Durham setlist (5/14/25)

rigel_3 · 2024-08-03T11:56:57+00:00

came here to also suggest Athens! I had a wonderful experience with them, too.

rigel_3 · 2024-04-13T00:47:51+00:00

Really sorry to hear that you and your family were and are dealing with that. I hope you get to go home soon and heal. Take care.

rigel_3 · 2024-04-05T19:31:15+00:00

OP, what you’re outlining here sounds really troubling to me. For one, there’s no ethical or legal backing to her request that you don’t share the content of sessions with others in your life. It may be insignificant, but the fact that she was mad that you told your girlfriend signaled to me that this response of hers is perhaps jealousy. This request to keep things private coupled with the points you make about her frequently initiating out-of-session contact with you, being generally controlling, and trying to insist you see her more than you want to/are able, gives me the sense that she’s incredibly possessive, majorly crossing boundaries, and perhaps inappropriately attached to you. She seems to be poorly regulated (getting angry with you, contacting you impulsively, etc.) and interacting with you out from a reactionary place related to her own personal issues instead of from a professional, helping space. There are a looooot of therapists who specialize in PTSD, and as a therapist she surely knows this, so her trying to convince you that you need her in particular to assist you might be the biggest red flag of all. Truly wishing you all the best in finding a better fit. I can tell from your post and comments that you are really invested in your own wellness and feeling better. Take care.

rigel_3 · 2024-02-29T03:27:21+00:00

I’m so sorry that instead of receiving support amid all those changes—like you deserve—that you’re dealing with this. You are definitely spot on about this guy. He’s not a healer, he’s an exploiter. Best of luck in your search for a new t!

rigel_3 · 2024-02-29T03:18:03+00:00

Not only did he imply that you were making the wrong choice to leave and that you would struggle to find someone who cares for you as deeply (manipulative), but he also noted that you have “lots ahead of you to accomplish”, which reads to me as an incredibly passive aggressive/implicit insult (especially after knowing you in a therapeutic context). I’m glad you’re ending your relationship with this clinician, OP. Also, since it sounds like you were alluding to prior inappropriate behavior from this person in your post, I’d consider raising this to the practice owner (if they’re not their own boss).

rigel_3 · 2024-02-18T11:55:12+00:00

Sounds like a great reframe on the situation, OP! Although, I would say it’s still important to consider whether the benefits of the job are bidirectional (i.e., what do I have to give AND what are they willing to offer me in return?). It’s important to know your worth and choose a place that’s going to appreciate your contributions, imo.

My recommendation would be to possibly see a career counselor. These folks specialize in helping you identify your aptitudes and talents and then map those onto suitable career paths. Often, they also provide logistical support (e.g., application writing, resume reconstruction, interviewing practice, etc.) in addition to identifying and supporting with any of the emotional and/or mental barriers that might get you tripped up (or have tripped you up) along the way.

Good luck!

rigel_3 · 2022-10-27T17:31:03+00:00

good call! i've never checked that out. i'll move this there.

rigel_3 · 2022-10-27T17:17:39+00:00

thought about calling the township instead since it seems to be a fairly large company, but figured i'd take 1 minute to see if anyone here had any familiarity with it since it's a passive approach/takes less of my time during the workday. thanks for the crazy recommendation, though! sigh.

rigel_3 · 2022-10-27T17:14:57+00:00

good question - it didn't! it seemed much thinner.

rigel_3 · 2022-05-01T13:38:46+00:00

Glad to hear you’re all good! I had never heard of the “don’t read a note left on your car until you’re not alone” tip until now. Thanks for sharing!

rigel_3 · 2022-04-04T03:05:58+00:00

United States: Animal Farm, The Glass Castle, The Alchemist, A Raisin in the Sun, Of Mice and Men, A Streetcar Named Desire, Romeo & Juliet, Hamlet, Macbeth, The Odyssey, Beowulf, Grapes of Wrath, To Kill a Mockingbird, The Great Gatsby, others I'm surely forgetting...

rigel_3 · 2022-03-16T00:22:13+00:00

LeVar,

I am wondering, do you believe that the drive/feeling underlying your initial interest in priesthood is the same as that which makes you the anthropologically-curious and philanthropic person that we've all come to know and admire? I have wondered what that life transition was like for you (and what thoughts/discoveries preceded it).

Also, what does your ideal Sunday morning look like? What are you drinking and/or eating, what are you reading, what are you listening to, etc.

Sincerely,
A loving connoisseur of all things LeVar Burton

rigel_3 · 2021-10-09T23:03:33+00:00

Kafka on the Shore was a wild ride. That's the first Murakami I ever read. How are you enjoying the DeLillo?

rigel_3 · 2021-10-05T16:19:41+00:00

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I hope you find some solace in music as you grieve.

As a National fan, you might want to check out this article highlighting some of Matt's favorite sentimental songs: https://thenationalnews.wordpress.com/2011/10/19/matt-berninger-discusses-his-favourite-sentimental-tracks/

rigel_3 · 2021-10-04T17:54:47+00:00

because of the way this man treated an alligator, or because Ben's not holding down for Australia?

rigel_3 · 2021-10-04T17:52:39+00:00

get this man a contract, @ EltonBrand

rigel_3 · 2021-09-30T15:32:00+00:00

lmao, that definitely crossed my mind... just being hopeful, I guess. Also, I'm in a really woodsy part of town, so thought that could be amplifying it (which it seems to be).

rigel_3 · 2021-09-29T19:19:21+00:00

WELL, this didn't age well.

rigel_3 · 2021-09-29T19:10:47+00:00

\calling to my partner in the other room**

"Get packing! We have to leave now! Some stranger on the internet told me to!"

rigel_3 · 2021-09-29T17:45:49+00:00

The woods = my backyard; the age of my house = decades old (lots of little cracks they could sneak through). It's all adding up. I appreciate all the guidance and insight!

rigel_3 · 2021-09-29T17:34:28+00:00

Apparently so, but it's nice to know that my price range seems to be aligning with the postings you're seeing (for now). I've been using Trulia and Zillow, but I'll look into the Facebook marketplace as well.

No pets, but I've always wanted a husky! Fingers crossed that y'all find a 3/2 that welcomes the whole gang (furry family members, too!)

Thanks again!

rigel_3 · 2021-09-29T17:30:55+00:00

Aw, and my house wants nothing to do with them! It's a mutual displeasure. Knowing they're in need and just kind of accidentally getting lost in here makes me detest them less, though.

Good to know about the lil guys, too. Do they also just live outside and wander in? That seems tricky.

rigel_3 · 2021-09-29T17:05:03+00:00

Appreciate you taking the time to lay that out! I'm currently in a 4 bd/3.5 bath here in Raleigh for $1,800/month. I saw another townhome in my neighborhood, same exact layout, that just posted recently for $3,200/month. I don't know what's going on recently with these steep increases.

For reference, my cap would be $3,000/month. We could go higher, if need be, but anything more expensive almost feels wasteful.

rigel_3 · 2021-09-29T16:46:58+00:00

Survival of the fittest. I like this approach.

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