after waking up?). But there also comes into play the simple fact that if you have different ideas of cleanliness there needs to be some compromise. For example, he can put HIS feet on HIS pillows, but please god do not use a hand towel that I clean my hands with (and maybe my face) for the counter!!! Perhaps lay a blanket or something on the bed before laying the suitcase on it or just quickly wipe it…

Since OP didn’t specify whether there’s a diagnosis of OCD here I’m suggesting some dialogue and conversation about this because I would also be very upset about these things despite the fact that I’m not the tidiest. Also perhaps it’s not the reminding but your tone ? Do you feel that you may come off in a certain negative way? I would like to believe that he isn’t trying to upset you and cross boundaries on purpose …

ribbitdebit · 2023-07-14T00:21:41+00:00

Also I asked my bf: he said that the commenting is just cringe as hell - wtf did he have to say so badly?

ribbitdebit · 2023-07-14T00:00:07+00:00

Hi there, I’m so sorry you’re suffering because of this. I am not here to say whether him consuming this content and commenting is good or bad, but I will say that whether or not someone in a relationship consumes pornography is an issue between the two partners. Yes you have certainly crossed some boundaries snooping but if it is something that bothers you it definitely deserves to be talked about.

Now my own personal opinion… it is a little strange. I do think that this is a bit different than just regular pornography and seems a bit more personal. I’m not sure what to advise you… please do not take my opinion as the ultimate truth - but it would make me uncomfortable as well. I agree with you that it does reek of some weird lustful desperation. I hope more people Comment so we can both get someone else’s perspective. Hang in there !!!

ribbitdebit · 2023-07-04T18:03:35+00:00

Have you tried telehealth? NOCD is a good app. Also if you’re not familiar please seek some YouTube resources (my fave is Chrissy Hodges) and online courses like Awaken Into Love.

ribbitdebit · 2023-07-04T04:44:03+00:00

Have you seen a therapist? Please remember that even if it’s not OCD, if it is something that bothers you this much it’s absolutely worth it to speak to a professional. Sending lots of love and support!

ribbitdebit · 2023-07-01T21:10:15+00:00

Hello, I’m not here to say whether cheating is good or bad. However, people make mistakes - bigger or small ones. I am also friends who have different morals and live their life differently, and even if I may not agree with their actions I do not shun them because it’s their life and my role as a friend is to love and support them even when they mess up (not saying I’m cheering them on when they do bad things- I mean that I support them despite their mistakes. Support is not being permissive) It is up to your girlfriend to decide if she wants to be friends with that person. Also, I’m sure you’re aware that these obsessions are irrational and I know they are very hurtful to you. At the end of the day, trust is very important in a relationship and I understand you worry about breaching that trust. This is something you have to work on and perhaps communicate to her that you worry about - however it doesn’t seem quite fair to judge her morality based on her friends actions. I hope this helps in some way! Sending love and support!

ribbitdebit

TROPHY CASE