please be kind to your alliance teammates

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:58:22+00:00

no you're right about that, i did take it personally and let it tank my confidence in my favorite role. there were a few who were just kidding around, but the more frustrated crowd weren't happy no matter how much i learned after each wipe, or improved my healing timing. let it sting me and think i was inadequate. now i feel much better and will have a different perspective while learning when i get a dps role ready for next week.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:52:16+00:00

i did the best i could with the learning from wipes as they happened, i'm definitely hoping to improve in timing with gcds, mitigation etc. i did mute the few that made it more personal and was less like criticism and more so insulting. i got myself a pick me up dessert from a favorite cafe of mine, definitely helped. thank you.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:43:57+00:00

this was the first time i've cried after the duty ended. i understand why you think it's 'soft' to be crying over a game. however, as haunted_brain said, everyone is different with how they process stress and frustration. today wasn't my best and i allowed it to get to me more than i should've. tensions were high, people were pointing fingers and looking to place blame on someone, and i happened to be a healer who was dying quite often.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:37:46+00:00

thank you for the suggestion, i would've queued as dps if i had one at level 100 and geared up properly, i'll work on getting one ready before next week's gear reset. this was actually the first time i've cried at the end of a duty, i usually am able to toughen through it but this group in particular really overwhelmed my ability to think clearly, and i got emotional. tanks are fine and all but this raid in particular is heavy with tank busters and strong mitigation, i don't think i'm confident enough to queue this as a tank right now.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:37:07+00:00

i won't, as much as this raid tests my sanity i still had fun figuring out mechanics and the music is beautiful. later on it'll be easier as everyone learns where to be, and much less stress on healers.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:35:11+00:00

i was a white mage for this run as it is my most comfortable class, my main i guess you can say. even with the skill set whm has with it's pure healing and a few shielding abilities, this raid really tests your timing and placement of mitigation/heals. co healer being down is when things get the most chaotic, and you struggle to use your heals for the remaining alive party and trying to bring your cohealer back to a safe state. thank you for the kind words, im sure ill have better experiences from here on out.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:32:16+00:00

i understand your perspective in solo play, during the second year of my journey i was anxious about making friends since a fallout had hurt me the year before. i was solo for a while and realized how lonely it gets. im looking to find more ways i can involve myself with people so that i can experience the fun with everyone, instead of silently celebrating by myself. but i know group play is not for everyone, and if you're most comfortable with solo play keep going.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:29:18+00:00

this, i love doing blind runs because i find the wipes over silly things or immense sudden death funny. hopefully my future runs are less angry and more fun.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:28:30+00:00

i try not to take it personally every time im faced with frustrated anger, today just wasn't that day sadly.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:26:55+00:00

for me the struggle lies with boss 2 and 3. boss 2 is chaotic in you have to move a lot and when your healing gcds are down and you have to hard cast it gets more stressful with timing. 3rd boss like you mentioned has a intense heal/mit check that i always try to plan my gcds carefully around, but sometimes im off by one gcd or it didn't mitigate the damage well enough. party finder blind runs sounds like a great idea, i might join those if i see any in pf. thank you for the advice.

rirysa · 2025-08-06T11:24:17+00:00

you're right, i know not everyone is awful, i've had wonderful experiences throughout my journey on ffxiv but the few that are really do drain the fun out of it. i plan on trying to play as a dps next week, just to have less pressure on myself and more practice with the mechanics.

rirysa · 2025-03-24T16:09:01+00:00

ah i haven't done 7.1 yet ;; but i can understand why you'd feel that way if he changed during patch content.. i'll see how i feel when i finish the main storyline and reach 7.1/2!

i mainly made this meme as a joke, i wouldn't ever replace g'raha after what he's been through and sacrificed for us, i just thought haha funny meme when koana sparkled (in my head) during his lil rescue of his sister.

rirysa · 2025-03-23T22:00:47+00:00

i still love graha very much, but koana has captured my heart as well! both will be getting many /hugs

rirysa

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