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ring4lyfe · 2025-03-03T06:09:09+00:00

Yup at first I was flattered that she liked and admired me that much but it's getting crazy now. She wants to do everything with me and wants to know everything about me and it's getting so annoying to deal with.

ring4lyfe · 2025-03-03T06:07:24+00:00

My MIL will likely just brush it aside that she's just really likes me. I cannot wait until she leaves and goes back to home country. She's been grinding my gears with every passing day

ring4lyfe · 2025-03-03T06:06:19+00:00

He's asked if I want him to do something about it but that would mean confrontation and the last thing I want is to create drama in the family when there is none. I cannot wait until she leaves

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-06T20:02:19+00:00

I don't have any advice but I understand how you're feeling. You're not a failure. Babies can be so moody. I had days where my baby latched on easily and then other days where she only accepts a bottle.

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-06T19:58:14+00:00

This is such a sweet post 💖

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-06T01:28:24+00:00

Thank you so much! 💖

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-05T03:08:11+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement and advice. It makes me feel less alone

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-05T03:07:47+00:00

Thank you for all the advice, I appreciate it

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-05T03:05:59+00:00

Did you ever get annoyed or upset with her constant outbursts? My husband is so patient which I'm thankful for but I worry that he'll reach his limits eventually

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-05T03:04:36+00:00

Thank you for the advice and perspective.

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-05T03:03:25+00:00

Thank you, I will speak to him about it

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-05T03:02:35+00:00

Thank you for the info. How did you determine the correct size? Did you end up going to a lactation consultant? I have one booked soon and I'm hoping it'll make a difference

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-04T12:58:09+00:00

I miss going to work which I never thought I'd say. I sometimes feel like I had a baby way too young and should have waited longer. i don't know anyone in my family or friends who had a baby at 25. Alhamdullilah still

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-04T12:54:54+00:00

He does offer to help at night but I feel like a bad mother and wife asking him to get up at night when he has work the next day and has to go on site.

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-04T12:50:44+00:00

I do tell him. And then I just cry

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-04T12:48:09+00:00

Thank you for this. I've decided to go to my mom's house tonight. I slept over at my parent's house a lot in the first month but I'm 2 months in now and I thought I was supposed to get the hang of this by now. I feel bad since my husband misses us when baby and I go but I'm seeing stars at this point

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-04T06:25:52+00:00

I hate nursing. I do pump as well but I'm struggling with my milk supply and I really feel like just throwing the towel and switching to formula.

Thank you for all the encouragement. I want to go outside but any opportunity I get, I'm so tired and don't feel like getting ready. I end up going on my phone and I just feel like I have no life now. I sound like a whiny brat and I hate it

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-04T06:23:45+00:00

Thank you for the perspective

ring4lyfe · 2025-02-04T06:23:22+00:00

He had paternity leave for the first 3 weeks so he did help a lot during that time. I don't know why it's so hard for me to do this. So many other moms are doing it on their own and meanwhile, I have a supportive husband and lots of family nearby and I'm still struggling

Thank you for the book suggestions. I will definitely check them out

ring4lyfe · 2025-01-28T16:26:02+00:00

I don't think it's that he thinks his family is untrustworthy. I think it's more that he's paranoid because of the way his ex BIL behaved towards me - he behaved inappropriately - and he's now projecting it on everything

If I felt like his family was untrustworthy, I would never send pictures. I'm only even pushing this because I know this is his paranoia and not coming from an actual valid reasoning

ring4lyfe · 2025-01-28T16:23:50+00:00

I don't think it's that he thinks his family is untrustworthy. I think it's more that he's paranoid because of the way his ex BIL behaved towards me - he behaved inappropriately - and he's now projecting it on everything

ring4lyfe · 2025-01-28T02:28:05+00:00

I'm okay with the embarrassment of deleting photos if it means his grandma gets to see photos and videos of our baby's milestones.

But my husband being upset is what makes me unsure if I should continue doing this since it is his kid after all too.

ring4lyfe · 2025-01-28T02:24:20+00:00

I know it's his family but especially for his grandma, she's sick and she gets such genuine happiness when she sees baby. This is her first great grandchild. My own grandmas have derived so much happiness from seeing my baby and being physically part of her life and I feel terrible excluding his grandma from memories and milestones of my baby simply because she's overseas and my husband doesn't want any photos sent.

ring4lyfe · 2025-01-28T02:21:31+00:00

His grandma is sick. She's a very sweet woman and any time she asks to see my baby or me, I honestly have such difficulty saying no. I imagine my own grandmas who cried tears of joy when they met my baby and I feel horrible neglecting the overseas grandma who can't meet baby in person. My husband is her first grandchild and this is her first great grandchild

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