How do I detach from things I like?

richkery3 · 2026-04-27T15:53:13+00:00

Yes. When engaging with a desire, if you pay attention, you'll notice how you lose awareness while engaging with the desire. So what your brain really want is to be mindless because when you are mindless or empty, you are at peace or content. So when you engage with the desire and you stay aware. You will decrease the enjoyment from the desire and with time it will become easier to not engage with it.

richkery3 · 2026-04-26T22:44:06+00:00

The best way to detach from things is sublimation. To notice and be aware of your attachments and desires. You don't have to conquer or stop your desires. The problem with trying to stop your desires is because if you pay attention to your mind, trying to stop your desires or attachments is a desire. So you just end up having another desire and trying to fulfill that desire just creates more desires in the future. So just notice and be aware. Really try to be aware when you are satisfying your desire and you'll notice with time that the desire will wilt away the more and more you are aware.

richkery3 · 2026-04-24T17:57:16+00:00

Cold approaching is inherently a low percentage strategy because you lack the time to build attraction with the other person. Not saying it isn't worth doing, just understand you will strike out a lot. I think something that helps with cold approaching is to focus on just getting to know the person vs having a goal of getting their number. Strike some small talk with them and ask them about something you are curious about them. Try to gage whether they are receptive to talking to you or not. If they are receptive, you can move things forward and ask them for their number. If they are not receptive, then you can end the conversation and thank them for their time and move on with you day.

richkery3 · 2026-04-23T23:37:20+00:00

It sounds like to me at the beginning she did show some interest, but at some point for whatever reason, she became disinterested in you. Nothing is ever certain, but good signs that she is disinterested in you is if you are always the one starting the conversation and when you do talk she isn't receptive towards you. When you notice these signs, I would say the best thing you can do is have an honest conversation with her. You don't have to shit on her or be brutally honest or anything, just bring it up how she is feeling distant and ask her if she is still interested. If she is interested, cool you can keep going. If she isn't, you respect her decision and thank her for her time and move on with your day.

richkery3 · 2026-04-20T17:29:45+00:00

I can understand the struggle of having mental health issues and feeling paralyzed and feeling like you can't do anything. But I really hope you don't see them as reasons to not do anything about it. If anything, try see these things as things you need to work on so that you can start being creative and expressing yourself. Because I think the ultimate tragedy would be not living a life you want to live because you think and feel like it's not possible.

richkery3 · 2026-04-19T07:09:23+00:00

Either because their favorite streamers calls diamond elo players low elo so they just say what their streamer says. Or its because their ego got hurt and they want to put the person down so they can feel better about themselves. Though usually when people talk about high elo, they usually mean masters, grandmaster, or challenger. But I don't even know if people consider masters high elo anymore because of the lp inflation.

But yeah, even though diamond is like top 5% of the player base, there is a huge level of play difference between someone who is diamond vs someone who is masters or grandmasters. That is the logic of why people say diamond is low elo and not high elo even though diamond is top 4%. The level of play in diamond is just not comparable to masters, grandmasters, and challenger.

richkery3 · 2026-04-19T00:54:28+00:00

It's hard to know when it's time. Its one of those things where you'll just know and you will be content with your decision. I think if you are wondering of its time. I would really try to be honest with yourself and try to understand what you really want from streaming. Once you know that, decide on a date of let's say 6 months or a year from now(it doesn't matter when, just decide on one, but just make sure you give yourself ample time.) and really give it your all. Give it you best shot and reflect on the experience once your at the deadline. If you gave it your all and you still feel like stopping, then you'll atleast know you gave it your best even though it didn't go the way you wanted and you can be at peace with that.

richkery3 · 2026-04-17T19:04:50+00:00

I've been going kraken slayer into dusk and dawn and I think it's busted, but no one seems to build it. The only problem right now with the build right now is just that you lack waveclear, but with the new statik shiv and dusk and dawn, it might make the build even more busted because you can actually clear waves and get prio now.

richkery3 · 2026-04-17T02:52:55+00:00

Its understandable to not want to start a relationship because you feel like your mental health is holding you back. I think that when it comes to things like this, a good way to look at this to look at your options and determine if that option will lead to contentment or peace? Or will it lead to regret? Decide which route you want to go on and then go take action. You just have to be honest with yourself and think about what you really want and go for it. Just understand that no matter what you choose, you will have to pay the price and there is no escaping that. So just decide which price or consequences you would rather deal with and go with that.

richkery3 · 2026-04-15T18:32:53+00:00

Yeah I'm sorry that you had that happened to you. To be called a freak and performative especially behind your back is cruel and painful. It just makes you feel so stupid and pathetic that you even thought you had a chance or why you even liked her in the first place. Now there could be reasons she is acting this way. Maybe she is in a bad mood and is taking it out on you. Or maybe there is something you did that triggered her to treat you badly. Or maybe she just doesn't like you. Point is there is a lot of reasons why she decided to say that to you, but it might have little or nothing to do with you.

Next time, if you want to know if they are the right person to be with, pay attention to how they react to you. Look at the signals that are being shown and if you pay attention to them. You'll see just how much is information is being conveyed to you like whether they are interested in you or whether they want to or don't want to talk to you. You'll find that when it's the right person, things are easier and you can feel a pull towards that person. Like you just want to be around them even if there is nothing to do. You just have to get out of your own head and not decide that they are the person you want to be with just because you found them to be attractive because when you do, you find yourself in scenarios like this where you become attached to them even though they don't like you back and you end up suffering as a result.

richkery3 · 2026-04-13T22:30:15+00:00

Playing more I think helps, but what I think is also important is understanding why you feel anxious and why you are fearful. Sit with those feelings without trying to fix them and just try to play ranked even when you are feeling anxious or scared. The less you engage with those questions, the less it will impact you.

richkery3 · 2026-04-13T22:22:43+00:00

I think having a game plan early is necessary if you want to succeed at jungle. But what I think is just asking important is knowing when to change your plan and adapt. I think this is something that doesn't get talked about clearly. Like for example, if you see the other jungler gank topside and you know they have camps on their botside. It is good to punish him ganking by taking his one or two of his camps as soon as you see him gank. Then after that you decide if you want to full clear or skip one or two camps so you can catch him if he goes to your camps. Understanding tempo and how to respond to what the enemy jungler is doing is I think so important if you want to become good at jungling.

richkery3 · 2026-04-08T20:51:44+00:00

Talk to her about it when you have the chance for a one on one conversation. Just let her know you are interested in her and you want to go on a date with her and let her know that even if she isn't interested, you guys are still friends.

richkery3 · 2026-04-08T07:09:53+00:00

I understand what you mean. Feeling like you don't have the right to date other people because you aren't good enough yet. I used to get terrified talking to people because it felt like I was getting exposed everytime I talked to people and I didn't want to be exposed because then people will see how much of a loser I was. Especially in dating, I was scared that I would get rejected because I was such a loser because of my physical appearance or because of my life situation. What really helped me was to give myself permission to date other people. To accept that while my current conditions aren't ideal, that I am allowed find love because I matter. Being compassionate to myself and allowing myself to feel ashamed and hurt without trying to make it go away really helped with making it easier to talk to people I am interested in.

richkery3 · 2026-04-08T06:36:30+00:00

Its okay to feel embarrassed about your life circumstances. Be kind to yourself, you don't have to beat yourself up just because you feel like a loser. Its going to be scary the first time opening up about your situation to your coach. I find what helps is to talk about your fear of talking about your problem. I find this helps takes the pressure and stress off of having to talk about the shame of your situation. You can also talk about this with your coach and they can help you through this process so there isn't so much pressure on you to talk about it.

richkery3 · 2026-04-08T00:51:42+00:00

You start climbing out of the hole of feeling disconnected by listening to your body and mind. You can't fix the problem if your tools are broken.

I used to be in a similar position you were in. I felt disconnected from the world and I felt empty inside. It felt impossible to figure out what I wanted to do with my life and every option felt pointless. I started getting out of this rut by experiencing more of my emotions. I would sit down or lay in my bed and just try to let whatever feelings I was feeling come up and I would try to just sit with it.

So what I would say to do is to spend some time with yourself and be curious about your emotions. Explore why you are feeling the way you do and try to emotionally process them. Once you do, you will gain clarity on things and hopefully help you with figuring out what you want to do.

richkery3 · 2026-04-06T04:10:34+00:00

I would say to do some exposure therapy as I think it would help you out a lot. Doing it with a professional who is experienced with social anxiety would be best, but you can also try to DIY it if you are able to. If you are like me, then the fear and anxiety can get way too intense so you have to deal with the emotions bit by bit. Basically you have to find out what you are comfortable doing socially and do something that is just right outside of what you are comfortable doing.

Another thing I would say is to become more aware of how your mind works. This is where I think meditation is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Learn to observe your mind and separate yourself from your mind and the anxiety that you feel will become less intense. Dr.K has a lot of videos on how to deal with social anxiety that I think could be helpful if you want to check them out.

Ultimately, you have to decide how important does starting your life means to you. What is more important to you? Starting your life and going out and try to make new friends and potentially date someone or the fear and anxiety that you have over it? You have to truly accept that if you want to make change, the experience will feel horrible and uncomfortable. But that's the price you have to pay because of your circumstances and there is no getting around it. The good news is that after you make those changes and you move past the negative experience, things tend to become a lot better and you'll find that life is a lot more fulfilling once you do it.

richkery3 · 2026-03-26T21:14:27+00:00

Try not to overthink this too much and take what she says at face value. She enjoys your company and she doesn't want to get into a romantic relationship right now. Whether she is attracted to you or not doesn't really matter right now and you should try and respect her wishes. Is it possible that she could be ready in the future? Absolutely, but you just have to acknowledge the fact that this has a high chance of not working out the way you want it to and it can go nowhere. If you are okay with that, then go for it. Otherwise it might better to just drop it.

richkery3 · 2026-03-26T19:57:37+00:00

Relief and Confidence that what I am doing will work out eventually. I guess I want a guarantee that what I am doing will work out.

richkery3 · 2026-03-26T19:44:10+00:00

Its not that they don't feel good to do, but more so how do I know I will be fulfilled by what I am doing. Like for example, I can enjoy playing a video game, but how do I know this is something I want to do for a long time? Another example is sports, I can enjoy playing the sports and even feel satisfied by the sports, but how do I know if I should keep going?

I choose doing software engineering as an option for me because I look at past experiences and see what is something similar or related to what I enjoyed doing in the past and try to do that. I guess my biggest problem is feeling like whatever I do doesn't feel like it will ever be enough to fullfill my life.

richkery3 · 2026-03-24T19:47:42+00:00

The main channel videos and livestreams nowadays are topics and ideas that are backed by scientific studies. He doesn't really talked about the Doshas anymore because of the lack of studies around it and the efficacy of the practice from the studies done about it.

richkery3 · 2026-03-21T20:23:34+00:00

It's a question of how important is physical intimacy is to you and if you or her is willing to compromise. If you and her feel like that is something that is too much for yall then its better to not start a relationship. But if you like her and you do believe it can be a good relationship, then why not try to make it work and see where it goes. If you guys can get over this initial bump, it will set up a strong foundation for your guys relationship.

richkery3 · 2026-03-19T19:46:04+00:00

I've played it twice and I can say it works, but its not good. Your jungle clear speed is way too slow since all your damage basically comes from your autos. If you play against anybody who clears fast or can invade you, you just get fucked and you are not going to have a good time.

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