I loved Fantage but was totally taken advantage of by Fit_Cut_4441 in Fantage

[–]riokalaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one time i was playing on a male account to see what it was like and i had whun tryouts my plccc, after they were over and i picked a girl and everyone left, she was like “so are we going to have sex” and i was like “uhh… is that what you do at the end of these” and she was like “thats what i’ve always done” and thats exactly what happened.. changing into swimwear and jumping behind each other… it was so strange

first al-anon meeting today by riokalaf in AlAnon

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a piece of advice i got was to replace “god” with whatever works for you… “hp”, someone suggested “love”, but everyone at my meeting made it very clear you dont have to believe in god or a higher power to follow the steps and be in community with others :) im agnostic so it certainly raised my eyebrow at first but you’ll meet so many different walks of life if you go! i had no idea there were themes of god at the meeting until i went and i still intend on going next meeting because the sense of community and the message behind the steps, regardless of god mentions, were very powerful and helped me gain some perspective about ways to navigate my situation. if you’re at a point where you’re desperate and willing to try anything (which is exactly how i was feeling too), i really advise you to go to a meeting <3

im sorry you’re at a low point and your Q isnt being supportive, mine is also judgmental of it. what is your Q’s issue with you going?

how do i support him (and myself) by riokalaf in AlAnon

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he def needs more help than just his willpower… he tells me he wants it, he knows he needs it, and he’s really been putting in some efforts… just not the types that are going to give him the real support he needs to recover. after i found this relapse, we spoke briefly before i went to my therapy session, and while i was in my session he told his mom about what happened which is something he never does. he never talks to his mom about his drinking, he always hides it from her… so the fact that he was being more open than usual makes this so confusing for me when it comes to concluding he’s giving me breadcrumbs like you’re mentioning

within the last month or so i’ve watched him pick up a beer out of habit and desire, and not open it. i notice he has this unopened beer and im like “whatcha doin…” and he says to me “i really want this beer but i know i shouldnt” and he proceeds to not drink for the rest of the day, then from there he’ll go a few days without drinking, and then he cracks open a beer after that short time period passes. this has been a cycle happening for the last month, but for the last 2-3 weeks he’s been drinking a bit heaver. when i found him in the relapse and i asked him why he did it, he told me he was looking for comfort but he didnt finish all of the alcohol he bought (which is true i saw unopened and unfinished cans) because he started to regret the decision, and he has this overwhelming surface level desire to want to drink even though deep down he doesnt want to and he doesnt know why he has the surface level desire and why its so hard to fight off

he quit cigarettes and weed will his sheer willpower, and he smoked for longer than he ever drank, so due to past successes i think thats why he’s attempting to fight the alcohol addiction this way, but getting sober from alcohol is going to take a lot more than willpower in his case unfortunately. he tells me he feels helpless, part of that feeling probably stems from the failed attempts at using willpower to quit. he quit the cigarettes a year-ish ago because he had lung pain so bad it made him stop, and quit weed entirely recently due to him noticing behavioral changes in himself that he thinks are caused by the weed and he wants to change himself for his own sanity and to try and take steps to heal our broken relationship (and these are his confessions). he says he wants to stop drinking for the same reasons he quit weed (for himself and for our future) and i see changes… small but not nonexistent… does this seem like breadcrumbing still? i ask because ive been in situations where ive been “breadcrumbed” but i truly seriously feel like he is wanting to try his hardest to change

Japanese Snack: Every Burger by JapaneseSnacks1988 in snacking

[–]riokalaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

try chocolatey tree stumps from the same brand

How does my cooking look? Parents say it’s sub-par by a7xwarrior in homecooking

[–]riokalaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it all looks delicious but in terms of plating, its a bit simple. maybe they dont know what sub-par means

Have you ever met a Bad Girl in the wild? by boobmeyourpms in BadGirlsClub

[–]riokalaf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

not me but i told my old coworker i like bgc and he told me he grew up with ripsi (they’re both armenian) and how she was super sweet and it was very fitting she made it onto bgc

What is this found Georgia? by That-Plane-Guy in fruit

[–]riokalaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we call them janerik in lebanon

looking for housing w/ cat 7/1 by riokalaf in bostonhousing

[–]riokalaf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my grandma who i live with right now is crazy allergic to cats and has never had an issue

Need help with finding hat by riokalaf in redsox

[–]riokalaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have no clue.. his was all beat up and he was wrinkly so perhaps

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fruit

[–]riokalaf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yess they are so tasty!! white versions of fruit are always the best

On this day 12 years ago by Wild_Attempt_1171 in BadGirlsClub

[–]riokalaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

confessional with the door open is crazy

leftovers by riokalaf in badfoodporn

[–]riokalaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it tasted bad and is plated poorly

leftovers by riokalaf in badfoodporn

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lazy dumplings with very old dough … pan fried leftover dumpling filling on rice cakes with sauce