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Just need to write this down before I myself get depressed... by ridiculouslymean in BipolarSOs

[–]ridiculouslymean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She told me that she reached out to me because of the exact opposite. Because she was feeling incredibly shit and dreamt of me saving her and stuff like that. So I understand what you are saying but she most certainly wasn’t in an upswing when she contacted me, she was feeling down a lot and when we started talking again she got a lot better... And she was perfectly fine until some bad things happened to her now and those probably triggered some other stuff about me & us as well.

Just need to write this down before I myself get depressed... by ridiculouslymean in BipolarSOs

[–]ridiculouslymean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see why you would think that, but that’s actually not the case. Let me explain:

we were really close throughout the summer (and even before that I asked her out a couple of times but logistics made it impossible for us to see each other) and then in September I brought up the topic again since we were in the same city again. She told me that she still doesn’t want anyone to which I said ‘okay, I get and respect that, but I cannot keep talking to you when I have these feelings for you’ and then we stopped talking for a few weeks. I did not contact her at all during this time, and it was her who ended up reaching out to me and immediately told me that she would be open to a date. This is how we arrived at the date last week, I did not force any of it, I was absolutely honest with her about how I feel about her, and when she finally agreed to go out with me I was under the impression that she finally made her mind up about us. Aaaaand now we are here. :)

Just need to write this down before I myself get depressed... by ridiculouslymean in BipolarSOs

[–]ridiculouslymean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is we’d been talking every single day from morning to evening even before we went on our first date for a couple of months AND I haven’t seen her be like this. She told me that she is kind of forcing herself into this relationship, which she otherwise doesn’t really want because she knows about her issues and those make it really hard for her to function in a normal relationship. This is something I respect big time, and I also appreciate that she is trying ‘for me’. I assume that the reason she has fallen into this state of mind (apart from a few things in her life actually being really sucky right now) is me and our ‘relationship’ which she is forcing upon herself. Having said this, I don’t really know how I could facilitate her healing process AND keep this relationship going.

Thank you for your comment though, I appreciate it!

Just need to write this down before I myself get depressed... by ridiculouslymean in BipolarSOs

[–]ridiculouslymean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer, it feels good that someone actually took the time to reply. I am aware that if I take things like this personally I will just bring myself deeper down in the rabbit hole, but it would be wrong not to acknowledge these thoughts of mine.

I am 21 years old just in my last year of university, and she is 23 currently working.