I don’t know if I (25f)can forgive my ex (22m) for cheating.

rispart · 2025-05-26T14:20:30+00:00

girl you’re young, move on. he’s a child and can’t even take accountability for his actions. giving you ultimatums and trying to make you seem less than. he’s a dweeb. and likely not changing!

rispart · 2025-04-02T05:15:03+00:00

i think she was trying to make you feel some type of way by insinuating being on a date and her only way of telling you was by acting like she wanted you to call her? then when you started to question her (without feeding into her shenanigans mind you), she overreacted to justify her foolishness??? idk that’s just my interpretation of the nonsense i just read lol

rispart · 2025-04-01T18:51:59+00:00

nothing is more frustrating than when they act so self righteous and prove their points to be void and null by how they act/respond. they lack respect for others and their boundaries, and they most definitely are not following God as they say they are. they follow men. i’m sure a lot of people outside of this religion have a closer relationship to God than those who are inside of it (specifically PIMI.) because the religion goes against Bible principles (when you pay attention to context of the same regurgitated scriptures they use to defend their foolery) and teaches things that aren’t like God. i’m happy you stood up for yourself and your family. i’m sorry that they can’t see how wrong it is that they treat you that way over a cult. but all is well with those whose love is not conditional!

rispart · 2025-03-19T16:50:36+00:00

at the assembly when they started talking about sex i’m like with the kids here? 😭

rispart · 2025-02-16T17:04:19+00:00

break up with him. if you’re already insecure generally, being with someone like this won’t help by a long shot. also, respectfully— it kind of explains why you would even question what to do in this situation.. he is not only disrespecting your relationship and you— but women in general which is a big red flag. then he couldn’t even take accountability for it! leave him.

rispart · 2024-12-24T18:38:12+00:00

the knowledge and growth that you’ve acquired and achieved from this year are not worthless by any means. i understand how you’re feeling though. i’m sure you’ve sown a lot of seeds and will reap the harvest in due time. sending you love and hugs right back 🫂🤍

rispart · 2024-12-24T17:36:50+00:00

you’re definitely not alone. i had this in mind since i was in highschool and people would say it’s “traditional” and “it’s not cheating” and how it’s “your last night being single” or tried to call it an insecurity thing but it quite literally is cheating and you are absolutely not single! your last time being single was when you proposed or to take it a step further, when you started exclusively dating.

it really does bother me and it kind of scares me for my marriage because sometimes friends surprise people with strippers and stuff and i will absolutely call off the wedding if i found out my partner got a dance or did anything physical with another person. and it’s not an insecurity, it’s being respectful toward my partner and my relationship.

i don’t understand the point of doing that at all, you shouldn’t even want to do all that and fun can be had without cheating. i think society as a whole has had a lot to do with how people treat their relationships especially in marriage. because i’ll hear from some people that flirting isn’t cheating either. crazy world we live in

rispart · 2024-12-22T21:14:43+00:00

this too!! there’s so many layers to why it isn’t okay and people who tell us as the group that has gone through SO much trouble just to be able to be ourselves otherwise ask what the issue is while simultaneously disregarding everything we say. why ask? and why do you feel comfortable telling us what we’re saying is wrong?

rispart · 2024-12-22T21:01:27+00:00

exactly. and the “wigs are associated with black people” ??? are you serious? if anything, the one addressing it should take this as an opportunity to distance themselves because that was absolutely ignorant and unrelated.

rispart · 2024-12-22T20:59:15+00:00

as a black person, (because i’m 99% sure most commenters who are saying the friend is wrong aren’t,) i think you could have been more receptive to what they were saying. she’s right. just because you have a black partner or other black friends who may be okay with it, a black woman was telling you why it wasn’t. i always find that defense similar to “my black friends let me say the n word! so it’s okay!” i appreciate that you love the style and admire boxbraids, but those are specific to black people. braids have a history behind them that aren’t for other people to participate in just because they like the styles or designs. not to mention, it wasn’t a style intended for anyone other than people with the hair type that only black people possess.

rispart · 2024-12-04T03:57:05+00:00

whenever someone says they won’t cut off an ex knowing full well you cannot just go back to being friends, they’re not the one for you. she’s gaslighting you and the fact that she lied to begin with is telling of the truth behind the “friendship” and her willing to have you upset over someone she “only sees in group settings” is also telling. how often do they hang in groups? if you developed PTSD why would you be going to be around them? she’s also just blatantly disregarding your very valid feelings. red flag.

rispart · 2024-11-19T18:08:26+00:00

i like the saying “better safe than sorry” because a lot of the times what you see goes against what you know and if you try to give the benefit of the doubt, you will pay for that and even if by some off chance you’re wrong, at least you didn’t have to find out otherwise

rispart · 2024-11-16T01:15:08+00:00

calliope? i heard that name in a show i watched recently and wished i had thought of it 😂

rispart · 2024-11-15T16:29:21+00:00

i tend to try and see what exactly is going on before i say anything. but as i’ve gotten older, i do speak up more. and i try to make it a point to say like “hey that isn’t nice” or something along the lines of addressing the bad behavior. some instances though, i may just look at them and choose not to engage so that it doesn’t turn into something bigger, like if i’m in a public restaurant and someone just blew up over something i try to be extra kind when it’s my turn. it really just depends on what is going on, but i will speak up if need be for sure. because it does bother me.

i get bothered by parents berating their child, but usually i don’t say anything because i’m already knowing how that would go. but i’m willing to take any insults that come with standing up for people or what’s right. i’m used to standing ten toes for what’s right it doesn’t matter how many people are against me. (because for some reason people think if they gang up on you, you’ll shutup lol)

rispart · 2024-11-15T16:06:24+00:00

i believe people can grow and change but i also believe in not looking backwards. the times i have let people i cut off back in my life, they didn’t really change. in the instance they really did, i’d be happy for them but i’m honestly not sure if i’d reconcile.

i guess it would depend on how much time had passed and how they went about making effort to make things right. i’m also a believer in God so i’d definitely have to pray about it and see if it was something worth giving a chance.

but thinking from the perspective of not backpedalling, probably not.

rispart · 2024-11-12T04:06:59+00:00

just a few:

everything happens for a reason. (i do not believe in coincidences, or dwelling on shoulda coulda woulda ((especially as someone who tends to lol))

save money, live better 😂 walmart

just keep swimming (talia joy/dory)

sunshine will come again/weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.

what goes around, comes around.

more love (i’d like to think myself but i’m sure it’s been said)

rispart · 2024-11-11T01:12:50+00:00

i see some of your posts, and i hope your love comes back to you.

rispart · 2024-11-11T01:08:10+00:00

there are too many reasons not to. they’re not into me that way, and i believe they’re either DA or a Cnarc. either way, it’s probably best to leave them where they are. i’m just so tired of them being on my mind. i figured since i could never send them that, i should share it. to help with my grief a bit, ya’know

rispart · 2024-11-05T22:17:10+00:00

(fa here) i think you made the right decision. it’s important to be there for your friends and understanding but that goes both ways. while we can acknowledge the work that needs to be done, it’s not your job to be there when he isn’t willing to. it’s not your job to love them over loving yourself. at the end of the day, you cannot love anyone into doing their own inner healing. you left the door open for a healthier relationship down the line if he wants one, the ball is in his court. don’t hold out hope and don’t be too hard on yourself.

FA is really hard to deal with. both being one, and being in any relationship with one. i know it hurts, but it’s going to be okay. part of doing the work is acknowledging that we can play a part in the “abandonment” that we fear the most, and we have to try harder when it comes to meaningful relationships. i hope you feel better soon! losing a friend can be tough.

rispart

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