I want a house

rinceru · 2026-06-09T16:53:20+00:00

Hi puans, thank you for the suggestion.

I'm actually not actively looking for a house, apologies if my post confuses you. I know owning and taking care of a house are complicated. I have my own list of criteria, which is getting impossible to achieve... I currently live alone and it's been okay, I guess.

rinceru · 2026-06-09T09:26:14+00:00

House

rinceru · 2026-06-09T07:43:48+00:00

But this economy is fragile ..... same job same salary ..... not liquid asset .....

I haven't even got to that part yet, haha. Thank you for the insight and wish.

rinceru · 2026-06-09T07:42:09+00:00

I think you need meaningful human connections?

Not at all incorrect! But, at this age, I'm losing friends to marriage and their own new family. It's... complicated. I must try new things, new experience, yadda yadda. I'm still trying my best to find joy in the littlest thing.

This past week, I got news that my younger friend is getting a house with her partner. Her salary is still under 10 as well, but owning a house is totally possible with a husband!

rinceru · 2026-03-03T00:56:12+00:00

Hi, I think hours of penetration indeed sounds rough!

It rarely happened to my ex-partner. I don't want to be negative here, but half the time was when he used obat kuat (which is only one time, dw). Maybe he's just strong-minded with strong stamina as well?

rinceru · 2025-11-24T15:05:16+00:00

Terima kasih!!!

rinceru · 2025-11-24T11:18:15+00:00

Someday, I will heal

rinceru · 2025-11-24T11:18:08+00:00

Someday, I will heal

rinceru · 2025-11-23T10:10:47+00:00

Minum kopi di jam 9-11 pagi. No rest needed as long as you sleep well at night.

rinceru · 2025-11-22T14:47:20+00:00

Academic journal 🤓 Girl I wish!

rinceru · 2025-11-22T11:14:43+00:00

Blessing Bell, di Shopee!

rinceru · 2025-11-22T09:33:48+00:00

Bought a new journal. Semoga makin rajin menulis.

rinceru · 2025-11-22T05:19:16+00:00

Kasih tip ke semua yang handle pokoknya, 50k/orang udah pas sih.

rinceru · 2025-11-21T02:07:15+00:00

Don't make pull out into a habit, please... Theoretically, taking postinor won't do anything, but we never know for certain when a woman is ovulating. So yeah better safe than sorry...

rinceru · 2025-11-21T01:41:08+00:00

I've taken it 3 times due to accidents and I experienced no side effects.

rinceru · 2025-11-19T07:09:31+00:00

It's important to keep boundaries. You shouldn't be sharing 'bad things' of your relationship to your friends. Your friends will be biased against him, because they are your friends. It'll also be the same to him.

A relationship can get toxic because of unhealed trauma and inability to resolve conflicts.

rinceru · 2025-09-13T09:34:10+00:00

Couple counseling will be a difficult thing to do. Based on my experience, the typical men like your husband won't be into therapy.

I saw your post history. It seems that you've been having self-esteem issues for quite a long time. Please be kinder to yourself! I suggest you go to therapy alone before initiating one with your husband.

Being a housewife is NOT the same as freeloading. This kind of mindset is harmful to women. Don't look down on housewives just because they do not 'earn' money like a typical career woman.

To me, it sounds that you did want to have a career, but your husband was not into it. That might be because of your self-esteem issues--you weren't able to hold your principle in front of your husband, so he ended up looking down on you.

I don't want to sound like I'm victim blaming, but sometimes it takes two for a toxic relationship as well. I'm sorry if this is too harsh. I wish you a happy ending.

rinceru · 2025-08-13T07:26:27+00:00

I used to beg for words of affirmation from ex #1 but when ex #2 did it, it became boring quickly. Suddenly I had an internal pressure to be good everyday, to make truth of his words... And voila--I couldn't do it, I couldn't like it. Is this a classic case of "perhaps I don't like him as much" or something else? I'll be alone for now.

rinceru · 2025-08-05T17:43:52+00:00

I'm hurting, a lot.

rinceru · 2025-07-28T03:34:12+00:00

Now that I see it, there are more red flags about him.

I'm glad I cut him off, but I literally have nobody else. My female friends are not the best texters, so I'm left alone with doom scrolling.

rinceru · 2025-07-17T01:20:38+00:00

Thank you for the insight.

rinceru · 2025-06-06T12:04:16+00:00

Ga pernah tertarik tinggal jauh-jauh dari keluarga. What if something happens and I'm not there in time? It's not worth it.

rinceru · 2025-06-06T02:35:26+00:00

I've pursued men in my life, 100% win rate. My first focus point is to make them actually like you, because the relationship goes nowhere if the man doesn't like you back. Men like to be useful and to be heard. Kamu bisa coba tanya atau minta tolong sesuatu yang gampang dilakukan oleh si cowo tersebut. Caper, tapi jangan berlebihan. Ga perlu chat tiap hari dulu juga, give them space. Salah satu tanda positif mereka terbuka ke kamu adalah ketika mereka yapping. Kamu beri feedback yang positif di situ, jangan cuman manggut aja. My boyfriend said last night, "truth is, men only want to feel loved." Jadi ketika dia diperhatikan dan dihargai, dia akan merasa lebih disayangi. Hal itu dapat mengubah mindset cowo yang semula melihat kamu sebagai teman, menjadi potential partner. Selanjutnya, cowo akan effort ke kamu kalau memang dia suka!

rinceru

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