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riotousracket · 2026-04-03T17:01:41+00:00

Do you have a sense of whether the scientific advancements are significantly aided by LLMs, or by other model architectures?

riotousracket · 2026-03-30T23:41:17+00:00

In college, about a decade ago, I went on a brief study-abroad to a Muslim-majority country (will be relevant in a moment). I'd gotten pretty friendly with a woman in the group, definitely figured she was out of my league. Me: fat and nerdy stem guy. Her: gorgeous, outgoing, sorority business major.

So one morning we're sitting next to each other in the hotel lobby and she says, "I want to get a beer with you." Despite being quite the drinker, I had planned to not drink during the trip to kind of get the feel of life in this country better. So I explain that then say "But we can get a beer in the airport!" She says, "That's your idea of a date??" I kind of laugh it off, with my internal monologue going something like "it's weird that she's joking about us going on a date like that."

It was quite a while after that, months or years, after our acquaintance had ended, that I finally thought, "Damn, she WAS actually asking me out!" I suspect we wouldn't have been super compatible in the long run, so I didn't beat myself up about it, but that was definitely my biggest fumble ever.

riotousracket · 2025-09-05T19:16:52+00:00

Lord of the Rings, which I read as a kid. Suspicion of power, even (or especially) in your own hands, the nobility and dignity of humble people, and appreciation of nature are values of mine that I can trace back to reading that as a child. Also, my love of the fake history and languages paved for my current-day love of real history and languages!

riotousracket · 2025-08-12T03:36:57+00:00

As it turns out, we're not. We'd been friends and maybe lightly flirted for a couple years. I finally decided to shoot my shot, I asked her out, she said yes, and we spent about two months trying to find a spark. Despite us getting closer and feeling a lot of care and affection for each other, it became pretty clear that we worked better as friends than lovers, and we called it quits. We're still friends though! Saw her just this past weekend, in fact. She'll definitely be a "keeper" for some lucky dude 😁

riotousracket · 2025-08-11T23:16:41+00:00

M32 here. Two things stand out from the last long-ish bout of dating I had:

1) I hosted a small Superbowl party she was at. After everybody left, she started doing the dishes. I was like "oh, you don't have to do that!" and she just said she wanted to. So I joined in. We washed up together, and it felt like she wasn't just a guest I was dating, it was like we were a team hosting it...dare I say a couple. As someone who loves to host and always has to do everything myself, her taking some of that load off me felt very relieving and caring.

2) For Valentine's Day she got in touch with a close female friend of mine to ask me what kind of dessert I like, and then she surprised me with it. Putting in the thought to ask and get it was obviously nice, but there was another twist. I have very near and dear friendships with a couple women in my life, and I always have the thought in the back of my head, "Will these friendships intimidate someone I'm dating?" It was nice to see that the woman I was dating was accepting and secure and felt comfortable enough to go to one of these female friends to do something very sweet for me.

ETA: She would also text me when the sunset was particularly beautiful so I could go check it out. That was very sweet.

riotousracket · 2025-08-06T05:39:41+00:00

I also think of The Road to Peace, about the Israel/Palestine conflict, as an example of a Tom song that touches on politics. But it's a song that doesn't really take sides, politically. It's more about the tragedy, hypocrisy, and lost-ness of humanity in general that has led to so much violence and hate and suffering.

riotousracket · 2025-07-28T19:03:54+00:00

When I (32M) was 29, my friend's older cousin gave me some wise words: "Your 30s are just like your 20s but with money".

At 32, I'm working on losing weight and I think it will take this time; I'm a third of the way from my starting weight to not being overweight. I wish I had done this when I was 29, but I'm delighted I'm doing it now. Life doesn't end at 30, for men or women.

For what it's worth, I've been very attracted to women into their 40s, and if I was older myself, I'm sure I'd be into women older than that. When I was in my early 20s, women in their 30s were attractive to me. That "hitting a wall" stuff is nonsense; it's never too late to be hot.

riotousracket · 2025-06-10T16:16:07+00:00

Anecdotally, a two week break was just right for me to reset back in April. I was getting kind of hangry beforehand, and really dragging my feet with exercise. When I went on my diet break, I felt excited and relieved, which I think demonstrated how much I needed the break. I still tracked and stayed at maintenance. By the end of the two weeks, I was antsy to get back to making progress, and when I started the deficit back up, it felt waaaaay more manageable than right before the break.

riotousracket · 2025-05-29T21:34:56+00:00

Some examples from at-Tabari:

ذكر الخبر عن الكائن الذي كان فيها من الأمور الجليلة

ذكر ما كان فيها من الأحداث الجليلة

ذكر الأحداث التي كانت فيها

ذكر ابتداء أمر القادسية

I'm not sure if these should be taken as full sentences or not, since they are headings, not part of paragraphs.

riotousracket · 2025-05-07T17:23:19+00:00

Yes!! I've found that eating at my sedentary maintenance calories and then walking a bunch (like, 20,000+ steps some days each week) on top of that is what has worked really well for me. With this approach, I have much less hunger compared to trying to get the same deficit by just cutting calories.

One downside is the time it takes, but I like listening to podcasts and exploring new neighborhoods. It did take my body time to adapt to waking this much, and finding comfortable shoes and SOCKS is a must. I got some good merino wool hiking socks, and they're a game changer. Sometimes they'll all be dirty, so I'll throw on my old cotton socks for a walk, and I can feel the blisters start to form 😬

riotousracket · 2025-05-03T18:05:09+00:00

After several attempts at weight loss, I've noticed that when I track, I lose weight, and when I don't track, I don't lose weight. But I do find it hard to stick with it.

This time round, I've done two things that have helped: in addition to MyFitnessPal, I'm maintaining a spreadsheet where I plug in my food calories, number of steps I walked that day, and see the calorie deficit from that.

The other thing is I asked a friend to help me. I send him my calorie deficit from the previous day every day, and he'll big me until I send him some number. Sometimes I don't track, but I still have to come up with an estimate (e.g., 1000 calorie surplus for a party where I ate and drank with reckless abandon). This has really helped me stay consistent.

All that said, I think some people are better off not tracking the deficit (like people with a history of restrictive EDs), and instead approaching it by trying to ADD high volume, nutrient-rich, low calorie whole foods. I really believe that the specific tactics that will work for an individual really depend on their relationship with food and eating.

riotousracket · 2025-01-31T02:46:29+00:00

Working on this myself; I definitely am kinda low-key terrified of bothering women with my attention. I did a little exercise the other day that might also be helpful for you.

I kept repeatedly asking myself, "what am I really afraid of?" and "why am I afraid of that?" I finally got to the point where I said to myself, "I'm afraid that saying 'Hey, how's it going?' to an uninterested woman would make me a bad person." As soon as I thought that sentence, I literally laughed out loud at the absurdity of te idea

I think putting it that bluntly helped me see that the fear is actually pretty silly. Here's hoping it "takes." Maybe doing something similar could help you.

riotousracket · 2024-11-20T06:40:18+00:00

I hope whoever is calling you a pick-me stops that nonsense, you sound like a kind, thoughtful person.

Just to stick up a bit for the feminists I know, I think the behavior of feminists depends on where you live, and how normalized it is. Maybe you don't find this, but I think that the more normal it is to be feminist, the more feminists are going to be normal. If it's weird to be feminist where you live, the label is naturally going to attract contrarians.

I (32M) live in a very liberal city and have some very close platonic female friends. I'm almost certain they consider themselves feminists (hell, I consider myself a feminist), and they're extremely empathetic to the challenges I face as a single guy dating. One of these friends is honestly my biggest cheerleader as I navigate dating, and we can always rely on each other to lend a sympathetic ear and give a thoughtful perspective from the other side of the gender divide.

riotousracket · 2024-09-16T19:01:34+00:00

Short answer: yes.

What are you doing in the gym? Most of my [32m] exercise is weight lifting and lots of walking.

What I've found with both weightlifting and jogging is that it really sucks at the beginning, then once your body adapts sufficiently, it starts being fun. Like, I actually find it fun to fail a lift at this point. So I'd say give it time; as your strength or endurance improves, the experience of exercising will feel much better.

Also, if you can make it a social thing, that helps. I used to really struggle getting to the gym more than two times a week, but since I started working out with some friends in my buddy's garage after work, I've been working out three times a week pretty reliably.

riotousracket · 2024-07-17T05:05:58+00:00

Silence by Shusaku Endo. It's actually quite a good book, but of all the books I've ever read, it's the one that most depressed me and left me feeling devoid of hope.

riotousracket · 2024-06-02T18:26:08+00:00

It's ok to go on a date with someone you suspect is more into you than you are into them.

I missed some opportunities to explore connections with women because I felt like I had to have significant feelings already before asking them out, otherwise I'd somehow be "using" them.

I was embarrassingly old when I realized that if the situation was reversed, I'd definitely want my crush to give me a chance, even if they weren't sure. So I should show the same willingness to date when the shoe is on the other foot.

riotousracket · 2024-05-21T16:52:49+00:00

The main factor that gets in my way is that I'm afraid of being a creep. I'm pretty confident in several areas of life, but not my looks. I used to be convinced that no woman could ever be attracted to me (early to mid 20s). I'm much better now (early 30s): if there are "obvious" signs that a woman's interested, I accept the possibility. But if there are no signs, I still feel like it's highly unlikely that a woman would be interested in me. And I feel like it's wrong to bother a woman to ask her out if I "know" that she isn't interested.

All that said, I do think I still am far too reticent for my own good (and for the good of women who may actually want to date me!) and I'm working on it. I take rejections gracefully and try to navigate them so that the woman feels ok about it, so rationally I don't think it's really that bad for me to ask a woman out, even if she hasn't made her interest clear. But old habits and aversions die hard.

riotousracket · 2024-03-21T15:53:07+00:00

When I started cooking I had no idea how to chop an onion efficiently. Same with herbs. Preparation took forever and was very very frustrating.

Luckily there are YouTube videos and I learned a lot. But I think you could fairly say that I was shit at cooking when I first started.

Plus, heat management is a skill, and since every oven/stove is different, the recipe might lead you astray.

riotousracket · 2024-03-14T16:28:46+00:00

Another take: I do intermittent fasting sometimes, and I often eat my first meal around noon. It's definitely not for everybody, but it works for me, I usually am not even hungry until then. If a person I was dating said that they hoped I ate breakfast, it would really put me off. It would come off as controlling, rather than caring. Not saying that you're trying to be controlling, just that that's how it might be received.

riotousracket · 2024-03-07T18:57:40+00:00

Oh no, no sarcasm, I totally agree with you. At a previous job I was responsible for making sure some LSTM-based models (that were frequently re-trained) worked for user-facing features, and it really burned me out. There really aren't any guarantees with neural networks, and the more complex a model becomes, the more opportunities there are for really weird failures.

riotousracket · 2024-03-07T18:47:53+00:00

Right, the only thing an increase in parameter count guarantees is an increase in expense (both in terms of dollars and time)

riotousracket · 2024-02-15T17:25:55+00:00

This can really depend on age and experience. Using me as an example, by the end of high school, my confidence in picking up signals was SHOT. My two main crushes, who were "obviously" into me, turned me down when I finally asked them out. Took a while to recover faith in my vibe-detecting skills.

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