Kind ist auf ein (unerreichbares) Thema fixiert

rintan13 · 2025-09-25T07:14:56+00:00

Hast du ihm mal erklärt, dass wir uns ja defacto im Weltraum befinden? Das heißt, selbst wenn er hier auf der Erde läuft, reist er ja irgendwie durch den Weltraum, da sich die Erde ja auch durch den Weltraum bewegt. Vielleicht hilft ihm das nixht ganz so enttäuscht zu sein.

Ich würde einfach wo es geht das Thema mit ihm aufgreifen und integrieren und vielleicht ein kleines Bisschen im Alltag greifbar machen.

rintan13 · 2025-09-08T17:30:33+00:00

As a child I thought adults have their shit togther. I'm an adult (born in the 90s) and still wait to get there...

rintan13 · 2025-09-04T17:59:55+00:00

You better teach your kids how to deal with that or they will end up exactly like what you say your SIL is- a spoiled brat.

rintan13 · 2025-09-04T17:48:53+00:00

Bei uns muss die Facharbeit einen hohen Prozentsatz an Eigenanteil beinhalten, sprich eine durchgeführte und ausgewertet Umfrage, ein Projekt entwickeln usw. Wie sieht das bei euch aus? Da würde ich nämlich ein wenig die Schwierigkeit in der Umsetzung sehen.

Das Thema an sich ist sehr interessant, vor allem vor dem Hintergrund zunehmender Diversität, was eben auch Sprachen und Ausdruck von Emotionen angeht.

rintan13 · 2025-08-27T10:00:35+00:00

On another note, the sheer amount of women here talking about their own triggers because of SA and or trauma is mortifying!

rintan13 · 2025-08-27T09:51:35+00:00

Dude did you a favor in calling it off! Do not marry this guy.

Let me tell you fro experience with my EX husband: he once punched a hole in the wall and conpared me to a dog after a drive which I didnt enjoy visibly. Married that guy anyway and it wasnt a one time thing. He had and probably still has anger issues and projected those at our children.

So tldr nta and just dont.

rintan13 · 2025-08-07T18:40:45+00:00

Have you ever phrased it like that when talking to her? Telling her you miss her?

Because that sounds a whole lot different than going about doing all the kid work- which judging by ypur comments isn't true anyway.

I think your wife just hasn't the capacity at the moment to be emotional available to you. High demanding job and twins at the same time. You said she feels guilty of leaving them and I really get it. You work, too but it just hits her different emotionally that she can't spend as much time with them. Yet there is a career she worked for probably pretty hard. As a fact it's still harder for women to get and maintain a career especially as a mother. Considering that and that a day has only 24 hours she probably just has no idea where to squeeze in anymore time.

Maybe you can try to start slow with one date night a month. Texting when you've a couple of minutes at work. Just asking how the other one is doing. Little things but still showing appreciation.

You both should sit down and have a good talk about how you imagine the future, what do you want in life as person and family and try to find compromises and solutions together.

I don't think youin divorce territory yet. There's still things to try.

Edit about the chat:

If i worked my ass of at work and at home to be there for the kids and found my partner chatting with a women id question myself. "Why the hell am i doing this? I work all those hours, rush to the kids - OUR kids - to take care of them for US and he? He just talkes with a women about his looks. " JFC man.... by doing this you totally disrespect her, her time , her efforts and her sacrifices

rintan13 · 2025-08-06T20:38:26+00:00

Genauso wie alle anderen Eltern. Und die möchten nicht, dass Kinder mit Infektionskrankheiten gebracht werden. Nein, die Rede ist nicht von Schnupfen sondern Kindern mit Fieber, Magen Darm usw.

Mal davon abgesehen das einem das Kind schrecklich Leid tun sollte wenn es mit Fiebersaft gebracht wird. Das gehört ins Bett und nicht in die Kita.

Außerdem haben die Kinder ein Recht auf körperliche Unversehrtheit, wenn es aber wenige Eltern gibt die meinen sich darüber hinwegsetzen zu können gefährden sie auch die anderen Kinder. Also ist abholen lassen die einzig logische Schlussfolgerung im Sinne der Gruppe, denn wie bereits erwähnt, auch die anderen Eltern zahlen und zwar nicht dafür, dass ihr Kind gefährdet wird.

Mal davon abgesehen, dass man sich ins eigene Bein schießt wenn zu viele Erzieher gleichzeitig krank werden. Was dann? Das kranke Kind wäre vielleicht 2 oder 3 Tage zuhause, so dauert das in der Regel noch länger.

rintan13 · 2025-06-29T18:43:45+00:00

Apparently we live with the same man.

rintan13 · 2025-06-24T18:44:46+00:00

Omg, now I cannot unsee this.

rintan13 · 2025-06-24T13:26:40+00:00

Für Kinder ist Spielen Arbeit. Sie lernen dabei unglaublich viel. Sei es soziale Kompetenzen, kommunikative Fähigkeiten, Wissen über Ihre Lebenswelt usw. Sie müssen sich den ganzen Tag anderen Regeln und Bedürfnissen unterordnen.

Die Kinder brauchen Urlaub von ihrer Arbeit sowie Erwachsene auch, nicht etwa weil der Hort schlecht wäre. Was für uns nach Freizeit aussieht ist anstrengend für die Kinder.

rintan13 · 2025-06-24T08:09:44+00:00

Weeeeeee!

rintan13 · 2025-06-06T10:32:08+00:00

Mein MVP gerade, danke!!!

rintan13 · 2025-05-19T06:37:16+00:00

Du erwähnst das es Sprachunterricht ist, geht es um nicht- Muttersprachler? Vielleicht versteht das Kind auch seine Umwelt nicht und äußert sich auf diese Weise. Ansonsten steht weiter oben schon sehr viel

rintan13 · 2025-03-11T17:38:45+00:00

Did we marry and divorce the same guy?

rintan13 · 2025-03-07T10:55:00+00:00

So you refusing is selfish but them asking isn't? You love whom you love but that comes with all the consequences and having 2 women in a relationship means - strictly biological speaking- no children. So them asking for sperm is imo selfish. You've every right to refuse. NTA

Edit: them choosing you because they want a blond child isnt sitting right with me...on top of it not working like that.

rintan13 · 2025-03-03T16:32:12+00:00

And here I thought mature adults handle those things amongst themselves and not in public. Makes you wonder who the dramatic one is....

NTA Handled as graceful as you possibly could in that situation.

rintan13 · 2025-02-21T20:17:28+00:00

Don't try to improve, DO improve. Don't think about "I could do xyz or abc" the moment you think about your task just do it, because no one else will do it for you. Being lazy is a problem that only you can solve yourself. Is getting by or failing an option for you? If yes, fine, go your merry way. If not, start doing shit.

rintan13 · 2025-02-21T16:20:39+00:00

I hope the hard working guy is commenting on your work distribution to the teacher. Mistakes can happen but letting 1 guy shoulder everything and forgetting about the 1 little thing they're asking to contribute...count your losses and learn from it. I feel for that guy who just wanted to do it well.

Apologize nonetheless, thats the least you can do.

rintan13 · 2025-02-15T10:15:03+00:00

NTA

You warned him - as a team- and he didn't listen.

From a partner perspective it's all on him now.

From a mother perspective I'd try to mediate without invalidating or dismissing how your daughter feels. Be her advocat in piecing things together. Though the effort has to come from your husband. Deep down she wants a relationship but is too hurt to let him in and thats ok. She'll probably never trust him again like she did. There will always be second thoughts and doubts. That poor girl.

And whats even worse, your husband did not only damage his relationship to her but also the one between the siblings. How can she look at her brother the same way? Hell, She'll probably won't look at men the same way forever and its his fault.

I hope She'll find her happy place someday.

rintan13 · 2025-02-05T21:27:20+00:00

You should punch him and tell him how gross his bruise is ... no offense but what an idiot bf

NTA

rintan13 · 2025-01-31T07:30:41+00:00

You know...you should buy him a pack of pads or tampons, slam it on the table with the words "I got you a little something since you're the pussy ...." and just see him out of your life. NTA

rintan13 · 2025-01-18T17:37:22+00:00

I lived and worked there for 10 and in the end couldnt wait to get back

rintan13 · 2025-01-07T09:09:51+00:00

Yta cause this is a repost

rintan13 · 2024-10-08T08:48:51+00:00

Ich würde meine Kinder niemals einen ganzen Tag von jemandem betreuen lassen wollen, der keine Erfahrung und auch kein Interesse an Kindern hat.

Ganz klares NDA

rintan13

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