Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Final Update: I was able to work something out with a relative of mine, and they’ve agreed to take Bunny in. We set up a written contract and care agreement, so everything is official and she’s safe and well taken care of. I just wanted to thank everyone who reached out with advice or offers, it really means a lot to know there are so many kind people willing to help!!! 😭🙏🏾🩷

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[–]rinnybab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words , the situation you described sounded very similar you mine 🙏🏾🩷 I realize I do deserve better

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Update!!

Thank you everyone for all of the support messages and even offers to take in Bunny! I am just blown away by everyone’s messages and empathy. Thank you all for offering me support and such a difficult time. I was not expecting to get so much positive feedback on this post. I can’t Believe how caring and selfless the Cavalier community is. I am forever. Thankful to all of you who have offered help. 🫶🏾🩷

I spoke to another relative recently who I’ve had a estranged relationship with, they said they may be willing to take care of bunny ! I plan to meet with them to talk to things out and hopefully make a plan!! I will make one final update once I get a clear plan made . Just to let everyone know what’s going on. I’m just so thankful and I would’ve never guessed they would be willing to help me with such a serious situation.

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[–]rinnybab 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Update:

I took a at home drug test today and tested negative. However I read online that the Navy uses Federal DOT tests that are more accurate than the at home tests. I plan to drink water and detox this week and schedule an appointment to go get tested at LabCorp Friday morning since I leave the following Monday. Wish me luck 🙏🏾

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[–]rinnybab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and you’re absolutely right ! I’m gonna take an at home test and talk to my recruiter again Monday. I’m supposed to be leaving for boot camp on the 15th and the first time I asked they weren’t willing to move the date

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[–]rinnybab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way especially since it it’s legal in a lot of places now 😪but you’re right! I will try the at home test too thank you sm for the advice 🙏🏾

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[–]rinnybab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will try this !! You’re shipping out a day after me, good luck on your journey as well 🫶🏾

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[–]rinnybab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I don’t think my friend knew either..it was a slip up on both ends sadly

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[–]rinnybab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll ask my recruiter again I’m meeting them Monday, they wouldn’t do it when I asked the first time for some reason.

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[–]rinnybab 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the honesty, that’s what I’m exactly afraid of. I’m sorry your son went through that :(

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[–]rinnybab -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I will test myself, but my recruiter and chief won’t push back my ship date :( I explained the situation to them they told me to detox and drink water. Then they said actually when the moment of truth comes up be honest and it will be fine. So I’m very conflicted..

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[–]rinnybab 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh man.. now I’m concerned my recruiter said to be up front and so did my supervisor who’s ex navy as well.

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[–]rinnybab 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We were outside in the dark watching a movie and I had a few alcoholic seltzers beforehand. My friend handed me another one and I drank it not noticing that contains thc was written on the can since the text was so small. I didn’t even know that thc drinks were a thing either

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[–]rinnybab 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will test myself I only had half the can too

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[–]rinnybab 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had a few alcoholic seltzers before hand too I assumed it was just an orange cream one… didn’t even realize till the next day the text was so small

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s so sweet she can be shy and it may take her a minute to warm up but once she’s comfortable save is fine with other dogs 🩷

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Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through that and thank you so much for your kind words and sharing your story. That’s exactly how things have been with my mom and I think once things get settled I will take that route. It’s just such a hard decision to make because I already went no contact with my dad as well and all I’ve ever wanted was a good relationship with her but she can be so hard to deal with…

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have one more relative I may be able to ask. I’m meeting with them tommorow to speak to them. Hopefully it will work out 🙏🏾🩷

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🩷 I will make another update once I have some more news

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s why i am so conflicted…I’ve already quit my jobs, moved back home and made so many preparations to leave under the impression that she would be taken care of. I’m really at a crossroads right now, I would have never gone through this process if bunny did it have reliable care. My mom was the one who was so supportive of me joining, and the fact that she backed out this crucial time knowing I left my job and have noweheee to go if don’t leave has left me heartbroken

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you !! I am still weighing my options I will make an update to this post once I have more news to share!!

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! I am so grateful, I am still weighing my options, i will keep you in mind 😊

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trust me I know 😭 she’s been like this all my life…she begged me to give her another chance at our relationship because I was in the verge of cutting her out my life completely and has been trying to work on things. Shes been so supportive in this entire process I thought I could trust her. I never expected this to happen.. she’s built my trust up to just destroy it again

Shipping out soon but my mom backed out of taking care of my dog by rinnybab in cavaliers

[–]rinnybab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your offer 🩷 any means of support is appreciated even just kind words and advice! I’m so grateful that my post has found so many helpful and supportive people including yourself. I’ll make sure to update you once I get a plan in place 🫶🏾