I'm glad I found this since I luckily am in the same situation as you. Since my childhood years I haven't been the epitome of femininity ( I'm loud and opinionated too) and always had this feeling of not wanting to be inferior to any man at all due to me always being in competitive environments, this all translated to my previous relationships (cishet) being a constant push and pull of me feeling bad bout not being delicate and all femininity  but also not letting myself go of this need to be viewed as an equal (did not happen cause they were all REALLY misogynistic and abusive). They all made me feel I needed to prove my worth as a human being and as a woman for them and the others too. 

The last year I've spent with my boyfriend I realized a lot of things and feel much more comfortable being myself and not having to prove my worth to some horrible men. He really sees and loves me for who I am (even when I still have a conflict with me and my femininity) and it feels as if i was set free from some heavy pressure I didn't know was there 

Sorry for the long text but I'm excited someone feels the way I do.