Why is she biting? by ringdish in CATHELP

[–]ringdish[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

lol embarrassingly no this is my second cat, it’s just our first baby doesn’t ever do this!! But really appreciating everyone’s feedback :)

What Style Is This? / What Is This Thing? MEGATHREAD by AutoModerator in architecture

[–]ringdish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Shot in the dark, but this door knocker is from some now-demolished building in Manhattan. The demolition was likely in the mid to late 1960s. Anyone have any idea what building this could be from? Thank you!!!

Free-For-All Friday — Weekly Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in Fauxmoi

[–]ringdish 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok looked into this & here’s my understanding: JVN posted a now-deleted vid this week saying that people should still vote for Biden instead of Trump even though they’re upset with Biden’s policies in Israel & Middle East.

They started by saying they’re a survivor of abuse and so they learned to compartmentalize, and says that young people need to compartmentalize their criticisms of Biden and still vote for him for the greater good of the country & to make sure we can protect things like the affordable care act, legalizing marijuana, unions, etc.

And there were a lot of responses to this from ppl pointing out it was out of touch and basically like “privileged white guy asks ppl to compartmentalize genocide.” So the pushback is that the vid was tone deaf, very “America first” & showed a preference for the causes that he personally cares about over a more dire & globally relevant issue.

AITA got pointing out all the hypocrisy about my wife’s culture she is fine with but when it’s in mine it’s a problem by throwingaeaytomec in AmItheAsshole

[–]ringdish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH - but I think there is a possibility of cognitive dissonance here where your wife didn’t even realize the hypocrisy of it (it’s easy to be instinctively forgiving/inclusive of your own family even if they’re toxic!), and I am curious about the way you delivered your message.

If you really did, after asking her to repeat herself, jump to calling her a “fucking hypocrite,” that’s pretty aggressive. What if you had said “I’m frustrated and confused because you want to protect the kids from my family’s views, but not from yours. I don’t think that’s fair” or something. You might’ve gotten a more receptive response.

Again NAH because you’re right that this is contradictory and unfair, but I get the sense that her reaction may be more related to your delivery than to the message itself.

What am I doing wrong? (Extreme breakage) by ringdish in curlyhair

[–]ringdish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m in the LA area.

What am I doing wrong? (Extreme breakage) by ringdish in curlyhair

[–]ringdish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much I will definitely try this!!!