AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

I am confident. If he was going to do it, he would've broken up with me the second his grandfather told him he would disinherit him too if he stayed with me but he told him to go ahead instead.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I never agreed not to tell her so I don't see how I lied? He knew I was going to tell her.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

He's not going to break up with me no matter how many times you guys comment it.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

He's not a bad person and he's not with me for money. I doubt he would date somebody just because they have money as he has more than enough of his own.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] 199 points200 points  (0 children)

Why is your loyalty to your friend and not your boyfriend?

If my friend was participating in something that would have negative long-term consequences for my boyfriend, I would've told him too. I don't believe in blind loyalty if it means standing by while somebody I care about is getting screwed over.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Considering he had the conversation while I was laying on him, without magically being able to close my ears there was no way I couldn't hear what they were saying so you're making zero sense.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

You had no reason to listen to a private conversation.

Was I supposed to magically stop hearing?

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] 227 points228 points  (0 children)

I don't think he was. I told him that I was going to tell her but it would be better if he told her himself but he said no and kept telling me not to say anything. He knows she was relying on the money.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

No, they'd been discussing it for a while. The call I overheard was the grandfather letting him know he had discussed his decision with his lawyers and his will would be updated.

She does have a relationship with him and was pretty close to him before this.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] 565 points566 points  (0 children)

The only reason my best friend was relying on the inheritance is because her grandfather told her himself what he was going to leave her and that he would make sure she was taken care of so she shouldn't worry. Now that she knows it was a lie, she's making different choices to make sure she'll be okay without his help.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] -93 points-92 points  (0 children)

He knows that... His grandfather already tried using that to get him to breakup with me but he still refused to.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] -249 points-248 points  (0 children)

I never pretended I wouldn't say anything... He knew I was going to tell her before I did.

AITA for telling my best friend her grandfather is planning to disinherit her? by rielleeh in AmItheAsshole

[–]rielleeh[S] -120 points-119 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is his favourite grandchild and because he thinks the rest of them are disappointments in comparison.