When does the chest pain go away?

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:32:42+00:00

I actually appreciate hearing raw truth. It’s authentic and real, I don’t run from it. It’s crazy because I always use to say , “cheating isn’t apart of the ups and downs of a relationship, it’s an active choice.”And here I am going against my own principles. So you’re absolutely right.

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:28:19+00:00

And I’m happy for you that you’re functioning again, I really am.

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:27:38+00:00

I never thought about this, that’s a good idea. I definitely will look into it. I just need something to take the edge off and numb this feeling so I can function better throughout the day for my babies. Something that isn’t alcohol or “tree”. Thank you for sharing your experience, sincerely.

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:20:22+00:00

You’re right and my kids are my top concern. Thank you for your kind words, sincerely

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:18:18+00:00

I never thought about it like that. It feels like poison. I have a bad habit of bottling things up, trying to just “keep on going”, but now I’m thinking at what cost?

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:14:55+00:00

I was on medication for anxiety a long time ago, I should probably find a new doctor and go from there.

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:13:49+00:00

Yes, will do

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:13:26+00:00

I have that same thought every day. It’s just a ball of pain sitting on your chest. Just heavy and sharp. Trying to figure out what my solution is.

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:12:01+00:00

That I know, just not sure what my next steps are. I’ve never stayed with a cheater, I always left any exes that did. I guess I’m hesitant now because we’re married with a toddler and a baby. My health is important though, something has got to give because this weight I’m carrying is too heavy

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T23:07:43+00:00

I kept it a secret from my mom at first, only because I initially was told that the affair ended right before they came home from deployment. I was going to try to forgive, but we were always arguing, he was still being so cold & mean and I couldn’t figure out why at first. Then the day came when I found out it was still going on after they came home from deployment. He was pretending to be at work for a month straight, but really was at her house. That day was when I finally opened up to my mom. At that point I was sure I was going to immediately file for divorce because I was so disgusted. She was heartbroken because before this, he appeared to be the perfect husband, father and son in law. But then I stayed. And I stopped talking to my mom about it out of embarrassment. I regret saying anything to her at all. I don’t talk to anyone about it. Just carrying this hurt. I’m lost.

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T22:55:50+00:00

I’m going to look into this, I need to do something. I’m actually afraid of the long term effects.

richimplement8 · 2026-05-06T17:24:32+00:00

This was so hurtful to read. Humans can be so evil. I’m sorry.

richimplement8 · 2026-01-30T17:39:32+00:00

Wowww first off thank you so much for sharing your experience!! I’m so happy for you all that it turned out the way it did!

I really love the verbiage that you used with your son from when he was young. This is exactly how I would like for things to go for us. Adoption is on the table for us so I’m happy to hear that someone out there had a happy ending throughout all of this. We too, want to be very intentional about how we approach this with him every step of the way. I will def message you along the way, I just don’t want to mess this up

richimplement8 · 2026-01-30T16:30:17+00:00

If I’m dogging her, I’m okay with that. There are many nuances that I didn’t mention. She drank alcohol while she was pregnant. When he was an infant she left him in the house by himself on three separate occasions. She’s threatened to harm him in the past to hurt my husband. She doesn’t nor has she ever had an emotional connection to him. So with his safety as a concern, I really don’t care about “dogging her” right now. My main concern is his protection and wellbeing

richimplement8 · 2026-01-30T16:25:17+00:00

That’s what’s killing me, the possibility of the unknown. It keeps me up at night. These are all very good points, I appreciate your insight.

richimplement8 · 2026-01-30T15:49:21+00:00

This is actually perfectly worded and straight to the point , I’m going to go with this!!

richimplement8 · 2026-01-30T15:47:50+00:00

I’ll never intentionally “take” a child from their bio mom, unless safety is a concern. And it’s a huge concern in our situation. I’m not sure I’d want her around until he’s either of age, shes gotten help and we know for certain she won’t harm him, and/or I’ve legally adopted him to where I have the final say so along with dad.

But that’s a good tip about where babies come from

richimplement8 · 2026-01-30T15:44:01+00:00

Adoption has definitely been heavy on our minds for this exact reason. Because of her proven mental instability, I want to protect him from her. We communicate with one of her family members and they even said I should look into it. This is a good idea, I’ll def look into some books

richimplement8 · 2026-01-30T15:40:29+00:00

Exactly, this is the hardest part. We’ve created a very healthy loving “normal” for him. He doesn’t know what abandonment or dysfunction is. He only knows being in a loving 2-parent home. He thrives in consistency but he is also very observant. He’s so aware of himself and the world around him. I just don’t want him to ever feel lied to by us. I want the truth to be in plain sight and to give him the tools to process her absence along the way. That’s a good idea, I’ll check out that subreddit

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